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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/17/2007 3:11:56 AM   
julietsierra


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all4yourplsr,

Shakes head sideways in your direction.Comments like that,tend to give all subs a bad name.Makes me wonder what it is you really seek.


Well, I don't know about a "bad name," but in a world where male submissives have the hardest time finding someone, it just seems more than a bit like shooting one's self in the foot.

Here is a guy who proclaims "I am looking for a Domme to control my every move and thought. I will do anything to please and live for my Mistresses pleasure and use... " and yet when the opportunity presents itself, shows his ass and balks.

I don't know about lazy or insulting, but it sure does smack of being disingenuous - not to mention in this search of his - just plain not very smart!

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/17/2007 3:46:25 AM   
HCWT1


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Looking at it from my point(a sub).If its true,why would you even post it.Guilt,i dont think so.the only thing i can think of is,maybe the Dom in question has ordered him to.If it be so,maybe all is not lost.

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/17/2007 7:02:07 AM   
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We don't know enough to make a judgment. If you've only talked to her once online then it was wrong of her to start giving you orders. If you're unsure of whether or not you feel the connection you need that's something else. If you're unsure if she truly is the dominant you need, then testing her to see her response is certainly normal. Talk to her about it but try to figure out what your motives were.

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/17/2007 7:54:39 AM   
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Talk to her about it.

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/17/2007 7:59:48 AM   
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was it insulting for me to be lazy about doing a project a Mistress I know asked me to do? And, should I take it as a test that she is giving me little jobs even though she does not own me YET?

ed


First if you are talking about being owned by someone and that someone gives you a chore to do I'd say it is a test. Why should she own you if you can't do something in the "trying out" phase?

However if this turns into multiple tasks, I'd consider it a scam to get work without committment.

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/17/2007 8:10:25 AM   
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If I asked a sub/slave to do something and they outright didn't do it, that would cause Me to be upset. There would be consequences for their actions. If I was looking at this person as a potentional partner it would be even a bigger deal. I would tell Her why you didn't do it and hope for forgiveness.
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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/17/2007 11:44:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: all4yourplsr

was it insulting for me to be lazy about doing a project a Mistress I know asked me to do?   And, should I take it as a test that she is giving me little jobs even though she does not own me YET?

ed


The fact that you are using the word "YET" in your post, indicates to Me that this is an ongoing exploration to see if full ownership might be in your future. 
Yes, I assign small, not difficult, tasks with a reasonable deadline.  If I get excuses, then I walk away. 
If this is a serious question then I would say you should take this as as a test and you failed.  Most of the Dominas I know, including Myself, would do this sort of thing.  It makes much more sense than asking for "tribute" to prove sincerity.  I would rather know you are who you say you are, and willing to do those services with a smile than accept $50 and say that proves you are sincere.  I see way too much of "you don't own Me yet, so I will continue to do what I feel like doing, but it will be different when  you own me".  C'mon! It's not insulting, it's just disrespectful.  And when we are looking at relationships that are supposed to be based on Domination and willing submission, a lack of respect goes along way towards a very big "No Thanks".

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RE: Although She doesn't own me as of yet, - 1/17/2007 12:58:01 PM   
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quote:

was it insulting for me to be lazy about doing a project a Mistress I know asked me to do?   And, should I take it as a test that she is giving me little jobs even though she does not own me YET?


The "YET" tells me you are under consideration. You have said you did not do the project out of laziness. These two things, were you mine, would end our association immediately. If there is more to know, then it would behove you to edit your post and include that information.
 
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