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Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/16/2007 2:05:18 PM   
all4yourplsr


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Status: offline 		was it insulting for me to be lazy about doing a project a Mistress I know asked me to do?   And, should I take it as a test that she is giving me little jobs even though she does not own me YET?

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/16/2007 2:09:10 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		It depends on her perspective and your perspective. It's a really hard question for an outside party to answer.

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/16/2007 2:13:30 PM   
drawntothedark


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Status: offline 		Maybe you should ask yourself why you were lazy. You say she doesn't own you yet. This sounds to me like you two have discussed ownership. So, why than would you NOT do what she asked you to do. (Now if it was something against your limites yada yada, than I understand) but if it was just....."hey can you research something for me on the internet", than IMO you should have. If you have discussed being owned by her and would like to be owned by her, what sort of impression do you think she has of you now?

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/16/2007 2:26:09 PM   
gretchenS


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Status: offline 		Can't really tell either. It all depends on what have you discussed with her.

But if I were a Mistress, I probably would discuss it before hand with the potential slave or sub, and consider a few light tasks for him to do, because, in the end, I would like to be sure that said slave/sub soon to be owned, will acomplish his duties in our future relationship.

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/16/2007 2:29:28 PM   
missturbation


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Status: offline 		was it insulting for me to be lazy about doing a project a Mistress I know asked me to do?
I'd find it insulting that you couldn't be bothered yes.
If you had genuinely forgotten or not had the time i could accept it but not laziness.
However i'm not a mistress so what do i know?

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/16/2007 2:38:35 PM   
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quote:

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was it insulting for me to be lazy about doing a project a Mistress I know asked me to do?   And, should I take it as a test that she is giving me little jobs even though she does not own me YET?

ed


I wouldn't ask a submissive to do something for me unless we were working towards a relationship where ownership was a key component. Laziness would cause me to nix any hope right quick because if someone is too lazy to work 'towards' the relationship, they're going to be just as lazy to work towards maintaining the relationship.

YMMV

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/16/2007 2:45:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		maybe i would not use the word insulting but it you wont get brownie points from me if you are lazy.


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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/16/2007 2:53:30 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		My opinion is pretty much the same as Celeste and CT.

IF someone is trying to win my affections, blowing me off is not going to accomplish it. It will however accomplish annoying me and getting passed on by.

This happened to me recently. The task I gave was very simple and I was very generous in the time I gave. Obviously the person was not as serious as they had initially led me to believe. Their loss.


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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/16/2007 3:04:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		Is it something that you agreed to do?  If you said you would do it, and you didn't, isn't it reasonable to expect that she would feel insulted?  If t's not something you agreed to do, she has no right to feel insulted.

Which is it?

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/16/2007 3:31:21 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		If you gave your word about doing a project and haven't, no matter who it was for, I'd see it as a chink in your honesty and integrity. Make your word mean something. If you find that you simply can't do, or have changed your mind about doing the project, be honest say so. It doesn't have anything to do with whether or not she owns you. "Be a impeccable with your word," one of the Mayan Four Agreements. If I were her, I'd really notice this kind of thing.

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/16/2007 3:40:06 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		Unless she's your boss (cuz we can always scam the boss a bit), I'd be working on that project and way to make up for my laziness.  However, if that's your attitude, dude, she'll prolly never own you.

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/16/2007 3:43:01 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		It kinda messes with another one also "Always do your best".

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/16/2007 3:46:52 PM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		If we've spoken about ownership, then yes I wouldn't find it insulting but dis-respectful.

Who wants a submissive who doesn't respect them?

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/16/2007 4:07:58 PM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		I agree with what Celeste had to say.

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/16/2007 4:18:48 PM   
Kondolinni


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Status: offline 		I have to wonder sometimes about a post that offers such limited real information. It strikes me that it could mean anything from a submissive witholding information out of shame or to avoid persecution/punishment, to someone posting a topic that they made up, just to start a thread. It's really hard to comment with so little provided in either case.

I personally never issue orders to a submissive online, or during a phone call. Such aspects of power exchange only have meaning face-to-face for me.

That said, I also agree with the sentiments expressed here that I will, to a certain extent pre-qualify a prospective submissive. That may, and usually does involve little tasks. I like a show of willingness. I like to know a girl I am considering wants to please me. To encourage this allows a Dom/Domme to establish a base of information about a whole lot of things regarding his/her submissive. That this should be so should come as no surprise, for example, to any submissive who had given me any reason to believe, furing the initial contact, that they were experienced in/very interested in D/s submissive behavior.

So, for you to indicate an apparent unwillingness to follow through with the task assigned, especially as it seems (you , far from, clearly indicate otherwise, and frankly, if you didn't agree to do it, I don't understand the dilemna) you agreed to get it done.

If this is the case, I don't see how you can expect the reaction of the Domme to be anything but negative.

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/16/2007 4:21:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		Anytime I give a sub/slave My address to come over, it is with the understanding that W/we are going to get to know each other and start training online.  If I tell them to do something and they don't do it even though they have been asked to let Me know if there are any problems and I still don't hear, they'll find themselves blocked.

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/16/2007 11:22:21 PM   
littlesarbonn


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Status: offline 		In my present situation I find myself in today, my current dominant of attention doesn't own me yet, but when she asks me to do something, I go out of my way to make sure that I do the best job I can. I want her to be happy with me, and I want her to be happy in general. I figure that if I continue doing the best job I can with whatever task she sets before me, eventually she will see in me, and us, a relationship that leads to a collaring that both of us will mutually agree with and benefit from.

I don't think I would ever succeed with a woman if I ever took the attitude that if she doesn't own me, I'll do the job halfheartedly rather than with full gusto to make sure the job is done right. The secret of success, in my belief, is NOT trying to achieve a later state of achievement but to relish the current relationship by giving it as much attention and respect as if it was the best relationship you could ever achieve. Right now, I may not be "literally" owned, but I'm a person of "attention", and that's how it starts with every relationship, and I'm craving more and more of the right here and now, rather than what could be or might be.


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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/17/2007 2:31:28 AM   
greeneyes1962


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Status: offline 		depends: are you trying to develop a deeper relationship with said Domme? this might be a small test She is wanting you to perform to show your seriousness.

my Dom had me perform small tasks after we first met, before we became serious about each other. it helped me in my submissiveness to Him, and it let Him know whether i could comply with his requests in a timely, and dedicated manner.


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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/17/2007 2:50:09 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: all4yourplsr

was it insulting for me to be lazy about doing a project a Mistress I know asked me to do?   And, should I take it as a test that she is giving me little jobs even though she does not own me YET?

ed


What chance do you think you have of her deciding she wants to own you if you are lazy about working at keeping her interest?

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/17/2007 2:57:51 AM   
HCWT1


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Status: offline 		all4yourplsr,

Shakes head sideways in your direction.Comments like that,tend to give all subs a bad name.Makes me wonder what it is you really seek.

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