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chrissyslave -> RE: PREDATOR WARNINGS????? (1/22/2007 9:30:53 PM)
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Well, as a newbie sub/slave I WOULD like to know the general signs of a predator person in general (say #1-#7 or so) as to their initial contact with me, and what questions I might ask to ferret out whether that is the case with an Dom/Master or so claimed person. But ONLY after first reading a good definition of what one is (or are we in fact just dancing on a line that other's do a line-dance on?). I assume that either they greatly decieve a sub/slave intentionally to cause them to put themselves in a vunerable position, especially woman, and violative key agreements and even do significant harm and even rape.
Short of the most extreme cases rather than a list of so called "predators"as some imply "take my word this is one for all" label, I'd rather read someone saying he/she (someone in my area) intentional violated my known limits once I was in a position I could not protect myself and safe words/signs were ignored. Then that to me is worth noting and mentioning even if not giving the exact name of the person. We can then take that for what it sounds like if enough specifics is offered.
Of course if too far over a hard line and does strong physical or physiological damage with total disregard then by all means name names and let them defend themselves if they dare to openly. If so, I would however prefer to see this in a special topics section than spread out all over the forum. And better yet possibly see if the forum would remove the "predator" from the site, or suspend them if legal action was in fact pending as well based on some gross abuse. Fact is since some people do make contact (many) with others from far distances, and even move to their location (a few) then to know something critical upfront if true would be useful. And no doubt by now some predators do disguise themselves well, and lie like hell. This kind of activity was just mentioned on another part of this forum and was a rape,or more, by a repeat abuser and has largely impacted the well being of the women in a local BDSM group in that area.
I do try to be reasonably smart with my own questioning and not jump into anything, even play, without some good evidence they are who they say they are, their experience and intent, and their methods and goals in the longer run. However I know at times that alone is not enough. But I'd like to think that the owners of this significant forum would have a way to take complaints, log them, and if someone over time got enough or the wrong type then they would remove them from the group forever. Is this avenue available?
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