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Service ranking - 2/5/2007 5:34:49 AM   
NorthernGent


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Status: offline 		Gents, I'm curious about what you deem to be good quality service.

In terms of areas of service, how and why do you rank them in order of priorities (e.g. cleaning, cooking, sex etc).

Personally, I want my submissive as fresh as possible for sex and cooking so I'm more than happy to do my fair share of the cleaning rather than bog her down in what I see as completely unproductive for us.

Any comments will be appreciated.


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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 5:41:32 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		Well, I may never in my life qualify as a GEnt, but I do have a priority list for my service preferences.
I dont mind doing the cooking.  He does the dishes.
I wash the laundry since I dont trust anyone to wash my clothes. HE folds and hangs and puts them away.
He makes very good coffee.

I set out responsabilities when I take a slave on, and those are thier priorities (since I make sure they are good at what they are doing before giving it to them alone)
So, I expect Angel to be relatively helpless and dependant on me, and he has a childs chores.  Works well for us.

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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 5:55:30 AM   
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Well, I may never in my life qualify as a GEnt, but I do have a priority list for my service preferences.
I dont mind doing the cooking.  He does the dishes.
I wash the laundry since I dont trust anyone to wash my clothes. HE folds and hangs and puts them away.
He makes very good coffee.

I set out responsabilities when I take a slave on, and those are thier priorities (since I make sure they are good at what they are doing before giving it to them alone)
So, I expect Angel to be relatively helpless and dependant on me, and he has a childs chores.  Works well for us.

DV


Any comments are good to me.

Your points resonate here. No woman is going anywhere near my clothes until she understands the importance of, and techniques for, washing and ironing them in the correct manner. Believe it or not, all women I have been out with have been hopeless when it comes to taking care of clothes. She must learn to make a decent cup of tea - there will be little to no sympathy for a sub-standard cup of tea (particularly in the morning) :-) Most of all, the way to a man's heart is through his stomach.

Sounds like you have a good set-up.



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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 7:12:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'd say bills being paid on time is first priority.  Without this, nothing else will be enjoyable.
Then, making sure we spend cuddle time together.  What's the point of anything else if I don't have this?
Then, rest.  My partner has trouble sleeping and I often have to remind him to stay in bed.

Those are the main priorities I have in regards to him in our relationship.  Everything else is just daily life stuff that we both work on together.  I don't have an assigned chores list, we just tend to work together to get it done when it needs to be.


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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 7:13:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		Since I'm poly, I have the luxery of choosing tasks from each slave that compliments their talents and, as much as I can, their likes. anne like to iron and, to a lesser extent, do the laundry. Works for me...even if she only gets to do it on the rarest of occassion with living across the country and all. But, I tell you, it's REALLY nice to GO HOME with a suitcase full of CLEAN clothes.

I have a houseboy who began by coming and doing the yard work. He'd been doing it about a year when we fell into the topic of clearning one day. I found out he was interested, but since I'd never brought up the topic, he'd never volunteered. LOL Now, he cleans once a week. He also does repair work that I can't do (I can do minor stuff), especially electrical since he has training.

I'd like to have someone in the household who knew how to cook and enjoyed it. I'd also love to have a mechanic (licnese if possible!), especially since I want to drop a new engine in my car. A computer person would be nice, too...maybe they could figure out why my laptop is slow as molasses on the internet at home (no, it isn't my network; other laptops work just fine). Someone who landscapes would be nice, as well as someone who could keep houseplants looking nice and such.

If I had to rank what's most important right now, I'd say: lawnwork, cleaning, laundry, car care, then all the rest.

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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 7:31:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		On actions... ALL of them. The important thing is the right attitude, the drive to please.

It shouldn't matter what the action is, she should be trying her best, whatever her best maybe. Wether it is sex or play or bringing Me a coffee or cleaning My house or...... I expect nothing less than her best efforts and her to remember she is doing it for ME.


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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 7:43:51 AM   
NorthernGent


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Status: offline 		Agreed with the best shot point but how do you feel about working the situation and directing and coaching her in certain areas for maximum satisfaction?

