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value - 3/7/2005 7:22:14 PM

Somnovi

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What is the worth (importance) of of your sub / slave / bottom's happiness to you to you?

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RE: value - 3/7/2005 7:50:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: Somnovi

What is the worth (importance) of of your sub / slave / bottom's happiness to you to you?

I am not interested in her happiness, only her fulfillment. I seek to satisfy her needs, not her wants. I do not want her to serve me because it makes her happy. I want her to serve me because she feels it would be easier to stop breathing then stop serving me.

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RE: value - 3/8/2005 12:08:35 AM

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It is worth quite a bit to me. I enjoy having happy people around me and don't like drama or strife. I am planning on my sub being my lifemate. While individual things we do don't need to make him happy, I want his overall life to be a happy one.

A bit on the cynical side, any good boss will tell you that happy, content employees work better.

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RE: value - 3/8/2005 4:00:58 AM

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It is extremely important to me, I want my sub/slave to be happier then they have ever been in their lives and I want to be the reason for it. Yes, I know that sounds selfish.

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RE: value - 3/8/2005 5:29:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: Somnovi

What is the worth (importance) of of your sub / slave / bottom's happiness to you to you?

Part of me wants to say that her happiness is irrelevant...(The Evil Sadistic Rat Bastid part) but if I'm really going to be honest about it, I would say that it is very important to me that my slave find happiness in our relationship. She may not be happy about things I may do to her (at the time, anyway...) or she may not be happy about decisions I make, but her overall happiness in our relationship is very important to me. I get a sense of peace and fulfillment in knowing that my slave is a happy girl.

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RE: value - 3/8/2005 5:37:36 AM

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He considers my fulfillment, stability, and ultimate happiness to be very important for me.

However, he makes me responsible for it, becuase I'm the only one who can make myself happy in the end.

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RE: value - 3/8/2005 6:30:31 AM

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I measure my girl's happiness in the whole rather than in the short-term. I may make her very unhappy for an hour or two but only in order to ensure her overall sense of happiness and well-being. In that context I feel her overall level of contentment is the yardstick by which I judge the effectiveness of my strategy.
My personal belief is that if I ensure my girl's happiness is directly proportional to how well she serves me, I am providing the environment I promised her. By refusing to allow her to take responsibility for those variables beyond her control while reminding her of those improvements she needs to make in her behavior, I give her the opportunity to be successful in herself, in our relationship and ultimately, in life. Knowing her as I do, I understand that, for her, that is the key to her happiness and fulfillment.
I can say with, all honesty, that I value her happiness because I value her. I promised her only the opportunity to serve with honor, which she does, on a daily basis. Helping her find happiness by exceeding her own goals is one small way that I show my appreciation for all that she does. I have learned to love her for who and what she is as a person and I respect her greatly. Knowing that she is happy and fulfilled in her life with me tells me that I have made the right decisions for both of us and that is incredibly gratifying.
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RE: value - 3/8/2005 6:51:33 PM

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I value my sub and want them to be happy. But, my happiness is more important and always takes front seat in any situation.

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RE: value - 3/9/2005 11:38:30 AM

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I think that generally I want anyone serving me to be glad to be there. Happiness*is* important, but I think that contentment is more important.

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RE: value - 3/9/2005 7:30:48 PM

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Happiness and fullfillment are very important to me. After all, it's both of us fullfilling our desires and passions as well as needs.

When I"m happy, my pet is happy. When pet is happy, well I"m happy. Sacrafices and comprimise comes about from time to time but end the end, we both find it worth it and puts more trust and value into the relationship.

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RE: value - 3/9/2005 8:39:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: Somnovi
What is the worth (importance) of of your sub's happiness to you to you?

It's very important to me. I'm very sensitive to energies around me, and I don't like brats or drama, so I'll not keep a sub/slave who isn't happy with my contribution to his life/well being, or being my servant. M

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