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wizardprincess -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/5/2007 7:52:53 PM)
So long as you can take care of and care for your submissive and you are both happy and content and getting what you need from the relationship, all should be well with the world. End of story. It's a personal preference between two people. Just the same as in a standard relationship, if you romantically loved someone and felt you were meant for them but they flipped burgers at McDonalds....would you just move on and settle for a less emotional connection for money and material things?

desertdancer -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/5/2007 8:01:49 PM)
If this girl was a "TRUE" submissive, would she even be questioning where the Dom lives? I think not. Shaaaame on her. In fact, who's to say that said Dom would even let her into his appartment? Maybe he'd make her sleep outside in the hall way, being the doormat she's always wanted to be. Or better yet, he'll make her get two jobs, and pay his rent, so that he can buy his dream house, and as a "true" sub, she would never ever think of complaining or blinking an eye about it. Yes that settles it, this girl is NOT a sub. Stay away from her. wink ~dancer

EvilGeoff -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/5/2007 8:53:23 PM)
I'm 45, and I live in a house. It's a rental though, so does that count? I've owned 2 houses and got a divorce, the ex got the hacienda, I got $650/month child support payments, thank you Family Court. And while I still owe thousands in credit card debt, until I lost my job the second time in 2 years, I never missed a child support payment, and I've only been late with the rent twice. As far as the credit cards go, they can suck my ass until I feel like paying them back. I had a heart attack, and quad bypass surgery less than 6 months ago, and only recently (less than 2 weeks ago) was medically cleared to return to work full time. I have 5 prescription medications I take on a daily basis and 2 types of insulin. Guess where my priority is? Exactly so, what money I have been making working part time since the heart attack has been paying for my meds and medical treatment. Fortunately, my ex is understanding, and my kids are no longer minors so the child support went buh-bye. But don't judge someone's character or Dominance or submissiveness by how fat their bank account is or how much they are paying for their housing. You probably have absolutely no clue about the reality of their situation. YIK, - Geoff

littlesarbonn -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/5/2007 9:18:24 PM)
Wow, I've never cared where a dominant lives, as long as the dominant was...well, dominant. Once, a dominant moved in with me because she needed a place to stay until she was able to find another place. Another time, I was moved into a dominant's house that was a huge, freaking mansion. I'm not sure why a particular type of housing would make one a dominant and another not one.

TypeAsub1 -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/5/2007 9:18:50 PM)
It's a hotel... It is an apartment/hotel. They have roomservice, maids etc.... it's not an apartment. Trust me. And yes, he owns the building .. and many others. quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania quote: ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld Doesn’t Donald Trump live in an apartment? Yes, but I believe he owns the building[:D]

MistressSassy66 -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/5/2007 9:26:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TypeAsub1 It's a hotel... It is an apartment/hotel. They have roomservice, maids etc.... it's not an apartment. Trust me. And yes, he owns the building .. and many others. quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania quote: ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld Doesn’t Donald Trump live in an apartment? Yes, but I believe he owns the building[:D] Buttt is he a Dom? I bet he begs like a lil puppy...LOL

marieToo -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/5/2007 9:45:43 PM)
In reply to OP: I dont care where he lives, as long as he has a floor. ; )

TreSwank -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/5/2007 10:15:11 PM)
You're so right, Padriag. If you live in Manhattan, NYC, good luck at finding a SHITTY 1 bedroom apartment for less than a $1,000 per month. Hell.....if you manage to get off with just paying THAT much, you're livin' pretty easy. (I'll bet that alot of old New York families are thanking their lucky stars for rent control.) Unless you look online for sweet nightly deals (and they can be found), any hotel that costs less than $200 a night will probably include a can of RAID.

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/5/2007 10:59:18 PM)
I'm sorry for all the troubles you've gone through Geoff, but on a more shallow note, I like the new picture. Editted to add [sm=banana.gif][sm=banana.gif][sm=banana.gif] for gauge for making this thread and making me laugh/snort on the other fake thread. http://www.collarchat.com/m_809981/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm. M

LadyHugs -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/5/2007 11:22:21 PM)
Dear Gauge, Ladies and Gentlemen; When a person is saying they don't think a person can be dominant, that lives in an apartment--It is in my mind's eyes I see, perhaps that individual feels that the 'financial' security isn't there and why a person is in an apartment is due to financial laziness and cannot support 'them' as well as to accomidate their needs as to freely scream, be themselves as you whip them on some St. Andrew's cross. It is my assumption, that everybody would love to live financially independent, as to have a home where you can have a basement dungeon and the freedom to operate in a lifestyle. I know I don't mind that thought either. I've lived it before. That said, it is fact--that in today's society/generation, more baby boomers are returning home due to the financial issues that life's expenses impose on people. It isn't due to being lazy--its just the times. A lot are saving their money so they can buy a home like their parents did. Bigger downpayment--less the morgage will be. Another trend that was reported a bit ago on our news channels; more baby boomers are returning to their childhood homes and buying them from parents (buying them out) and they move into assisted living and kids move into their childhood home to raise their littleones. The fact independent on the many reasons why a person lives in an apartment, to which condos sometimes are converted apartments; should never reflect on a person's character and or their ability to be dominant and or submissive period. Some very well known leaders in the community, et. al., have lived in studio apartments or roommates with someone else in an apartment. Clearly, the individual may not understand how lavish apartments can be--if an apartment/condo was good enough for Jackie Kennedy Onasis, Donald Trump, Sarah McClendon (newspaper reporter) and other famous folks--and, what would the excuses be then? In summary, the quality of domination/submission is not determined by the place you dwell, the car you drive, the height and or weight, the color of one's skin and or the gender you may be. It will manifest independent of all these things by being just 'you.' Respectfully submitted for consideration, Lady Hugs

