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...between kinky and bossy - 1/30/2007 9:08:06 PM

Missokyst

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Ya never know where you might find someone mention S/M

http://news.yahoo.com/s/dear_margo/20070126/en_dm/margo_howard20070126

DEAR MARGO: I have never seen this issue in any of the advice columns, and I need advice. More than 20 years ago, I did sex work of a kind where I did not have intercourse with the clients. (It was S&M.) I only did it for a few months, and felt very lost at that time, but I got into recovery and managed to turn my life around.
I am now a librarian, and recently divorced (not because of this issue; he found out about that by accident early in our relationship and didn't hold it against me). I am now dating, and this is what I'm not sure about: I think honesty is necessary for a stable relationship, but do I have to tell a boyfriend I used to do this kind of work?
I learned the hard way not to blab this too soon in a relationship. When is the right time to reveal this, if ever?

--- MISS X

DEAR MISS: I perhaps do not know the fine points of being a dominatrix, but it has never seemed to me to be prostitution. I always thought of it as somewhere between being kinky and bossy.
In any case, because you didn't stick around for very long, and it was 20 years ago, I don't think relating that period is necessary, and would suggest that you let your current status speak for you: that of a divorced librarian.
There might come a time when you are in a romance where you might feel like revealing this long-ago bit of history. These days, the dog collars, boots and whips seem like a mere bagatelle.

--- MARGO, SUBMISSIVELY

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RE: ...between kinky and bossy - 1/30/2007 9:10:19 PM

farglebargle

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Lucy van Pelt was a cunt.

There. It's finally been said.

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RE: ...between kinky and bossy - 1/30/2007 9:18:44 PM

mnottertail

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Well, here's the thing;
we started out freinds;
it was cool;
it was all prete-end;
oh, yeah---
since you been gone----

I fucked lucy van pelt, and I can tell you now senator,
she was no becky thatcher...

Sam Clemens

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