For me, I'd rather she does the things I love really well (cooking, conversation, sex, a good cup of tea) than be a jack of all trades but master of none. There are only so many leisure hours in the day. I appreciate its a matter for personal taste and priorities.

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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 7:51:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		I believe he is saying the most important priority for him is his girl's attitude.  My Master has that same priority.  While there may be specific things he prefers, he would not like them if I didn't perform with proper attitude.

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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 8:28:40 AM   
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I believe he is saying the most important priority for him is his girl's attitude.  My Master has that same priority.  While there may be specific things he prefers, he would not like them if I didn't perform with proper attitude.


Absolutely.  What actions I will prioritise will vary depending on mood, necessity, her capabilitys, whatever.... but no matter what it is, if it isn't done with the right attitude then I will find it displeasing.... likewise even the smallest, most mundain act can make Me smile if done the RIGHT way, for the right reasons and with the right mind-set and attitude.

What is being worked on currently (Appart from working on maintaining that attitude) is a diffrent question.... I don't need her to work on sex... Damn she is a hot horny lil gal  the current thing action wise is communication skills. Given we are LDR a lot of the time then it is particularly important right now that they are given a LOT of attention.


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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 8:59:47 AM   
Wildfleurs


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quote:

ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

Gents, I'm curious about what you deem to be good quality service.

In terms of areas of service, how and why do you rank them in order of priorities (e.g. cleaning, cooking, sex etc).

Personally, I want my submissive as fresh as possible for sex and cooking so I'm more than happy to do my fair share of the cleaning rather than bog her down in what I see as completely unproductive for us.

Any comments will be appreciated.



For my owner I'm guessing it depends hugely.  I'd say sex and cooking are fairly high up there, especially since he has food allergies so he likes freshly cooked food that doesn't contain gums or other fillers and such that is usually meat based but has some of the particular types of vegetables he likes.  Sex the way you like it when you like it... who's going to complain about that :-)

But during this particular time of the year he tends to be swamped at work so I'd guess that my ability to do a variety of things for him are pretty high on the priority also (whether its laundry or chasing down paperwork or handling his bills).

C~


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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 10:40:13 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: NorthernGent

Gents, I'm curious about what you deem to be good quality service.

In terms of areas of service, how and why do you rank them in order of priorities (e.g. cleaning, cooking, sex etc).

Personally, I want my submissive as fresh as possible for sex and cooking so I'm more than happy to do my fair share of the cleaning rather than bog her down in what I see as completely unproductive for us.

Any comments will be appreciated.



Truly, it just depends. If he's hungry, food is the priority. If he's horny, then it's sex. ::chuckles:: In other words, it's ever changing according to his whim/desire/need of the moment. He has a very high stress job that takes much of his time and I don't work outside the home, so I take care of the mundane to leave him free to enjoy his time off .. whether that's by eating, beating me silly, blowing things up on the Xbox or fucking my brains out. Which ever of one those things it may be, I'm happy to serve him or, in the case of the Xbox, just leave him alone to enjoy his own entertainment and be available if he needs me.

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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 12:46:32 PM   
NorthernGent


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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

I believe he is saying the most important priority for him is his girl's attitude.  My Master has that same priority.  While there may be specific things he prefers, he would not like them if I didn't perform with proper attitude.



I understood Raven's point of view and agreed with it. I'm thinking along the lines of the areas which doms direct this spot on attitude i.e. what types of service are important - all areas, several, a few, priorities etc?

IMO, endeavour is limited in its value if it's not effective - it would be like me working my bollocks off at work on a piece of work that my boss is not remotely interested in. Hence, a decision on what is valuable is required - cooking, cleaning etc. Maybe there is a difference of opinion here - to me any service is not necessarily good service - others may disagree (this is not accusing anyone of sub-standard requirements, more a case of pre-empting a reply on personal taste).

In terms of attitude, I think it's fair to expect a tip-top attitude. You can't reward indifference.



