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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 7:49:55 AM   
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You know what the adage "The power flows from the bottom up"?  That's because of the law.  If it isn't a matter of choice, it stops being kink and becomes human atrocity.  I wouldn't have anything to do with a "kinkster" who was confused about which was which.  Such a person's intellect and ethics wouldn't make the cut for even a casual friend, and it wouldn't matter to me if such a person was a sub or dom.


That was a great observation!


The chilling thing I have found in the threads of this post is that there are people here who would welcome and embrace a return to legal slavery.

What I find curious are the people who aromatize slavery and find it a.....nobel, worthy ideal. And almost to a slave here, the owner or "master" is a caring, just and loving figure who's whole being is geared toward the care and protection of the slave or slaves who devote themselves to themselves to service for the greater good of the....dare I say, collective.

I wonder how many here who believe to the core of their existence that they are truly slaves would make a complete 180 if their owners decided that the best use for them would be manual labor in a asphalt plant?




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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 7:54:24 AM   
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I wonder how many here who believe to the core of their existence that they are truly slaves would make a complete 180 if their owners decided that the best use for them would be manual labor in a asphalt plant?

That's the beauty of consensuality- we choose the situation in which we feel most fulfilled in, that includes a master whose values and expectations we find resonant for ourselves.

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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 8:08:11 AM   
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That's the beauty of consensuality- we choose the situation in which we feel most fulfilled in, that includes a master whose values and expectations we find resonant for ourselves.


Here is the thing though LA.....

One needs to be sane to consent.






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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 8:46:26 AM   
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I'll use my standard answer.
 
There are lots of very intelligent and experienced people on here that consider themselves slaves. That I don't understand it or relate to it, doesn't mean it isn't true.

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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 9:16:04 AM   
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You can't define what it means to be a slave. Everyone is entitled to define what it means within the context of their relationship. It may or may not mean that you can be sold. But there isn't a historical basis to say you aren't a slave if you can't be sold as far as BDSM is concerned. You're trying to relate other forms of slavery to BDSM slavery but they're not the same.

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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 9:34:21 AM   
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Interesting question, if it was to pay off a debt that was owed, someone originally had to take on that debt willingly, though circumstances in life do make borrowing money necessary, a person still has to consent to borrow that money.

Given the fact that indentured servitude (slavery) was a valid and known way to pay off said debt in this time period, that would be something the person borrowing the money would know before hand. He would know that there was a possiblity that if he couldn't pay off the money, he and his family could end up as indentured servants. Which makes the possiblity of indentured servitude (slavery) something that they are consenting to when they borrowed the money.

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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 10:08:41 AM   
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... And almost to a slave here, the owner or "master" is a caring, just and loving figure who's whole being is geared toward the care and protection of the slave or slaves who devote themselves to themselves to service for the greater good of the....dare I say, collective.



I may have missed it, but I didn't see where it was suggested 'almost to a slave' that the Owner's whole being was geared toward the care and protection of their slaves.  If you wouldn't mind, please point me to these many posts.  There's a big leap between saying an Owner cares for their property...evening lovingly...and stating that their whole being is geared toward it. 

I don't quite see the idea behind stating 'one has to be sane to consent', and it could be construde in many ways...many negative ways.  Could you please clarify your meaning so I might better understand your point?

Edited 'cause I fubar'd the quoting....yeesh.


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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 10:15:27 AM   
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I wonder how many here who believe to the core of their existence that they are truly slaves would make a complete 180 if their owners decided that the best use for them would be manual labor in a asphalt plant?





Himself utilizes me as he wishes and if he wanted me out there pouring asphalt, picking onions, painting houses, that's what I'd do. Beats scrubbing out toilets which I do every day. I work for him doing manual labor all the time and I'm not, at all, afraid of working hard. Where he has me work is of little consequence to me. I might not be any good at working at an asphalt plant (I've never worked in one, so I don't know.. I may be great at it!) but I would put forth my best effort if that's what he wanted me to do. He's loaned me out to do manual labor for other people .. like picking onions and cleaning their houses, helping people pack and move etc. I suspect the number who would do a 180 would be very low just because it involved a little hard work.

