Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

RE: Those lost chances...lessons hopefully learned


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Those lost chances...lessons hopefully learned Page: <<   < prev  1 [2]
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: Those lost chances...lessons hopefully learned - 1/17/2007 6:19:47 PM   
HatesParisHilton


Posts: 3513
Joined: 12/27/2006
Status: offline 		well said, wonderfully expressed, wish you happiness and all the best.

_____________________________

I am (now) "Hiltie", hear me ROARRRRR! And have a cuffy cake, they're nice.

(in reply to CreativeDominant)
Profile   Post #: 21
RE: Those lost chances...lessons hopefully learned - 1/17/2007 6:20:06 PM   
LTRsubNW


Posts: 1604
Joined: 5/6/2006
Status: offline 		I actually never made any mistakes.

_____________________________

Small deeds will always mean more than large intentions.

(in reply to littlesarbonn)
Profile   Post #: 22
RE: Those lost chances...lessons hopefully learned - 1/17/2007 7:37:16 PM   
Vendaval


Posts: 10297
Joined: 1/15/2005
Status: offline 		A big thank you to both little sarbonn and MasterFireMaam
for sharing their life experience and wisdom here.

_____________________________

"Beware, the woods at night, beware the lunar light.
So in this gray haze we'll be meating again, and on that
great day, I will tease you all the same."
"WOLF MOON", OCTOBER RUST, TYPE O NEGATIVE


http://KinkMeet.co.uk

(in reply to littlesarbonn)
Profile   Post #: 23
RE: Those lost chances...lessons hopefully learned - 1/18/2007 7:14:20 AM   
Dnomyar


Posts: 7933
Joined: 6/27/2005
Status: offline 		When I first started reading this post I though good grief another long boring post. But this is one of the best post I have read on here so far. I used to have a complex about why did she pick me. I got over it. Im  more aggressive now and I figure why not me. As far as wanting to change past mistakes. Why? Consider them learning experiences. Things happen for a reason.

(in reply to Vendaval)
Profile   Post #: 24
RE: Those lost chances...lessons hopefully learned - 1/18/2007 11:14:43 AM   
SassySue


Posts: 54
Joined: 2/12/2006
Status: offline 		littlesarbonn, I've always found you fascinating.  Now, even more so for your insight. 

(in reply to Dnomyar)
Profile   Post #: 25
RE: Those lost chances...lessons hopefully learned - 1/18/2007 5:03:19 PM   
BraceletMe


Posts: 23
Joined: 3/9/2004
Status: offline 		Well done - I don't post very often (because most of them would just end up being about the frustration of trying to meet a domme) but I read posts sometimes (more often lately, it seems) and I have noticed yours in the past.
 
Just wanted to say I think I can relate to how you're feeling - I know what it's like living across the country (Tucson) where there is basically no scene after living where there was one (NYC for 19 years).  Sounded like you had a pretty good thing going as a live-in slave kept in a cage each and every night - sounds intriguing to me since bondage is one of my main interests.
 
As for "lost chances" and wishing one had done things differently, I'm not sure what else I could have done differently over the years, at least not to any great degree (of course, we can all think of specific instances here or there that we'd like to address over again).

(in reply to littlesarbonn)
Profile   Post #: 26
RE: Those lost chances...lessons hopefully learned - 1/18/2007 5:11:50 PM   
BraceletMe


Posts: 23
Joined: 3/9/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

3) Everyone "abandons" you eventually. People come and go. This is not a bad thing.


I have to say I especially found this comment to be thought-provoking as I've been struggling with this whole idea over the past ten years or so.  One really has to try not to think too much about the people that "went" but it is hard not to do when there are memories of better times and things aren't going as well in the present.  Everyone abandons you eventually?  I don't know, that's harsh but it may be true for some people who do not have a significant other or a close family.  As far as people coming and going and it not being a bad thing, there is probably a lot of truth in that and I am going to try and adopt that mindset.

(in reply to MasterFireMaam)
Profile   Post #: 27
RE: Those lost chances...lessons hopefully learned - 1/18/2007 5:23:36 PM   
BraceletMe


Posts: 23
Joined: 3/9/2004
Status: offline 		Nice post - I particularly liked points 3, 5 and 6.

