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RE: Tired of the BDSM rules - 1/25/2007 6:35:05 PM

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At that time, I was being traded around. The domme I was traded to was into more videos than the Mistress who originally collared me and with whom I just had the falling out. The past few months I had been traded among a few different dommes for different purposes.

But no, the one who made me a star was one who I was on loan to.

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RE: Tired of the BDSM rules - 1/25/2007 6:39:25 PM

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From my experience, it is rare that women are into golden, roman, ruby or brown showers. This type of activity seems to be geared more towards males as recievers. Some women like to perform it on males, but even then some of these same women have a saturation point where it becomes too much. Men seem to have a higher tolerance for it.

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RE: Tired of the BDSM rules - 1/25/2007 6:40:21 PM

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Were you allowed to talk freely to the dommes you were on loan too? You were pretty proud, if I remember correctly, in that thread.

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RE: Tired of the BDSM rules - 1/25/2007 7:52:44 PM

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As others have said, it sounds as though you are not well suited to one another, but not as though you are not well suited for BDSM. Many people wouldn't mind a social sub/slave. I do not believe that introversion or extroversion have much to do with being Dom or sub. I think you could find examples of people in all combinations of these. If you could communicate with her about these issues and come to some arrangement, that would be great. If you can't communicate about these issues, then that adds a whole ne level of how your current relationship is not working. Communicationis key to making any relationship work. Good luck!

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RE: Tired of the BDSM rules - 1/25/2007 8:13:57 PM

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Has anyone else ever gone through this? Is it just the monogamy versus poly mentality? Introvert versus extrovert? Any feedback would be appreciated.

nope its the i am domme and this is how i want you to look in public or in front of her friends.

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RE: Tired of the BDSM rules - 1/25/2007 8:38:10 PM

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Yes, I was like a kid in a candy store. I had found heaven and was really enjoying it. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to be the social person I truly am. I did speak to them on a limited basis. Some of them told my original Mistress that I spoke a little too much and was trying to be a little too familiar. Supposedly that is a big no-no for a sub or slave.

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RE: Tired of the BDSM rules - 1/25/2007 8:39:39 PM

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It's over. The communications will never happen.

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RE: Tired of the BDSM rules - 1/26/2007 12:37:51 PM

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Having been a poly who lived with a monogamous male, outside of a Ds relationship, I found it very taxing as he often felt the same way your mistress does. With him, I was monogamous but because he knew I was, and had been, poly, he was constantly wary as if I would cheat.

Poly =/= Cheater.

It was part of what led to our break up BUT that didn't mean I gave up on males all together. You just have to seek out the one right for you. Same with mistresses.

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