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Just wondering - 1/17/2007 12:34:24 PM   
Squeakers


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Status: offline 		    I've been pondering this question for quite sometime and just want to know if anyone has ever felt this way.  
   Has anyone ever experienced a D/s relationship with a Dom(me)  which has left them so fullfilled that in the event that the relationship were to end either by choice or death that they would not feel a need to seek another partner?   Even though I have posted this in ask a sub, the question could pertain to a Dom(me) or a switch as well.  
  
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RE: Just wondering - 1/17/2007 3:14:47 PM   
Jinger


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Status: offline 		I'd be very unhappy if my Domme broke up with me. But I suppose I'd have to move on, it wouldn't be fair for everyone else! *grin*
I have indeed felt that way...not sure if I feel it all the time now but I can relate.

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RE: Just wondering - 1/17/2007 3:22:14 PM   
MysticFireTopaz


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Squeakers
   I've been pondering this question for quite sometime and just want to know if anyone has ever felt this way.  
  Has anyone ever experienced a D/s relationship with a Dom(me)  which has left them so fullfilled that in the event that the relationship were to end either by choice or death that they would not feel a need to seek another partner?   Even though I have posted this in ask a sub, the question could pertain to a Dom(me) or a switch as well.     


Nope.  I'm a Domme and have never experienced a relationship like that. 
 
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RE: Just wondering - 1/17/2007 3:31:29 PM   
asassylilslave


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RE: Just wondering - 1/17/2007 4:54:21 PM   
mymasterssub69


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Status: offline 		i would be heartbroken if Daddy were to orphan me for another daughter. i probably would leave the lifestyle forever because i wouldn't have the heart to seek another Daddy/Dom

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RE: Just wondering - 1/17/2007 5:24:10 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		The answer to the question that begins "Does anyone..?" is always yes.

Yes, I feel that way, and my relationship is vanilla based.

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RE: Just wondering - 1/17/2007 6:13:42 PM   
BDSM05478


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yup feel that way about my husband. If for whatever reason we were no longer together, I am not sure I would want to put in the same amount of time, trust and commitment with another.

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RE: Just wondering - 1/17/2007 8:27:55 PM   
darksdesire


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Status: offline 		Yes.  If I lost him, I could not imagine ever wanting another man in my life.  

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RE: Just wondering - 1/18/2007 1:10:55 AM   
slavegirl1969


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Status: offline 		Would have to hold my hands up to this one.  Not only have I found a Master I am totally in awe of but also a love that knows no bounds.  It has taken me nearly 20 years to find someone I feel this way for and can't imagine life without him

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RE: Just wondering - 1/18/2007 1:16:47 AM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		Master will likely pass before I do.  We have spoken of this.  I said no one will own me again.  He said "But you need to submit."  I said perhaps, but no one will own me as he does.  I may submit to someone in my future (not as a slave), but I will never let anyone into those areas in me where he resides.  That would be tresspassing. When he goes, part of me goes with him.  Therefore, no Master could ever own all of me.

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RE: Just wondering - 1/18/2007 1:24:03 AM   
slavegirl1969


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Status: offline 		Having a moment - answered wrong thread

< Message edited by slavegirl1969 -- 1/18/2007 1:30:50 AM >

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RE: Just wondering - 1/18/2007 1:59:11 AM   
raeanha


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Status: offline 		Daddy was part of me for four years. I hope I find someone someday, but do not really expect that I will. For me, now, it's not a question of having been so fullfilled that I don't need another daddy. There's a huge hole in my world. I'm living a grey, lukewarm existance. I just don't imagine that degree of emotional intimacy will ever happen again as a matter of fact rather than design.

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RE: Just wondering - 1/18/2007 4:21:40 AM   
Squeakers


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Status: offline 		lol LA, you are right the answer would always be yes but it's not always easy to find those yes answers.  
Honestly, I expected to find very few who felt this way.  
Sometimes the need in this lifestyle is so great that this need would dictate moving on.   I've been in the need to move on phase several times.   

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RE: Just wondering - 1/18/2007 7:33:13 AM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		I think that no one could really answer this question unless they had experienced it. We can think we would know what we would do, but unless someone lived out the rest of their days alone,  and died,  how do they know? I mean someone may take 5 yrs or 10 yrs to find a new person, so it is impossible for us to know.

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RE: Just wondering - 1/18/2007 7:34:16 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

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lol LA, you are right the answer would always be yes but it's not always easy to find those yes answers.  
Honestly, I expected to find very few who felt this way.  
Sometimes the need in this lifestyle is so great that this need would dictate moving on.   I've been in the need to move on phase several times.   

Well yes, we must always move on to who we will become.

Unfortunately, most people are simply running away from their problems and don't give two thoughts to staying true to themselves.  They run to bdsm M/s because it makes them feel all fuzzy.  Then they get hit hard and they run back to vanilla life because that now feels "safe" to them.

I could care less what lifestyle a person chooses or how often they change their minds- but the choice needs to be made from a place of strength and remaining true to themselves, not out of fear and pain.

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RE: Just wondering - 1/18/2007 7:49:43 AM   
onestandingstill


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Status: offline 		I felt that loyal in my first D/s relationship that was very rocky. I was sure once free I'd not want to be owned again. I even pushed a lot of good men away for three months over my conviction.
Sir Rob stood before me and I fought myself constantly from that minute forward for three weeks and then gave in and began dating him.
A month into dating him I had given him my heart to hold. It was an internal struggle to stay single I lost without a word within myself.
Never say never, sometimes the best way to help yourself is to not help yourself or do what you think you should at all but rather the opposite.
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RE: Just wondering - 1/21/2007 10:24:43 AM   
jcolbert14


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jinger

I'd be very unhappy if my Domme broke up with me. But I suppose I'd have to move on, it wouldn't be fair for everyone else! *grin*
I have indeed felt that way...not sure if I feel it all the time now but I can relate.


I feel that if it was a long relationship (6 months or more) then I would be upset and may take a break to examine myself more.  I might move on to another Domme, but I would be very selective.

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RE: Just wondering - 1/22/2007 9:41:36 AM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		I can't imagine finding another Dom. I won't say it will not happen because I've learned not to ever predict the future. However, he would have to be someone really incredible to ever come close to what I have right now.

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RE: Just wondering - 1/22/2007 9:44:13 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Never say never.
I firmly believe that there is more than one compatible person for each of us.  We are fluid and changing.  What was fulfilling to me 20 years ago isn't today.  I think it's best to leave a door open for opporunity.


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RE: Just wondering - 1/22/2007 10:54:31 AM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		Ok, so you are so fulfilled with your dominant you can think of no other.  Nobody to ever take the place.
Now your dominant is dead.  You are no longer fulfilled but empty.  In time your heart will heal and you will be able to move on.
Would you still remain empty the rest of your natural life?  Condemning yourself to lonliness?
Allow your life to diminiss until you die all alone, cold and miserable because you didn't care enough about yourself to do something about it?

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