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Termyn8or -> RE: someone please just listen to me (1/31/2007 2:28:16 PM)
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It took me minute to get this straight in my head.
To the OP;
This is a very noble thing you did. It indeed may come back and bite you in the ass, but just wear those teethmarks with pride. I hope your friends, even with their admonishments, at least do accept the situation. The teethmarks will not be on their ass, so they should shut up.
If a friend of mine adopted a kid, I might say the same things, but if they are able to take care of the kid, do it. I would do whatever I could to help nurture the kid when I am around and it would be just like the kid is their's by blood. You can't blame anyone for their blood.
So you intend to take this kid out of what is almost certain to be a bad environment and are going to provide her with a good enviroment in which to grow ? BRAVO !
Other than that I have but one thing to say. TEACH. Make sure she can read before ever going to school, and teach the to, two, to thing. Get an encyclopedia and dictionary. Once they know how to read a bit, refuse to define words. Make her look them up.
Also encourage her to read. For example, make some kind of desert, something really good and write down the name of it. Make her read it, then she can have some. Ideally it would be a word she never read before. Let her sound it out.
Math and numbers too. If you really want to teach someone, integrate the learning into regular life.
Whatever you do, don't just sit her in front of a TV set. You took on this responsibility to raise a human being, don't ever take it lightly. When you are cooking dinner she does not belong in front of the TV, she should be watching you.
Hopefully you have figured out a bunch of this already. But there is one thing worse than to never have raised a child, and that is to have done it unsucessfully.
I wish you all the joy, and even pride in the world. Just realize that it takes alot. Alot more than meets the eye.
And strength, never let the kid overeat, don't fill her up with sugar. Teach her everything you know, especially that caring instinct of your's which is the reason for her being here. You now have the potential to raise a world leader who cares, and can help this planet off of it's deadly ways. You can raise a leader, a follower, or one who simply gets out of the way.
If I were younger, and didn't have this property, I would consider coming down there and helping. No relationship, no sex, just a male influence. But I can't up and leave.
Children are the most important thing in the world, hands down. If our ancestors didn't think like that we would not be here.
Kudos and best of luck. But the kid's luck should be average. She will need the life experiences, some of them not so pleasant, to learn. Of course you shield her from extreme danger, but they have to fall down and learn to pick themselves up.
All the best.
T
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