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RE: Answering and advising Problems - 1/26/2007 5:56:45 AM   
Wolfspet


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I have been in my M/s relationship for over 18 years.  Please pray tell just what you think you can advise us on.

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RE: Answering and advising Problems - 1/26/2007 6:24:10 AM   
lateralist1


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Status: offline 		I actually would like some advice. How do you tell the difference between a sub/slave and a bottom?
ie someone who wants a D/s relationship and someone who wants to play?
I would have posted but I was afraid of getting laughed at.
Apart from the fact that I haven't figured out how to post yet.
Also how can you tell when someone is joking or not?

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RE: Answering and advising Problems - 1/26/2007 6:31:07 AM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		Having read over the posts, I think the OP's heart is in the right place but I just don't think the service is needed. As we've seen before, anyone who wants to post a question, but doesn't want us to know who they are, can make a new handle. And, even with my limited time of being active on the forums, I can personally vouch that shy people do bring their concerns to someone whose advice they trust based on what they read here, having been both the asker and the askee.

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RE: Answering and advising Problems - 1/26/2007 6:37:32 AM   
RedSavageSlave


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lateralist1

Also how can you tell when someone is joking or not?


If everyone else is laughing or puts those funny faces on their posts like these....

              

they might be joking.

edited to add:

I dont know why that red faced guy never comes out right for me...dammit~

< Message edited by RedSavageSlave -- 1/26/2007 6:41:18 AM >

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RE: Answering and advising Problems - 1/26/2007 6:43:22 AM   
mnottertail


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Fuckin' DDDDDDDDDUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUHHHHHHHH!

Sorry ASK; I shoulda let you handle that one.

Ron 


< Message edited by mnottertail -- 1/26/2007 6:47:29 AM >

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RE: Answering and advising Problems - 1/26/2007 7:01:09 AM   
RavenMuse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lateralist1
Also how can you tell when someone is joking or not?


Doms NEVER joke. We all have our sense of humour surgicaly removed at birth, doncha know!


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RE: Answering and advising Problems - 1/26/2007 7:19:03 AM   
MadRabbit


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quote:

ORIGINAL: AskAboutBDSM

About what I offer...
Well for that look back at all the postings and replies to my topic.
My profile nor my post were neither harmful, insulting, aggressive, rude, or anything other than simple honest and upfront about who I am and why I'm here.
I understood that my not being proven, or my complete and total masking of who I am would cause people to question me, not believe me or what I have to offer. But Complete and utter Mockery? I guess Maturity and respect are too much to hope for these days.  I'm only offering to help people.  Guess the only way people can get help is if they air their dirty laundry for all to see.



I am sure my second post about my SM Advice Hotline would seem rather immature at first glance, but my intention was to make a serious and clear point to all the newbies you are trying to help as to why I dont ask questions to anonymous profiles who suddenly appear one day, claiming to have many years of experience without any credentials, and offering advice and help that would influence matters in my own personal and love life.

As I said in my first post, you set yourself up for this one. Welcome to the world of Internet message boards! There is the 50% who use the boards for a little shot of ego booster from slapping their own ass and mocking those who know less and are inferior to them, the 30% who come to read their own bullshit, and the 20% who actually provide helpful and useful information (L.A. and MasterFireMaam are two examples of people who have made a large impression on me with their intiellgent and useful posts).

Personally, I rarely ever post any of my own questions here solely for that reason. I sometimes post replies with my own opinions and theories in a humble attempt to be helpful when I have something to say that pertains to my own experiences (But only occassionally do I actually know what I am talking about, hence why I only have made 55 posts over roughly half a year). If I need advice, however, I have a few mentor types from the local communities that I know, trust, and respect who are more than happy to help me. I rather get real advice from them on the first try then weed threw 200 posts of utter crap.

But the people I WOULD ask advice from off Collarme.com are people who have a substantial track record of educated and intiellgent posts on the forums and I can safely say that they actually know what they are talking about. I look forward to reading your future posts and hopefully you will develop that track record as well so I can list you as an Internet entity you can safely ask for realistic advice from.

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RE: Answering and advising Problems - 1/26/2007 9:59:22 AM   
angaothsi


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RE: Answering and advising Problems - 1/26/2007 11:05:43 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Yes there are people here who are too timid to post but still have questions. Assuming that using the search button doesn't give them the info they seek, they have a much better way of handling it than emailing some schlub with no idea about him. They read posts and find someone whose thinking and advice they like and that's who they email.

When I was new, I emailed other subs and asked them questions and always received a positive response. These days I occasionally get mail from new subs who find my thoughts to resonate with them. I always respond politely, sometimes I can offer a view they haven't thought of and sometimes I can't. But they know what they're getting from me because of my posts.

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RE: Answering and advising Problems - 1/27/2007 6:55:11 PM   
catize


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quote:

 Doms NEVER joke. We all have our sense of humour surgicaly removed at birth, doncha know! 


And Masters were not born with it at all!?!

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RE: Answering and advising Problems - 1/28/2007 2:02:38 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

slaves are not allowed to display anger.....

Fuckin' DDDDDDDDDUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUHHHHHHHH!

Sorry ASK; I shoulda let you handle that one.

Ron 



Ron...you are too much

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RE: Answering and advising Problems - 1/28/2007 2:05:37 AM   
RedSavageSlave


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ORIGINAL: angaothsi

I like candy....can I get in your car to eat it?


hehehehe

<opens passenger door to two toned green AMC pacer with no inside handles and driver side door lock>

hop in sweetcakes

the car description was taken from my memory of my first "crush's" vehicle when I was sixteen..made quite the impression LOL

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RE: Answering and advising Problems - 1/28/2007 4:59:19 AM   
SweetCaleigh


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*sweet caleigh*

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RE: Answering and advising Problems - 1/28/2007 11:33:54 PM   
patina


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quote:

ORIGINAL: catize

quote:

 Doms NEVER joke. We all have our sense of humour surgicaly removed at birth, doncha know! 


And Masters were not born with it at all!?!


I completely agree with both statements 

Patina

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RE: Answering and advising Problems - 1/28/2007 11:48:46 PM   
angaothsi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RedSavageSlave

<opens passenger door to two toned green AMC pacer with no inside handles and driver side door lock>

hop in sweetcakes

the car description was taken from my memory of my first "crush's" vehicle when I was sixteen..made quite the impression LOL


Oh goody! I like green!

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RE: Answering and advising Problems - 2/1/2007 2:53:01 PM   
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