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SmokingGun82 -> RE: Life Priorities (1/29/2007 7:29:14 PM)

Are there more important criteria? Sure.

But if you had to choose between those two criteria, which would you choose? The question wasn't "Aren't these the two most important things ever? Yes? Now which is more important?"

Come now... let's not pick everything apart tonight. I had enough of that at work.



BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Life Priorities (1/29/2007 7:36:46 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: julietsierra

I'll take.... um...door #.. oh hey, what was that star trek maneuver called when there are no good options so they make a third one?


Kobayashi maru [8|]



ownedgirlie -> RE: Life Priorities (1/29/2007 8:38:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Which is more important:

Knowing you will orgasm on command every time?

Or knowing they will call and arrive on time to every date unless there's a sincere emergency which you will be informed of?


Haven't read the other replies yet.  Number one, of course.  The first option is my requirement and service to him.  The second is merely a convenience to me.  If he is late, or simply doesn't show, I go merely along.  If I am unable to perform that which he has come to expect from me, something is wrong.



domiguy -> RE: Life Priorities (1/29/2007 9:44:33 PM)

If  I come on time...It's the least you could do.

out.

D.G.

p.s. Jesus please protect me from your followers.



cloudboy -> RE: Life Priorities (1/29/2007 9:47:56 PM)

A little bit of unknowing is a part of all relationships and experiences, and its what keeps them fresh. As for priorities, I'm hoping to improve my first serve for the upcoming outdoor tennis season.



greeneyes1962 -> RE: Life Priorities (1/30/2007 12:35:09 AM)

option B, because quality time with the one i love is far more important to me than any activity we might participate in.



Mercnbeth -> RE: Life Priorities (1/30/2007 12:52:06 AM)

ok, LA, this slave will play!!!! and pick the first option for the same reason as ownedgirlie gave:
 
quote:

The first option is my requirement and service to him.  The second is merely a convenience to me...orig: ownedgirlie


and a little extra:
the first option is a knowing that mentally reinforces for this slave that Master is calling the shots and is pleased.  important to this slave because this is an activity Master enjoys regularly.
 
the second option would be a knowing that a commonly accepted form of social etiquette was being obeyed by Master with regards to His slave, which, while nice, is outside of the realm of things this slave puts importance on.



MasterNdorei -> RE: Life Priorities (1/30/2007 12:59:59 AM)

i agree with owned girlie, and cast my vote for #1.

Master's dorei



BitaTruble -> RE: Life Priorities (1/30/2007 1:40:47 AM)

~FR~

quote:

Which is more important:

Knowing you will orgasm on command every time?

Or knowing they will call and arrive on time to every date unless there's a sincere emergency which you will be informed of?


I've never been able to orgasm on command, however, I read that more as a question of obedience and 'if' I could, then I would and it is very important for me to obey every time despite the trivial, temporary nature of orgasms. :)

I didn't enter into D/s for peace of mind ... I entered into it to obey him, so by default, I choose option #1.

Celeste



julietsierra -> RE: Life Priorities (1/30/2007 2:47:16 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SmokingGun82

Are there more important criteria? Sure.

But if you had to choose between those two criteria, which would you choose? The question wasn't "Aren't these the two most important things ever? Yes? Now which is more important?"

Come now... let's not pick everything apart tonight. I had enough of that at work.



That's why I answered with the door #1 comment at the end.

But, I'd also like to explain my desire for a third choice.
You see, to me, it seems there is something inherently self-centered involved in picking door #1 - as well as door #2 for that matter.

In both these cases, the choices seem to be all about me, and while I value me, I value my relationship as its own entity more, superceding both him and me. So, if my Master is late or falls asleep or whatever, then after I'm sure he's all right, I simply find something else to do until he can get to me. He's not making me feel disrespected or unwanted or anything like that for being late or having to cancel. He's just late or needs to cancel. I don't really attach any kind of personal affront to it.

Consequently, door #2 isn't a good fit.

And if all I care about is cumming, then that's self-centered as well and if that's all I'm thinking about, then I need a hobby.

So, door #1 isn't a good fit either.

That's why I opt for the star trek thingy.

juliet




julietsierra -> RE: Life Priorities (1/30/2007 2:48:29 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

quote:

ORIGINAL: julietsierra

I'll take.... um...door #.. oh hey, what was that star trek maneuver called when there are no good options so they make a third one?


