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tribute? - 1/16/2007 9:19:40 PM   
freetime05


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Status: offline 		Is a mistress asking for a tribute to prove you are real a scam artist or is that standard?
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RE: tribute? - 1/16/2007 9:45:16 PM   
all4yourplsr


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Status: offline 		I think it's a scam.  Once they get your money, they don't need you anymore. 

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RE: tribute? - 1/16/2007 9:47:53 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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Status: offline 		Could be either or...   I would imagine that talking to or meeting someone should not require tributing.   I would imagine that if you are simply yourself, a respectful gentleman, you ought to be able to attract a lady's attention enough for her to want to get to know you better without demanding gifts which sort of makes it a non gift.  Work on your courtship skills, and the rest should fall into place

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 I am looking for a dominant female to spend some discrete time with
As your profile says this, I'm wondering if she is saying "what do I get out of this?"  Are you married/otherwise unavailable and only looking for hook ups for play/sex?   While you may find some women are into that, most women won't do you if there's no up side for her.    Just my thoughts,   M

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RE: tribute? - 1/16/2007 10:41:31 PM   
topkat757


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Status: offline 		most men do pay tribute but don't realize it at all.   tributes from men come in many froms women in one way or another. Either by out out word affection and our complements of their beauty. We also show tribute to them by special attension in dates, flowers, in taking them out byuying them dinner drinks and all the things that make them happy and conten to stay in their good graces 

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RE: tribute? - 1/16/2007 10:49:30 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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Status: offline 		Oh I know, and good for you that you know as well...  It would seem to me that the men who've already discovered this fact don't worry about fake/real tribute on the other side, nor do they get taken for a ride without their consent.   M

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RE: tribute? - 1/17/2007 12:45:49 AM   
undergroundsea


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Status: offline 		I think it occurs both as a scam or not. More often, I am skeptical about the matter. And in either case, it is a manner in which I do not wish to pursue a dialog or relationship.

My approach is also tied to the type of relationship I primarily seek. For some relationships, the tribute concept is more relevant.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: tribute? - 1/17/2007 12:54:25 AM   
DominaSnow


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Status: offline 		I require an deposit in the form of paying the interview fee up front. But then, I am a reasonably well-known professional with a reputation. The fee is simply to secure time and date for an appointment, and to make sure I am not wasting my time on wankers, literally.

More often than not, non-professional "Dommes" (and I use the word with alleged meaning) will require money for a host of reasons; some are scams, while others are simply weeding through the hundreds of emails. If you are worried about a Domme's authenticity, ask for references or info about her background. It would seem abnormal to me that a woman without a D/s or professional background would demand tribute.

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RE: tribute? - 1/17/2007 4:40:14 AM   
jimbo747


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Status: offline 		it's not always standard nor is it necessarily a scam

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RE: tribute? - 1/17/2007 8:03:49 AM   
openmindedslave


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Status: offline 		I see some Mistresses who  never asked for a tribute now demanding one out of frustration. As you can how long many  Mistreses have been on this site, you can also read in many profiles the frustrations they have been put throught with  the lack of respect they have endured. And when I talk about  respect , I am talking about  so called slaves and subs , promising to specnd the day  and not showing up,  the  preperations  of their time and  efforts that is totally wasted by  people who don't even  call to  say their not  going to be there or plans need to change.

Tribute, for lack of better word , to some represents the greater chance they will show up or that they will appreciate the time  that she has made for them. Speaking to some Mistresses as friends, many would never consider  asking for tribute in the form of  cash for their time, but would be very  accepting of a gift such as  going out to dinner, maybe  having their hair done or simply  offering to help with some repairs around the home as a form of  giving back or simple appreciation for their efforts latter. One Mistress who left here of dispair just wanted someone to help her with some home repairs before any involvement occured. Now that meant that the sub/slave did not have to be an expert in home repairs because of the level of jobs she had . It mean' that the sub/slave had to give more than a lunch break of his life to her. That's all. And if you ask any real Mistress,  there is usually alot of preperation that occurs before the sub/slave ever gets there. Does any one ever appreciate that?

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RE: tribute? - 1/17/2007 10:43:03 AM   
SlaveSubtoserve


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Status: offline 		Yes i have had meets with non-pro Dommes who just wanted an initial tribute as a reflection on my seriousness and then none thereafter which was fine when treated that way-- as their view was that if this was going to be a continued relationship then there was no need for continued pecuniary contributions beyond the normal semi-formal dating protocols.

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RE: tribute? - 1/17/2007 11:20:30 AM   
GoddessDustyGold


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Status: offline 		Welcome to the forums, freetime05. 
 
You have been a member of this site for 1 week now.  Sounds possible that you are busy in the chatrooms and looking for someone, anyone, to make your cock twitch.  Sorry to be so blunt, but this is what I would see in your profile. And if I had an email from you I would probably ignore it, or put you on the spot regarding what you mean by that word "discreet", and why you say you are not looking for sex, yet the "training" you indicate you want is pretty damn sexual in nature.  Your line also:
 
quote:

I have had several dom/sub sessions and want more
 
 
does not leave a good taste in My mouth. 
 
Along with:
 
quote:

I am interested in women of all colors and am very open minded. 
 
would make Me think that anyone will do??  It doesn't do much to make Me feel very special. 
 
I would not ask you for tribute to prove your sincerity, because I would not be interested in your presentation in
the first place.  But pay attention to who you are trying to connect with.  Are they basically Dominas who would be more in the professional realm, or are they cutey girls who say they are dominants but are really only after some play time, for which you will have to pay.  Your offer of changing light bulbs or working in the yard almost seems an afterthought and comes off, to Me, as a bargaining chip.  Most of us are seeking a warm relationship that extends beyond the "I clean your yard for two hours and then you haul out your strap-on" scenario you seem to be offering.
 
