mp072004
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You should go as far as you want. In other words, you get to indulge your fetish to the degree you prefer. You should think about what you want to get out of your women's-clothing fetish.
Do you want to dress in women's clothes because the clothes feel or look sexy, independent of gender identity? In other words, is a satin slip sexy just because it's silky and pretty? If so, you should wear clothing as feminine as you like to get the sexy feeling you want.
Do you want to dress in women's clothes because gender-fucking is erotic to you? Is a satin slip sexy because it is a woman's garment? This wouldn't necessarily involve a desire to change your gender identity or presentation in all your actions, but it does likely mean that you find toying with the boundaries of masculine and feminine appealing. If so, you should wear clothing--and, perhaps, other accessories like wigs--that gives you a sufficiently feminine or androgynous appearance and feeling to make you feel sufficiently transgressive with respect to gender identity.
Do you want to dress in women's clothes because you look silly in them and it would be humiliating? If so, you should wear clothing and accessories that make you look silly and feel embarrassed.
Do you want to dress in women's clothes because you would prefer to live, work, and socialize full-time as a woman? If so, look at LadyEllen's post and some literature on transitioning. This is a major life change, and you should probably do some serious thinking and planning about it. Then you would need to do what you must to make your new, female identity work in social interactions.
But for the first three, it's really not a big, life-changing, irrevocable event. While beginning to interact socially and professionally as a woman would require you to engage in feminine presentations and behaviors to conform to other people's ideas of womanhood, the first three options are all about how YOU (and, if you're doing this with a partner, him or her) think and feel. So you get to affect as much femininity as you like.
If your partner wants something and you don't, you get to refuse to do it, and that's fair. If you want something and your partner doesn't, and he or she refuses, that's also fair. In either case, you may need to choose between the activity and the partner, and that is fair as well.
What do dominants like? It varies. I've heard more decisive statements about the overtone of the session than about whether the crossdresser is wearing both stockings and panties or just panties. I'm okay with most varieties of dressing, except the version that involves forcing a submissive to dress like a woman to humiliate him--not because he looks goofy with hairy legs sticking out of a dress, but because looking like or being a woman is humiliating. I find that distasteful because I'm a woman, and I'm not embarrassed by looking like a woman, indeed, I think being a woman is a rather nice thing. I've heard more than a few other dominant women express similar feelings. Now, that's not to say that there aren't people who disagree, but that womanhood-is-embarrassing line of crossdressing is probably going to engender the strongest negative responses. Rejections of other varieties of crossdressing would, I imagine, be milder, the "Eh, that's not my thing," sort.
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