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chainedgirl -> Would you bi? (3/6/2005 1:02:11 AM)

This is just one of those questions to see what people would do. i am bisexual so have no problem with being ordered to be sexual with men or women, but i am interested to know what others would do in such a case, especially if they are not bi. i am interested in replies from both male and female submissives/slaves.

If you were collared and your Dominant decided you had to sexually service someone of the same sex (or opposite if you are gay) what would you do? How would you handle the situation?

chainy.



fencerpet19 -> RE: Would you bi? (3/6/2005 2:24:04 AM)

I think I'd be okay with it. I'm not bi, but I am willing to try new things for one... and 2, if it would please my Master, then I'd be more than happy to. Who knows... I might even like it
~FP



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Would you bi? (3/6/2005 9:08:50 AM)

I'm bi, but that doesn't mean I'm going to want to fuck every chick that crosses my path.

If the Owner tells me to have sex with someone else, I do it. It's a service for him. Whether I enjoy it or not is secondary in those cases, though I generally prefer to enjoy it of course.

The issue to me isn't so much the service provided, unless people have some ethical issue about poly or homosexuality. The issue is the emotional ramifications of bringing someone into the relationship, even if it's just a random sex encounter. It will change things and needs to be accounted for.

Even casual sex should not be a casual choice in the beginning.



CTclay -> RE: Would you bi? (3/6/2005 1:20:38 PM)

Part of the courage of being a submissive is jumping off that emotional cliff of your inhibitions. My personal limits are essentially health and safety, some pretty obvious limits of morality, and a desire not to disrupt vanilla people. My domina's pleasure -- or just her will -- overrides all else. That makes even things that I don't happen to like become pleasurable, or at least endurable at the time and ultimately pleasurable because I've pleased my domina (when I have one).

But here's a couple of caveats:

Health considerations (not getting a sexually transmitted disease) becomes a lot more important to me when I'm in a relationship because I worry -- intensely -- that if I got one, I could pass it on to my domina. The idea of doing that really frightens me, and I'd want some assurance before I had any sex like that that the third party was at least likely to be free of STDs.

The other point is that I've never been in this situation and therefore I can't say for certain how I'd react emotionally. I often fantasized about three-way sex, but when a girlfriend arranged it, I had to back out suddenly because I couldn't handle it emotionally. We were near the end of our relationship, and I think I was insecure for that reason. It seems to me that if both people in the couple are thinking about sex outside of the relationship, then they should take it pretty slowly if they don't already both have experience with it.

I regret not doing the threesome.



sting516 -> RE: Would you bi? (3/6/2005 4:03:04 PM)

While it isn't something i would relish..yes, if a Domme told me i had to sexually service another man...if i felt connected to Her, i would do it...though i'm not sure i would get aroused to take a man, i would submit to being taken, or giving oral...i've only been in this position one time...and i did orally service another male sub...not something i'd evr look for on my own...but this is about making the Domme happy...and i do kind of enjoy humiliation...and i do consider sexually servicing another man a humiliating act.


sting



proudsub -> RE: Would you bi? (3/6/2005 8:51:21 PM)

I would do it to please my Master but i have no idea if i would enjoy it or not.



MzBerlin -> RE: Would you bi? (3/6/2005 9:46:44 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: chainedgirl

This is just one of those questions to see what people would do. i am bisexual so have no problem with being ordered to be sexual with men or women, but i am interested to know what others would do in such a case, especially if they are not bi. i am interested in replies from both male and female submissives/slaves.

If you were collared and your Dominant decided you had to sexually service someone of the same sex (or opposite if you are gay) what would you do? How would you handle the situation?

chainy.


I am not bisexual. I find women beautiful and interesting creatures, but I am not sexually attracted to them. HOWEVER- I find the idea of 'forced' bi really hot. I see it as an act of submission, a way to please my partner and I like the humiliation aspect. If my Dominant partner decided that I should sexually service a member of the opposite sex I would get off on it, for the reasons mentioned above.
B



bumblebee -> RE: Would you bi? (3/6/2005 9:55:43 PM)

This issue came up recently for me. I agreed to it but not without some hesitation. The knowledge that it would please my Dom was more important than whether it was something I wanted to do or not. It hasn't happened yet but I don't look to it with any aversion so long as basic health and safety concerns are met. The fact that it's something that doesn't really turn me on at all just seems to make it all the more submissive and I have to say that fact does turn me on. So it's all a bit circular isn't it.



conflicted -> RE: Would you bi? (3/7/2005 12:34:28 AM)

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I am not bisexual. I find women beautiful and interesting creatures, but I am not sexually attracted to them. HOWEVER- I find the idea of 'forced' bi really hot.


ditto [:)]



WulfMan -> RE: Would you bi? (3/7/2005 1:01:32 AM)

Honestly I don't think I could do it. I know my Mistress would never ask this of me of course, just because it is one of my limits. Not that I have anything against gays or bisexuals, I just couldn't do it myself.



slavewoman -> RE: Would you bi? (3/7/2005 6:36:37 AM)

I am not bi but Master has asked this of me and, I'm sure, will do so again. Master believes that one should accept pleasure regardless of the source and I should not have to be attracted to women to get pleasure from, or give pleasure to, one.

There was physical pleasure in that first time. I do not, however, find myself any more attracted to women than before or, hoping for another experience with one.