Other people matter - just that general point.  Not only here but everywhere - more people than not don't live their lives by this tenet, in my opinion.

I am what I am - agreed one should not change their basic core (provided it's a good one).  "Don't tell me all that is wrong with me based on your life and your observations of mine" - if that ain't the truth!  Not so much from friends but more from family - and what gets me is the person never knows what he or she is talking about and I personally never try to tell someone what they should or shouldn't be doing.  How would I know?  I'm not living their life.

Your other point that I liked was about being fair and not expecting someone to put in twice the effort into a relationship that you do yourself.

< Message edited by BraceletMe -- 1/18/2007 5:25:26 PM >

(in reply to CreativeDominant)
Profile   Post #: 28
RE: Those lost chances...lessons hopefully learned - 1/19/2007 12:41:17 PM   
littlesarbonn


Posts: 1710
Joined: 12/3/2005
From: Stockton, California
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: SassySue

littlesarbonn, I've always found you fascinating.  Now, even more so for your insight. 


Thank you. That was very nice of you to say.


_____________________________

<---- FYI, this picture looks JUST like me


http://www.littlesarbonn.com/Stickman/Stickman.htm
The Adventures of Stickman and the Unemployed Lego Spaceman

(in reply to SassySue)
Profile   Post #: 29
RE: Those lost chances...lessons hopefully learned - 1/20/2007 12:37:24 AM   
obis


Posts: 412
Joined: 9/9/2005
From: Austin, TX, USA
Status: offline 		If littlesarbon were a woman, or we were both gay, I would be buying plane tickets :)

I'm in one of those times of my life where I'm looking at lessons learned and being pleased at how much I've changed and grown to become more of the person I want to be. It's unfortunate that wisdom is such a painful process and I can't help but wonder how life would be had I made the right choices the first time in some relationships.

I can say that an opportunity for a second chance has fallen into my lap. We both made many of these mistakes the first time around, and have learned from them in our time apart. I had cursed myself so many times for the errors I made, and bemoaned my fate over the errors she made, and despite the joyful memories I had I often wondered if we would have been happier had we never met when we did. Now that we're trying again, I see how necessary the first time was, and how thankful I am that we made those mistakes together and have a more realistic understanding of our strength and limitations. If we had simply met later and learned from mistakes with others, I don't know that we would appreciate how much we are both capable of improving as people when we have disappointed someone we love.

This is definitely a thread to be saved and read again from time to time. I think it's easy for us to forget how much we have in common, even the mistakes and pains that are so personal are shared by everyone.

(in reply to littlesarbonn)
Profile   Post #: 30
RE: Those lost chances...lessons hopefully learned - 1/20/2007 4:43:52 AM   
MsSonnetMarwood


Posts: 1898
Joined: 2/10/2005
From: Eastern Shore, Maryland
Status: offline 		Great post Obis.

I think the one constant in relationships is that we will sooner or later fuck up royally.   The question is where you go from there - what you learn about both the situation, yourself, and how to "do better" next time.

_____________________________

~Ms. Sonnet Marwood~

Deja Moo: The feeling you've heard this bull somewhere before.

(in reply to obis)
Profile   Post #: 31
RE: Those lost chances...lessons hopefully learned - 1/20/2007 6:28:45 AM   
Caitriona


Posts: 327
Joined: 8/28/2006
Status: offline 		I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who posted in this thread - it takes a lot of strength to be so honest with oneself.  There are a lot of excellent points I will be pondering from this thread.  Thanks again!

_____________________________

Property of Shadowraven
Serving alongside ciarra

(in reply to MsSonnetMarwood)
Profile   Post #: 32
RE: Those lost chances...lessons hopefully learned - 1/20/2007 10:31:15 AM   
SassySue


Posts: 54
Joined: 2/12/2006
Status: offline 		It was well meant.  If you find yourself in NY, let's have coffee.

(in reply to Caitriona)
Profile   Post #: 33
Page:   <<   < prev  1 [2]
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Those lost chances...lessons hopefully learned Page: <<   < prev  1 [2]
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.092