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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 10:33:07 AM   
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I've been following this thread and it just seems like a "here's how I'm going to prove that people aren't really a slave" and the OP has to continually change to different hypothetical situations with the goal of eventually getting to an "aha! I knew you weren't a slave" moment.  It all seems rather strange to me.

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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 10:40:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: FatDomDaddy

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ORIGINAL: MaryT

You know what the adage "The power flows from the bottom up"?  That's because of the law.  If it isn't a matter of choice, it stops being kink and becomes human atrocity.  I wouldn't have anything to do with a "kinkster" who was confused about which was which.  Such a person's intellect and ethics wouldn't make the cut for even a casual friend, and it wouldn't matter to me if such a person was a sub or dom.


That was a great observation!


The chilling thing I have found in the threads of this post is that there are people here who would welcome and embrace a return to legal slavery.

What I find curious are the people who aromatize slavery and find it a.....nobel, worthy ideal. And almost to a slave here, the owner or "master" is a caring, just and loving figure who's whole being is geared toward the care and protection of the slave or slaves who devote themselves to themselves to service for the greater good of the....dare I say, collective.

I wonder how many here who believe to the core of their existence that they are truly slaves would make a complete 180 if their owners decided that the best use for them would be manual labor in a asphalt plant?





I'm sure that some people find their *slavery* romantic, in part because they have romantic feelings toward their owners.....And why not?.....Enjoy.

I haven't noticed anything in the thread that suggests that people would *welcome and embrace* a return to legal non-consential slavery. If you meant legal consential slavery ......I haven't seen that suggested either.

While I consider my Master just and caring, it's laughable to imagine his *whole being* is geared toward MY care and protection; nor is MY whole being devoted to service to him.

I know that some folk say that they are *slave to the core of their existance* but it's a description, basically; a little like the * I was born to be a slave/submissive*.

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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 10:44:54 AM   
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 One needs to be sane to consent.  


Are you referring to the legal definition of sanity or the medical (psychiatric) definition? 

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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 12:12:16 PM   
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I wonder how many here who believe to the core of their existence that they are truly slaves would make a complete 180 if their owners decided that the best use for them would be manual labor in a asphalt plant?





Himself utilizes me as he wishes and if he wanted me out there pouring asphalt, picking onions, painting houses, that's what I'd do. Beats scrubbing out toilets which I do every day. I work for him doing manual labor all the time and I'm not, at all, afraid of working hard. Where he has me work is of little consequence to me. I might not be any good at working at an asphalt plant (I've never worked in one, so I don't know.. I may be great at it!) but I would put forth my best effort if that's what he wanted me to do. He's loaned me out to do manual labor for other people .. like picking onions and cleaning their houses, helping people pack and move etc. I suspect the number who would do a 180 would be very low just because it involved a little hard work.

Celeste


Forgive me if I sound naiive, and I am in no way meaning to be disrespectful or condescending, and I judge no one... but, where do you all live? Do people in the US really get sold off in a BDSM Master/slave sitatuion? Your Master (Owner, etc.) would send you to pave roads or pick onions or other manual labor type things? People get "traded" for anothers (other than your own Master) pleasures? Is that consensual or without your consent? Are your feelings for this other person or new situation taken into consideration (for example, you feel nothing for the new person or they repulse you somehow?)

Does ALL this stuff goes on, for real? I'm still very new to all of this, and I'm just a bit in shock... is all of this just hypothetical situations? I thought it only happened in books like The Marketplace series... LOL

I live in a major US city, and have tried to get involved in the local BDSM groups here, but, never made it to a meeting or anything because they are usually after work (never know when I am getting out of my office), or are too far away to get by public transit... but, if it means risking loosing or being sold by my "Papi" to another (as I call him) or being sent off to do asphalt work... I don't know if I'd want to go (not that I think he'd do this to me, his pet, he says that he enjoys my company too much -- I hope!, But, it's simply just to illustrate my point that I am in a bit of shock that any or all of this stuff goes on right under my own nose). I am just strictly curious.

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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 12:25:03 PM   
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Forgive me if I sound naiive, and I am in no way meaning to be disrespectful or condescending, but, where do you all live?


I live in MN now, but I used to live in California.

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Do people in the US really get sold off in a BDSM Master/slave sitatuion?


