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Controlling your slave - 1/22/2007 10:44:19 PM   
MasterHXB


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Status: offline 		What do you control and what do you not control in your slave's life?
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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/22/2007 10:52:20 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		This is a VERY open ended question and will vary greatly from person to person. It'd be a lot easier to answer if you could ask something specific.

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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/22/2007 11:18:18 PM   
Kinkypupper


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Status: offline 		I control everything, However her input, desires and interests are a large part of any decision.


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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/23/2007 12:20:43 AM   
BitaTruble


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Status: offline 		In the small bit of the universe which we inhabit, he controls the way the Earth rotates, when the rain falls, where the lightening strikes and when the birds are allowed to sing, indeed if there are any birds allowed at all.

It's a very, very small universe. Right now, there are only two of us in it although we are getting to know someone who has glimpsed a bit of it and may join us here. 

Celeste



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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/23/2007 2:59:02 AM   
swtnsparkling


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Status: offline 		Pardon me.
I just looked at your profile. 32 years experience ?
so you began at 16? and everything is marked Expert
yet some of the questions you post - come off sounding like
you dont know very much  and want to get answers from others

I could  be reading things wrong
its just how I'm seeing it

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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/23/2007 3:11:32 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		If i may add my prespective as a submissive?  Personally i can't release control over something for which the Master will not be responsible.  How much control should be equal to the amount of responsibility in my humble opinion.  

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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/23/2007 4:43:31 AM   
RavenMuse


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Status: offline 		Control? Or ACTIVE control?

I have control over every part of My girls life, there is nothing, no part off limits to Me. Where ever she is making decisions it is because I have not made that decision for her... sometimes through necessity (Maybe I am not there), othertimes through choise (If she is doing well at something why would I need to stop her? If it isn't broke, don't fix it)

ACTIVE control, where I am hands on, making the decision for her, imposing My rules, holding her to My expectations... that varies from day to day, the situation we are both in, if I see a problem then I will adress that problem, if I see something I would enjoy I will act on that want.

There is a big diffrence in what I COULD do given the amount of control I have in our relationship and what I DO do  given many factors such as what and where it is responcible of Me to excersise that control, wether I see a need or yes, where I it pleases Me to or not.

I have a person in My collar, not a mindless robot. she can function well making her own decisions and where I don't choose to make decisions for her, she still functions just fine in those areas. But it works for us because I can and do take up control in other areas, either as a constant, or for a time whilst I address something specific, or for maybe a shorter time where I maybe feeling playful and use that control for either both or pleasure or simply just for My own!


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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/23/2007 5:05:45 AM   
LeatherBentOne


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterHXB

What do you control and what do you not control in your slave's life?


The list of what I DON"T control is shorter than the list of what I do, so hear goes:

Her money
Her job
Her relationship with her family
Her relationship with her friends

I'm not adverse to advising her and giving her my suggestions on these matters, but only if she asks my opinion.  If she was being harmed in any way by her own choices, I'd surely not wait for an invitation to intervene.

LBO

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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/23/2007 5:12:43 AM   
RavenMuse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LeatherBentOne
Her money
Her job
Her relationship with her family
Her relationship with her friends

I'm not adverse to advising her and giving her my suggestions on these matters, but only if she asks my opinion.  If she was being harmed in any way by her own choices, I'd surely not wait for an invitation to intervene.


*g* From that list I would say we have quite similar aproaches. The main diffrence being that the fact they ARE under My control is explicit in My relationship.... but that I see no need to take ACTIVE control because of who I am and so far I have seen no problems in those areas, she handles those things well without Me doing so for her.


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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/23/2007 5:18:42 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		When we are together, I control every aspect of our time. I trust Angel enough that when we are not together, I do not have to concern myself with actively controlling what he does. He has his rules and he can be trusted to abide by them even if Iam not there overseeing things.
In short, I have the ability to control everything. I chose not to excercise that ability on a day to day basis. Micromanagement just isnt for me.

