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RE: Getting centered when uncentered - 2/7/2007 7:06:01 AM

onestandingstill

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What I do is use the old AA jingle as a mantra.
Even though I don't drink a lot of the 12 step plan works in my life for those things I feel powerless over.
It's the whole
"Accept the things I can not change, change the things I can, and the WISDOM to know the difference" .LOL especially the asking God for wisdom part.
If I can't change or control something waisting negative energy isn't going to benefit any one, especially not me.
I also remind myself if what ever is making me so nutso is not going to be affecting me in a year why waist my energy with it?
You have to remind yourself of perspective vs impulses.
For example I too have so many irons in the fire of my problems I'm in a flame resistant suit and sweating it myself right now.
One of the issues is my Mom is critically ill and has been since mid October.
When I sit in her room watching her suffer and that accept that I can not change is screaming at me to the point I get angry or something what I'll do is focus on my breathing being deep and regular, focus on relaxing my muscles (especially neck and shoulder), and think of all the wonderful things or beautiful things that are also happening that day.
Little things like enjoying the beauty of the clouds rolling by out the window, or birds in the grass are things that help me remember the combination of darkness and light is always with us.
Remind yourself how fortunate you are compared to others who are suffering worse than you are. Counting your blessings, and noticing the good and joyful things also happening during the tempest storms of so many stressors hitting you at once helps me a lot.
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RE: Getting centered when uncentered - 2/7/2007 11:22:01 AM

Donnalee

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There are a few things I do when I'm starting to spin...
1. Pick one single thing and say it over and over and over like a rat in a wheel........
2. Do something that will jolt me like run cold water and splash my face
3. Talk to someone and vent, cry, emote; what ever it takes to move through it for that moment.
4. Write it out just as it flows from my head
5. Get physical in some way
6. Listen to the sweet sound of a man in Dom mode.

I don't like feeling uncentered at all.

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RE: Getting centered when uncentered - 2/7/2007 6:52:12 PM

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I feel like this all of the time. It is part of being human.

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RE: Getting centered when uncentered - 2/7/2007 8:02:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: onestandingstill

What I do is use the old AA jingle as a mantra.

wow...I must be more tired than I thought...OSS, when I first read that, I thought, "there's a jingle for AA batteries?"

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