chrissyslave
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ORIGINAL: amiciaN
He is with U/us sitting across the table from each O/other. W/we can see the O/other's face and hear just as well.
Side note not worthy of a special topic for this. What is with this capital letter/word pattern that I see frequently in various posts and writings. No doubt it has significance to M/s condition, but beyond that? Would what we speak be any less polite, or appropriate if W/we did not use this style of writing? Sounds to me like something only a master or slave in some type of relationship would use in reference to their own relationship? But let me give you a target to aim at - I think it might be to recognize that the Master's being/position is always shown to be superior. Fire away! Since I am not in a M/s position as of yet this is good for me to know.
But a more on topic question to Julia (or anyone else who understands her statement a few comments above on 1-31-07). She said:
(a type of question often heard on forum).....such as "I am nervous meeting master for the first time, what did you do when you met your master for the first time? Understand how it sounds to us that do not operate with cyber collars. I think that the vast majority of these questions are inane (not all, but a lot of them). But not all online relationships are inane because a few post questions like these......I think those that do post questions like the one I mentioned above often have no experience, they do not understand that many that are in real life do not throw terms around like this easily.....".
Okay,...guess is the reference to the person meeting as master? Or so the potential or already sub/slave wants to make a good impression or better yet to please the Dom/Master but without asking him directly about this? Does such concerns sound too much vanilla like? Is the assumption here that appearance is not important or perhaps just reflecting some misplaced priorities to some extent? What does the fact of having a real life relationship have to do with this when you hear such questions...the presumption he/she is already your master? Do you assume a superior view on this type of concern? And why if so? Please clue me in on this. Personally I would not use a "is my master" frame of reference before meeting, but I might ask how the Dom/Master would prefer me to dress on the first meet. And better yet if the PM (potential Master) let me know on his own accord first if there was any preference, or panties or not if he brought this up. If anything I think on my own I might tend to dress a bit down rather than up so he sees me as my usual self or lessor average looking self in case so if that would be a reason to reject me then let's get that out of the way early on, and move on. After all not too many women look beautiful and alluring upon first waking up in the morning or even after a cup of coffee (maybe after a drink or two..or three...but not coffee..smiles!)
As for on-line relationships I can't judge for others, and likely some are well and strong but others are likely to be more in playland, but in one sense to me an on-line relationship allows a more pure take on the mental aspect of the relationship, without interference of a direct physical attraction....at least from my perspective/postion. And then later on see if what happens in person is in accord with that mental connection, but if waiting too long then if appearance/chemistry is key for you then one risks the chance of having "wasted" one's time, except as a growth/training opportunity in general. So what is your personal timeframe in life?
As to Tade's premise of "How is it that you (as a submissive) can feel so strongly about someone as to call them your master without ever having even been alone in a room with them?" ...I think the strength of the connection is highly dependent on what the Dom/Master and the sub/slave is able to offer and receive from each other via this means of connection, which is perhaps really too neat of phrase to sufficiently cover this area. I struggle with determining my own needs and the methods available to meet them as a potential slave, but have been open to a combination of on-line/sometimes-meeting type of relationship as one option, besides a Poly-slave type as well. I do not yet fully know what exactly will be sufficient to me and for me to grow fully into my own basic being, and I feel I would be foolish to rule out too early on a more on-line style relationship especially when the PM (potential Master) has the kind of dominant presence that strongly connects to what I need at the moment, and know he is not playing around with me in-between poker hands. But if he was playing cards while doing so, I would know what he said would be no less valuable to me but more an efficient use of his valuable time, and which I would admire as well as obviously he IS quite serious in what he is aiming to accomplish in me, and through himself. How could I not be very grateful for that?
However, I would not commit to move somewhere to live with someone without sufficient in-person contact which might range from one longish meeting (several days) to many in-person encounters, so spend a great deal more time with on-line communications without a collar from them before that would occur. But that is just my own preferences, and I am not by any means desperate for meeting men outside this realm, or Masters in this arena. In fact it's more the opposite situation which is hardly much more pleasant of having to deal with regularly, and somewhat confusing at times as the elements of attraction can be more easily masked--note some contacts do hit on "more cylinders" than others and look for the whole package deal. I just prefer that the outside packaging does not outweigh it's contents.
Chrissyslave
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