DV

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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/23/2007 6:05:03 AM   
LeatherBentOne


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

quote:

ORIGINAL: LeatherBentOne
Her money
Her job
Her relationship with her family
Her relationship with her friends

I'm not adverse to advising her and giving her my suggestions on these matters, but only if she asks my opinion.  If she was being harmed in any way by her own choices, I'd surely not wait for an invitation to intervene.


*g* From that list I would say we have quite similar aproaches. The main diffrence being that the fact they ARE under My control is explicit in My relationship.... but that I see no need to take ACTIVE control because of who I am and so far I have seen no problems in those areas, she handles those things well without Me doing so for her.



Yes, we do have much in common from reading posts for quite some time.  It's always a pleasure to see like minds.  Doesn't seem too happen too often.  Maybe cuz we're too damn old, ya think?

LBO

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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/23/2007 8:30:29 AM   
Lashra


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LeatherBentOne
The list of what I DON"T control is shorter than the list of what I do, so hear goes:

Her money
Her job
Her relationship with her family
Her relationship with her friends

I'm not adverse to advising her and giving her my suggestions on these matters, but only if she asks my opinion.  If she was being harmed in any way by her own choices, I'd surely not wait for an invitation to intervene.

LBO

This list goes for me as well and I have no real desire to control any of those. I feel he is a grown adult and should be able to make some decisions on his own. One problem he does have is budgeting and I am working with him on that, but he still has the final say as to how he spends his money. I can advise him to steer one way or the other but ultimately he decides in these categories.

~Lashra


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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/23/2007 8:33:58 AM   
tangldupinblue


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Status: offline 		more important to Daddy is the way i control myself when away from him.

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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/23/2007 8:46:56 AM   
LordVelvet


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Status: offline 		My list is shorter but the concept is the same. But I REALLY liked what tangldupinblue said.
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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/23/2007 7:00:44 PM   
MasterGremlin


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Status: offline 		I control everything on a macro level. And only trouble areas on a micro level. I'm dominate in nature but a shitty babysitter.

Here is an example of how we make things work. In conversation we decided that we needed to get more active (middle age body spread and tv addiction started to set in), no control there we both came to the same decision together. I signed us up for the gym and started a blog site to get us into hiking (www.hiking-california.com), she had no control over this part. I came up with the game plan to achieve our goal and dictated it to her. My sub's issues usually resolve around procrastination and just plain getting started. I set a time for her to get up and go to the gym (micro control at the trouble spot) but she chooses her routine at the gym. She has more knowledge of her body and what exercises work best for her (point where I'm not going to babysit).

Control issues are decided based upon her weaknesses and not a set script.

MG


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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/23/2007 11:17:21 PM   
MasterHXB


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Status: offline 		I control her 24/7, but I don't control my slave's money, Her career, who she wants to be friends with specially if she knew them before I took over. I if I'm asked to take over her money matter or other parts of her life I  don't control. Then I will. My slave can speak to anybody online as long as they respect she she is an owned slave.

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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/24/2007 3:52:53 AM   
kyraofMists


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Status: offline 		He has authority over whatever he wants, there is no aspect of my life that is off limits.  Some days he chooses to exercise quite a bit of authority; other days he delegates that authority back to me for a period of time.

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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/24/2007 8:33:07 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: eyesopened

If i may add my prespective as a submissive?  Personally i can't release control over something for which the Master will not be responsible.  How much control should be equal to the amount of responsibility in my humble opinion.  


Excellent point.

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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/24/2007 8:42:54 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LeatherBentOne
Her money
Her job
Her relationship with her family
Her relationship with her friends

I'm not adverse to advising her and giving her my suggestions on these matters, but only if she asks my opinion.  If she was being harmed in any way by her own choices, I'd surely not wait for an invitation to intervene.

.........

Yes, we do have much in common from reading posts for quite some time.  It's always a pleasure to see like minds.  Doesn't seem too happen too often.  Maybe cuz we're too damn old, ya think?

LBO


I wouldn't say it's age. My own dominant takes a similar approach to controlling me. These are also the areas where he leaves things up to my own discretion.

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Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

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RE: Controlling your slave - 1/24/2007 11:37:45 AM   
LeatherBentOne


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Status: offline 		Thanks for your post but I was just kidding about the age thing.

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