Mercnbeth -> RE: Would you bi? (3/7/2005 8:24:03 AM)

quote:

If you were collared and your Dominant decided you had to sexually service someone of the same sex (or opposite if you are gay) what would you do? How would you handle the situation?


chainy,
this slave has had one experience in her nilla past with a woman and did not find it to be sexually stimulating at all. that being said, this slave does not consider herself to be bi---not attracted to women in a sexual way. however, if Master decided He wanted His slave to service a female sexually, then she would do so without question, with the object being Master's pleasure, not hers. this slave would try to prepare herself, if she knew beforehand, and would ask Master to rent some lesbian porn so we could watch it together and get an idea of what He would like to see "live".
beth



FelinePersuasion -> RE: Would you bi? (3/7/2005 11:52:21 AM)

I am not looking for sexual contact at all in any form that includes oral anal actual dick to vagina or jacking them off It's a unbending hard limit since I have a mate who's very very aware of my needs for bdsm and allowes me anything my heart desires as long as I am not having sex in any way shape or form with another.


That aspect of the relationship would be and is made extreamly crystal clear before I even omve on from just hello's to more indepth talk. so if A Dominant* to encompass all of the people out there* told me to do so I owuld say no. Sexual contact was a hard limit comeing in and it's not just gonna suddenly change.



tanna -> RE: Would you bi? (3/8/2005 4:17:03 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: chainedgirl


If you were collared and your Dominant decided you had to sexually service someone of the same sex (or opposite if you are gay) what would you do? How would you handle the situation?

chainy.


That's a tough one.. I have only been with one Dominant for whom I would have done almost anything for.. Key word "almost".. Even then I'm not sure that his asking me to have a bisexual encounter, when I am not bi, would not have caused major issues between us.

Service to One is one thing, and service to One through another person is a whole other matter all together. My question would be, why, if your Dominant knows you are not bi, would he ever want to force you to be with another woman? If the Dominant wanted this type of activity, then why didn't the Dominant find a bisexual sub to begin with?

I think this type of behavior would only cause resentment.. But, that's just my opinion.

tanna





darkinshadows -> RE: Would you bi? (3/8/2005 4:59:38 AM)

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Service to One is one thing, and service to One through another person is a whole other matter all together. My question would be, why, if your Dominant knows you are not bi, would he ever want to force you to be with another woman? If the Dominant wanted this type of activity, then why didn't the Dominant find a bisexual sub to begin with?


I think 'force' is a rather strong word, and doesnt really fit into the dynamic of the context. I do not believe that any Dominant worth their salt would 'force' their sub/slave/kajira into doing anything against their will. It wouldn't be consensual would it? That would be abuse.

It's about growth for some people. Helping their sub/slave/kajira realise their potential. For others, its about the control... knowing that this person will obey them without a second thought. For others, maybe a punishment? And then there are people who gain pleasure from witnessing or being part of a bi sexual encounter in any way possible. People gain different feelings through different things. Each person and relationship is different.

I do not believe that 'force' is the key. It's experience.



Dave8544 -> RE: Would you bi? (3/8/2005 1:06:10 PM)

I think the one part of the question that almost answers itself is, If you were collared! if you give yourself to a person and are collared, you will do what they ask without question. more so then just in a session, For me just in a session no I don't think so, but if my owner said to, I have given myself to her so I guess it would be her choice. Dave



CTclay -> RE: Would you bi? (3/8/2005 5:05:06 PM)

quote:

My question would be, why, if your Dominant knows you are not bi, would he ever want to force you to be with another woman? If the Dominant wanted this type of activity, then why didn't the Dominant find a bisexual sub to begin with?

I think this type of behavior would only cause resentment.. But, that's just my opinion.

tanna


Oh, I think it's incredibly hot -- mindbendingly intense -- to do things I don't want to do to demonstrate my submissiveness to the dominant I love. The one aspect of dominance I feel I can understand very well is how hot and intense it must be for the dominant to see the possessed submissive doing something like that for the sake of obedience. I'm getting horny just thinking about it now. That's a big part of D/s for me.



proudsub -> RE: Would you bi? (3/8/2005 6:00:03 PM)

quote:

If you were collared! if you give yourself to a person and are collared, you will do what they ask without question.


Sorry Dave i disagree with this. Even if collared i think all activity needs to be consensual.[:)]



Tangwystal -> RE: Would you bi? (3/8/2005 9:03:57 PM)

I had the Dom I am seeing ask me this just recently. I told him "no, absolutely not." He didn't get upset, but asked why not. In turn I asked him if he was in a submissive position would he be willing to service or be serviced by another man. He said "no, absolutlely not." and then chuckled and commented on the double standards in the world and said, "put that way your answer makes more sense."

Hope that makes sense.. [:)]



darkinshadows -> RE: Would you bi? (3/9/2005 1:44:12 AM)

Dearest proud
Whilst I agree that any activity within a dynamic should be consensual, I also agree with Daves post.

IMO, if you ever, ever think that you may have to say 'no' to a Dominant, don't get collared. Saying no, for me, would make a collar null and void. That is what communication is about. So many people just accept, or ask for, or give a collar so easily, and forget to communicate.

Giving oneself over to another and allowing a power exchange to exist within your dimensions on a permenant basis (ie collar) is the act of consensuality and trust. What happens after that, is the Owners decision... but His Decisions can only be reached with honest communications.

So many like the idea of being owned. But few think about the realities or are willing to relinquish all power.



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