Good luck.

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RE: tribute? - 1/17/2007 11:25:22 AM   
hammernhoney


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Status: offline 		IT could be either but many use a tribute to weed the chafe from the wheat.....HH

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RE: tribute? - 1/18/2007 9:58:20 AM   
demistress


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Status: offline 		I am real, I require tribute before I invest my time or emotions in someone the vast majority of the time.  *shrug* YMMV

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RE: tribute? - 1/18/2007 6:12:39 PM   
GuidingLite


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Status: offline 		I agree with what you wrote.  Alot of people say they will show up and dont.  They just waste your time.

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RE: tribute? - 1/19/2007 4:39:26 AM   
DiannaVesta


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quote:

ORIGINAL: hammernhoney

IT could be either but many use a tribute to weed the chafe from the wheat.....HH


hey sexy lady!

I agree with this. It depends on the woman and what she brings to the table. I'm just not available to spend countless hours online with a guy that THINKS he wants to be my slave.


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RE: tribute? - 1/19/2007 7:41:00 AM   
alwayzron


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quote:

Once they get your money, they don't need you anymore. 


Too funny ... most Dommes I know will tell you they don't "need" you anyway.



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RE: tribute? - 1/19/2007 8:31:42 AM   
lateralist1


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Status: offline 		I'm just very tired of being treated as a pro Domme without any payment.
I am also very tired of men wanting to put me on a pedestal.
I am also fed-up of them wanting me to be selfish or standoffish or too arrogant.
I am a proud intelligent woman looking for a submissive partner or partners to have a loving sexual D/s BDSM relationship with.
I refuse to act like a spoilt brat.
I refuse to be a cock teaser in vanilla terms.
I certainly refuse to indulge in some 'play' which turns some men on.
It would humiliate me more than them.
I don't want my slaves 'playing' together.
And I am certainly not going to talk to anyone about my sexuality in detail before we meet ever again.
Neither am I going to pick up some man at a club and play with him.
D/s is the way I conduct my most personal relationships because I am a dominant woman.
BDSM is my sexuality.
I am obviously not unique in that.
However most of what some men seem to want has got absolutely nothing to do with either D/s or BDSM.
Rather it is kinky sex.
I like some forms of kinky sex and if a man is truly submissive to me and I have accepted him as a true slave then I will train him to accept/perform/enjoy the forms of kinky sex that I enjoy.
I respect all people until they do something that loses my respect for them.
I expect others to respect me in the same way.
It is a lack of respect to just stop talking to someone when you find out that they are not giving you what you want.
Good manners dictate that you say thankyou for the converstaion but I am not continuing it for this or that reason.
Of course if anyone thinks I am wrong then please do point it out to me.





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RE: tribute? - 1/19/2007 8:51:10 AM   
littlesarbonn


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

quote:

ORIGINAL: hammernhoney

IT could be either but many use a tribute to weed the chafe from the wheat.....HH


hey sexy lady!

I agree with this. It depends on the woman and what she brings to the table. I'm just not available to spend countless hours online with a guy that THINKS he wants to be my slave.



There's a sidebar to this that I think I would like to add here. Knowing GDV and her experience and reputation in the community, if I was approaching her for the first time, and in order to spend further time, taking away from her valuable time, I was to contribute a token amount to prove I'm sincere, especially if she didn't know me from anyone else, I would have very little problem with it. That's because she HAS a reputation that proves to me she's real, she's sincere, and knowing what I know, she's pretty damn good at what she does and in everything she believes in.

The problem with tributes I find most of the time is that someone with no reputation, but maybe a hot picture, wants $50 or so in order to continue a conversation. When I was in Michigan, and I first joined Collarme.com, I saw an advertisement that seemed really sincere from a very, very beautiful woman who was located in my city. So, breaking my normal trend (that still hasn't really changed to this day), I wrote her a message, explaining my experience, perspective and what value I could bring to the table as the service submissive that I sincerely am. She responded with less than a one line response indicating that to continue the conversation, I needed to send her $75. Needless to say, we didn't continue the conversation. She has since disappeared from the site, but that honestly doesn't surprise me.

This is the dichotomy that a submissive needs to exist within. If you are contacting someone you already respect, someone like the Dianna Vestas, Tammy Jos, or Akashas, or any other number of people who are solid individuals who you know are exactly as they claim to be because of YEARS of interaction that proves who they are, then that whole tribute thing shouldn't be an issue. And it's not surprising to me that the more known, solid repuation people tend not to be the ones that people complain about when it comes to tributes. There's a reason they are respected, and in my opinion, it has little or nothing to do with money issues. It has to do with consistency, knowledge and honesty that you know you can trust them to be the same people tomorrow that they were yesterday.


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RE: tribute? - 1/19/2007 9:35:51 AM   
MistressSassy66


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quote:

ORIGINAL: all4yourplsr

I think it's a scam.  Once they get your money, they don't need you anymore. 


No....WE need your money all the time.

I'm kidding BTW.I dont need it...I just like getting it.

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RE: tribute? - 1/19/2007 4:54:02 PM   
openmindedslave


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Status: offline 		I was just  writing to someone about  a new profile that has a very young woman who says she is a prodom. Okay  thats fine. She even commented that she just opened a paypal account for on line  training. Again okay..The problem I saw her say is she will dom somebody over the internet but she does not have a cam. Nothing personal , but how do I even know its a woman since she can't go out and buy a cam , but she take the money from a pay pal account from a guy...


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