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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 1:04:24 PM   
NorthernGent


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I'd say bills being paid on time is first priority.  Without this, nothing else will be enjoyable.
Then, making sure we spend cuddle time together.  What's the point of anything else if I don't have this?
Then, rest.  My partner has trouble sleeping and I often have to remind him to stay in bed.

Those are the main priorities I have in regards to him in our relationship.  Everything else is just daily life stuff that we both work on together.  I don't have an assigned chores list, we just tend to work together to get it done when it needs to be.



Has this always been the case or have you gone through stages of what is important?

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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 1:08:53 PM   
NorthernGent


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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Since I'm poly, I have the luxery of choosing tasks from each slave that compliments their talents and, as much as I can, their likes. anne like to iron and, to a lesser extent, do the laundry. Works for me...even if she only gets to do it on the rarest of occassion with living across the country and all. But, I tell you, it's REALLY nice to GO HOME with a suitcase full of CLEAN clothes.

I have a houseboy who began by coming and doing the yard work. He'd been doing it about a year when we fell into the topic of clearning one day. I found out he was interested, but since I'd never brought up the topic, he'd never volunteered. LOL Now, he cleans once a week. He also does repair work that I can't do (I can do minor stuff), especially electrical since he has training.

I'd like to have someone in the household who knew how to cook and enjoyed it. I'd also love to have a mechanic (licnese if possible!), especially since I want to drop a new engine in my car. A computer person would be nice, too...maybe they could figure out why my laptop is slow as molasses on the internet at home (no, it isn't my network; other laptops work just fine). Someone who landscapes would be nice, as well as someone who could keep houseplants looking nice and such.

If I had to rank what's most important right now, I'd say: lawnwork, cleaning, laundry, car care, then all the rest.

Master Fire



lol, slaves for all seasons......

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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 1:14:24 PM   
NorthernGent


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ORIGINAL: Wildfleurs

For my owner I'm guessing it depends hugely.  I'd say sex and cooking are fairly high up there, especially since he has food allergies so he likes freshly cooked food that doesn't contain gums or other fillers and such that is usually meat based but has some of the particular types of vegetables he likes.  Sex the way you like it when you like it... who's going to complain about that :-)

But during this particular time of the year he tends to be swamped at work so I'd guess that my ability to do a variety of things for him are pretty high on the priority also (whether its laundry or chasing down paperwork or handling his bills).

C~



Makes perfect sense to me.

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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 1:20:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent
Has this always been the case or have you gone through stages of what is important?

Well, I USED to have as a main priority that he have cold Pepsi' in the fridge for me, but that's just when I came to visit. 

This is what it's become after living together about 6 months now.

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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 1:22:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

Truly, it just depends. If he's hungry, food is the priority. If he's horny, then it's sex. ::chuckles:: In other words, it's ever changing according to his whim/desire/need of the moment.

Celeste


Sounds like somone's struck gold....



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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 1:25:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		I should also add that it might be because he does a great job of doing things that I don't think to make them an expected thing, or something to watch for.  I tend to be a reactive person and if it's working well, I don't think to change it. 

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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 1:40:38 PM   
NorthernGent


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Status: offline 		If it's not broken etc.....does he ever get any big ideas and try an unexpected surprise move.....I don't know....like a surprise coca cola in among the pepsi?

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RE: Service ranking - 2/5/2007 2:06:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		Not when I've made it clear that I have a preference.  In fact he can get quite exasperated when I tell him I'm done with a certain flavor and from now on want only a different kind.  But that's what his PDA is for and he has lists he updates with my preferences.

It was quite amusing actually when I first started going to his place that TWICE he bought a case of Pepsi which were the WRONG kind.  Most amusing because I like the standard basic Pepsi so it's not like he had to LOOK for a special kind.  He drank a lot of diet and caffeine free Pepsi for awhile.

He came down on himself very harshly, which made it all the more amusing to me.

But he will try and surprise me with things that I haven't specifically said- for example, he started making the bed every day on his own, and then he started setting up the stuffed animals in some cute scenario on the bed every day also. 

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