EvilGeoff -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/6/2007 11:43:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig I'm sorry for all the troubles you've gone through Geoff, but on a more shallow note, I like the new picture. smiles Thank you very much! {{{{HUG}}}} The new pic was actually taken 8/13/06, about 10 days before the heart attack. I'm told I look much better now after the bypass and cardiac rehab... But I don't think the world could stand it if I did look better so I'm keeping that picture! LOL And it's good to see you again, too! :)

amayos -> Renting or owning (2/6/2007 2:22:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Gauge If, (at middle age) I do not own a home, does this mean that I am incapable of owning a submissive? Is social status tied into the perception of dominance? I believe the answers to those questions are fairly obvious but I am quite curious to see if this actually is something that a submissive will place any weight in when evaluating a potential dominant. I am a freelancer and do fairly well for myself. I regularly rent apartments, and not so due to lack of the availability of affordable homes in the area or because I live in the city. It's a matter of lifestyle choice for me. I have the heart of a wanderer, and I tend to not like staying in one place too long. A house would be a weight tied around my waist; it would limit my mobility and tie up my assets, particularly in the current buyer's market. Be that as it may, I must admit to a fondness I've always had for the privacy a house affords, if it is in the right location. Location is everything. I suppose I'm still deciding where to plant some semblance of roots. All that aside, of course one's renter / owner lifestyle has nothing to do with one's ability to keep or enjoy slaves. I will say, however, that refinement, intelligence and authenticity does matter greatly.

CMastersen -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/6/2007 3:10:16 PM)
How about this twist on it: It is Very Difficult to be a Master with near neighbors!! I own a house but the neihbors are only 6 or 7 feet away! Not Good for Play!! I cann't image how hard it would be in an apartment!!

MasterC70 -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/6/2007 4:40:25 PM)
I think that you can't really judge everyone by the same standards as to if they are trying to get ahead or not. I live in an apt. which I share with my elderly (over 60) mother. She gets by on a widow's pension, and I have some health related problems and am on disability. The apt. is low income, which means if she wasn't listed as caretaker (in case I pass out) that the apt. would cost around 500.00 a month just for the rent. As it is we keep housed and fed since we split the bills between us. If I were to have a job that allowed me to put as little as 2,000.00 in the bank there would go my monthly disability (til I could prove that I'd spent the 2,000.00). Probably my med card as well which means I'd have to shell out around 200.00 or so a month for my meds. Just one of my supplies that I get each month would cost me 75.00. How can a person get ahead if the deck is so stacked against them? Also (it may be a bit off topic but) I wonder about the idea of common courtesy in terms of responding to e-mail at personal sites sometimes. So often a person writes someone else hoping to find that special someone and even though the other person comes online and reads the e-mail the sender never even hears even a "sorry not interested" from the person they wrote. Instead they are left with silence wondering if the other person even bothered to read it. I know I'm not perfect, but what gives with that? Isn't respect for others supposed to be a cornerstone of any sort of relationship or search for relationship? Is it really that hard for those who receive e-mails (and read them) to give acknowledgement that they received them in such a basic way? I just don't get it.

bludemonn -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/6/2007 4:49:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Gauge Call me mean spirited or whatever your heart desires but I must vent about something that I found in someone's profile because it really irritated me. In general it basically stated that if you were 40 and lived in an apartment that you couldn't be a dominant. Now this bothers me on two levels, the first of which is that I live in an apartment and I am 41 years old and a dominant. The second item that chafes my nether regions is that by sheer implication, that statement in that profile is single-minded and basically rude in it's nature. Before everyone tears into me and tells me to "get over it" allow me to attempt to explain why I even bothered posting about this. Does financial standing have anything to do with being a dominant? If, (at middle age) I do not own a home, does this mean that I am incapable of owning a submissive? Is social status tied into the perception of dominance? I believe the answers to those questions are fairly obvious but I am quite curious to see if this actually is something that a submissive will place any weight in when evaluating a potential dominant. I agree with you, the moron who wrote that you can't be a dominant because of your status really dosen't have a scooby-do (clue), your dominant side does NOT require you to financially look after your sub, whilst being preferential to most people being loaded would only offer you more time to be with your sub but if anyone thinks sub/dom life is based around being financially well off then they need to get their ass a job plain and simple! I would be annoyed like you and also!!!! I'd like to know who is making all these do's and don't of what you can be and can't. Who the hell do these people think they bloody are![:@]

cloudboy -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/6/2007 8:19:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Gauge In general it basically stated that if you were 40 and lived in an apartment that you couldn't be a dominant. If that's true, I imagine the camping and tent dominants will encounter nothing but derision.

KatyLied -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/7/2007 8:27:30 AM)
My first thought when I read the op was that some subs probably have the house with the white picket fence dream and have an expectation that the Dom will fulfill this for them. It's a lot less work for them if they can depend on someone else for dream fulfillment.

juliaoceania -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/7/2007 8:40:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied My first thought when I read the op was that some subs probably have the house with the white picket fence dream and have an expectation that the Dom will fulfill this for them. It's a lot less work for them if they can depend on someone else for dream fulfillment. You know, you just crushed me, I have to get my own picket fence? OMG, I am just shattered now[:D]

Devilslilsister -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/7/2007 8:47:12 AM)
i've seen this thread go on for 7 pages and havent read a bit of it. Except Amayos always catches my attention. For the thread title "i'm dominant and i LIVE in an apartment!!!" (neither are true... but w/e)

cloudboy -> RE: You Cannot Be Dominant If You Live In An Apartment (2/7/2007 10:25:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Devilslilsister Except Amayos always catches my attention. Sadly, b/c he lives in an APT, we now know that he's not really dominant.

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