I don't know of anyone, personally, who has sold their slave nor do I know, personally, any slaves who have been sold. I do know and have myself been 'rented' several times, but never actually sold. :)

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Your Master (Owner, etc.) would send you to pave roads or pick onions or other manual labor type things?


He has never sent me to pave a road, but I've picked onions, cut apricots, cleaned other people's houses, written HTML code for websites, done personal and corporate income taxes and lots of other things all because Master told me to do those things.

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 People get "traded" for other pleasures? Is that consensual or without your consent?


The work I did was either in payment for a service that Master received or as a favor to a friend for him, or sometimes just because he wanted me to do something in particular for no sort of recompense at all. And nothing has ever been forced on me. I have chosen this life in order to be true to myself.

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Does ALL this stuff goes on, for real?


Yeah, it really does.

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I'm still very new to all of this, and I'm just a bit in shock... is all of this just hypothetical situations?


No, it's not hypothetical, though there is a contingent out there that would like to believe that's true.

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I live in a major US city, and have tried to get involved in the local BDSM groups here, but, never made it to a meeting or anything because they are usually after work (never know when I am getting out of my office), or are too far away to get by public transit... but, if it means risking loosing or being sold by my "Papi" to another (as I call him) or being sent off to do asphalt work... I don't know if I'd want to go


You are within your rights to choose your limits. No one can force anything on you that you don't desire, nor tell you that you 'must' do things a certain way or 'be' a certain way. Do what makes you happy, content and satisfied so you can thrive and don't worry about the other stuff. You don't 'have' to be available for the auction block if you don't want to be.

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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 12:27:50 PM   
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Ok, thank you very much Celeste (love your name by the way) for the information... makes me feel a bit calmer, I was a little freaked out at first reading this thread... was scarring the newbie

I was hoping there was a better explanation than it sounding as frightening as I was reading.

Have a great day!

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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 1:03:32 PM   
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Your dynamic is between you and your Owner.  No one else.  You don't have to follow anyone else's dynamic/rules/code/beliefs/preferences/kinks/ways/etc. 

Best wishes to you and 'Papi'.




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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 1:24:07 PM   
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Nicely explained Celeste 
 
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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 1:57:57 PM   
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If a historical slave legally had no rights, and a present slave gives up those rights in order to be that slave..the end result is they both have no rights to use while they are slave. The same result is yielded yet modified.

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With all due respect here I must take issue with the "same result" aspect (the "modified" part being too understated for my thinking), and think this is perhaps the most critical difference between the various forms of slavery.   If one is only speaking of "compliance" to commands then there would be more of the "same result."  But the strength of motivation and ultimate desire of the slave is perhaps in general has an indirect relationship to the sense of mere considered chattel property, i.e. more as property means less concern with the desires of the slave. 

I feel that regardless of the level of stated committment of a slave today within M/s this is still a voluntary servanthood, although there obviously are various  key differences between masters and slaves sub-forms of relationship.  Just using our own black slavery in the states as a clearer case of involuntary slavery, there were no doubt many slave owners in the old south that only cared that the tasks assigned to slaves be accomplished as expected, whether or not the slave desired to please him or not.  The function  or "result" was all that mattered, and not so much their minds and hearts, and some in not many saw caring for their slaves beyond a minimal level as a wasteful use of resources (one to support the function of another).  Some of these "legal" masters no doubt saw the benefit of providing some additional care/support, of needs beyond the basic, as a way to help make the slave more productive (a happier healthier slave is a more productive slave).  Some others, likely much fewer masters, wanted to feel their slaves truly respected them and wanted to serve them, and gave more considerations to their well being and motivations, at least short of allowing them to leave them as free persons.

But in all cases the approach, care and degree of "freedom" were up to the master alone, and only he could free his slaves if he choose to, and very few did. But all the slaves knew they had NOT freely given up their rights as free men/woman, but were forcibly taken and often kept in mental bondage by threatening ill treatment or death of those left behind even if they escaped, besides death to themselves if recaptured.  That's true slave reality.