Kobayashi maru [8|]



Oooh! Thank you! That's it exactly! It was right there at the tip of my tongue but wouldn't get past my teeth (or fingers as the case may be).

juliet



agirl -> RE: Life Priorities (1/30/2007 7:07:51 AM)



Given the two options, the first would matter more, though I wouldn't worry hugely about either.

I know what went into achieving the first and it's under his control. If he wants it to happen, it'll happen but I'm part of the *happening*.

As for the second option........well, if he's late, he's late. It hasn't got a lot to do with me.

agirl







asassylilslave -> RE: Life Priorities (1/30/2007 7:15:49 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Which is more important:

Knowing you will orgasm on command every time?

Or knowing they will call and arrive on time to every date unless there's a sincere emergency which you will be informed of?

Knowin that they are considerate enough to call if they are going to be late or have an emergency or that they will arrive for each scheduled 'date'. Arriving on time is not of a huge importance; I have been known to run late quite a bit.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Life Priorities (1/30/2007 7:36:51 AM)

Thanks to you all for some cool answers.  It was more just a jaded whimsy on my part to post and I tried to make it as blank a question as possible to avoid any of my (very real) bias coming into play.

I will say it's interesting that I think a lot of people took the question to be "pick one, to the exclusion of the other."  It was really "You can have both, but which would you consider more important."

Thanks again, and I would love to hear more.



ownedgirlie -> RE: Life Priorities (1/30/2007 7:38:07 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: julietsierra
You see, to me, it seems there is something inherently self-centered involved in picking door #1 - as well as door #2 for that matter.



In my case, the orgasms aren't for me, and do not belong to me.  Sometimes they are so intense I do not even enjoy them, but for the pleasure he derives from them.  If it were up to me, I would not be having orgasms at the various places he enjoys putting them in me.  In my case, self centered would be not having them.



hisannabelle -> RE: Life Priorities (1/30/2007 8:27:54 AM)

i must say that reading the replies is changing my view of this, so i think i'm retracting my earlier answer in favor of saying that i don't know, but i am enjoying reading, and thanks la for posting this. :)



slaphappynewb -> RE: Life Priorities (1/30/2007 9:57:51 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Devilslilsister


quote:

Not to be a stickler but the actual saying would be "cut off their noses to spite their face." It is a popular misconception / mistake to say despite.


and a <sticks out tongue> to you too!  i like the way i say it better.  Despite also means "in spite of"  among a few other things......  So while i agree the word i used does not fit the proper saying - that is just too darn bad, cos my word works too! 

if i've offend either of you, i'm going to have to get my dog to stick out her tongue too.  I've also 3 cats, so i am warning you that getting offended is a really bad idea........ you could end up with 5 critters sticking out their tongues and then what would you do?


Why would I be offended? insulted, that you would treat someone that was simply attempting to correct a pop culture misnomer, than yes. But I think that speaks more about you than me anyway so your welcome lilsister.



losttreasure -> RE: Life Priorities (1/30/2007 10:44:06 AM)

Without doubt or hesitation... knowing he will call and arrive on time to every date unless there's a sincere emergency of which I would be informed at the earliest possible moment.  [;)]

Edited to add:

quote:

ORIGINAL: julietsierra

quote:

ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

quote:

ORIGINAL: julietsierra

I'll take.... um...door #.. oh hey, what was that star trek maneuver called when there are no good options so they make a third one?


Kobayashi maru



Oooh! Thank you! That's it exactly! It was right there at the tip of my tongue but wouldn't get past my teeth (or fingers as the case may be).

juliet


I hate to tell you but the term "kobayashi maru" in the Star Trek universe equates to a no-win situation. 



daddysprop247 -> RE: Life Priorities (1/30/2007 10:51:03 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Which is more important:

Knowing you will orgasm on command every time?

Or knowing they will call and arrive on time to every date unless there's a sincere emergency which you will be informed of?



hmm. neither applies to my life.



Bearlee -> RE: Life Priorities (1/30/2007 11:15:53 AM)

Wow…interesting question, LA.
 
I’m with the post above me…and not sure how either applies to my life.  However, the man with whom I hope to partner, is polite.  If I were expecting him…he calls to say something has come up.  In the vanilla world I always tried to get guys to do this; their reply (to the man) was “I will not call you to ask permission”.  My new friend would not ask permission…just politely tell me his plans changed and not to wait.
 
As far as coming on command…I can’t imagine being able to do this.  Is it a type of hypnotism or conditioning?  I have no idea; but I will say that, if HE wanted me to come for him...on command or otherwise, that is what would be my priority (in your list of two.)
 
So…#1 is my choice.
 
bearlee



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