Can we really find so many masters here and now that would see their consensual slave as mere chattel property?  Or desire to?  To consider his "slave" as a nearly inadament object without desire and feelings?  Doesn't it not much more please the more typical master to want to see his slave look at him with adoring eyes, and know she/he turns themselves over to him willingly and find their fulfillment in him, and being there for him however out of a choice made..and made stronger by claiming it was made for life?  So that even when he uses her in functional ways, and even extreme ways, that she/he allows that out of knowing that he personally cares deeply for them?  I think that is what allows the slave to more give themselves over to a Master as completely as they can at any moment/growth-point of their slaveship.  And ultimately the most unfeeling harsh thing a master could do is NOT let the slave serve them with all their being.  Or not use them in what others might consider "extreme ways" as a show of his appreciation for her voluntary submission. 

For the master to knows that the consensual aspect makes themselves much more than any owner of mere chattel property, but greater in himself as a master of another person's heart and being.  Is that not a much greater pleasure for him?  So baring major disagreement here, I believe that consentual slavery is a higher form than nonconsensual forms, and the *context* of the "result" is far greater than the accomplishment of tasks, or objectification at times.  So makes the acts/function go far more than accomplishments, but expressions of a form of a deeper relationship.  How can we argue that a truly nonconsensual M/s relatinship is a better/desirable form of slavery?..... even if we knowingly incorporate the strongest symbolic aspects of that condition? (collar, claims of no choice, extreme/edge play)?

Being merely a piece of chattel property without many of those interpersonal elements to me would be like enslaving myself to a machine (computers aside...smiles!).  If I don't know that it care for me back, and has my best interests at it's code source, then how can I trust such a master to be masterful of me and provide me the conditions of slavery that I yearn to serve within?  Ultimately one might claim that "real slavery" gives up even that small degree of self interest, but I find it demeaning to consider myself merely being a machine....to a machine.  To the extent I do in this respect consider myself chattel property I still consider myself a person, a woman, and a "slut" to the right master, and wish to give that which could not be given to a machine/man without wanting to know me, and know me better than myself, and use that understanding for a higher purpose, and to ultimately for me to find my highest purpose to to please him with all my heart and mind, in complete obedience.  The "result" of that is not compared to an unresponsive nonconsensual slave allowing themselves to be used however, while hating it in their hearts.  This is not to say that there are some slaves that might prefer this "chattel" aspect to a high degree, but it seems to be that they are the type that are bound by their own slaveness, and not so much as to a master.  I seek my fulfulness through another, and not as being a piece of property to be trodden upon.

No doubt that there are varying levels of preferences of the preferred style of such M/S relationships that members here experience, but believe that "the result" beyond mere compliance of commands would be very far different compared to most historical forms of nonconsensual slavery, as it goes to the mind, heart and soul of a form of committed relationships.  Anyone can own a piece of property, but few can command/deserve consensual respect, loyalty and obedience from a born free-person who offers them their desires and purpose for living, even to consensual slavery, which to me is the highest form of slavery one can enter into in life. 

So I have read, so I desire, and so ultimately so I shall experience.

BTW, starshine, I admire your thoughts, and know this response is not to you directly as much as my summary take on this whole topic, and my tentitive views being new to this scene . I offer these thoughts with much respect to the experience of the r-l slaves and masters who have posted great thoughts on this and this discussion has helped me plus those who have shared with me in a training capacity off forum.

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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 3:05:15 PM   
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Interesting question, if it was to pay off a debt that was owed, someone originally had to take on that debt willingly, though circumstances in life do make borrowing money necessary, a person still has to consent to borrow that money.

Given the fact that indentured servitude (slavery) was a valid and known way to pay off said debt in this time period, that would be something the person borrowing the money would know before hand. He would know that there was a possiblity that if he couldn't pay off the money, he and his family could end up as indentured servants. Which makes the possiblity of indentured servitude (slavery) something that they are consenting to when they borrowed the money.

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Good flow of logic. You'd get an A for that sort of flow of logic in my class.

I'm just a total history geek (comes with the profession I guess) so things like this always pop in my mind.

Thank you for humoring me by answering me. I rarely expect any answers to what I'm sure are annoying questions to most people.


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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 3:08:21 PM   
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You're very welcome, and i didn't think it was annoying at all.

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RE: So you think you are really a slave.... - 1/31/2007 6:16:40 PM   
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Bill gates couldn't afford to buy the smallest bit of her, you can't measure her value to Me in mear money.


SIGH!!!! What a beautiful thing to say.

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