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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 8:36:56 AM   
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I wonder why someone wouldn't compete/fight for someone truly desireable...

Is it fear of failure?


No. The fear I might actually get her!!!!!

I have a great bachelor life with enough female company to keep me happy. The thought that some insane attraction to a particular woman could upset my little heaven just makes me shudder.

I have also lived with women in the past and I now value my freedom more than ever.

I might make the effort for sport but I don't think that is what the OP had in mind.

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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 8:49:56 AM   
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Wow..  I found some of the responses to the OP's question downright fascinating!

My own answer:  Yes, of course I would, under the right circumstances and for the right person.  Anyone, or anything worth having is worth competing/fighting for.  N'est ce pas?

Amazed as I am that others wouldn't feel the same way, (I recognize that we all have differing tastes/preferences/priorities) I wonder why someone wouldn't compete/fight for someone truly desireable...

Is it fear of failure?


I guess I don't get what you are saying. To NEED to compete or fight would mean that "she's just not all that into me". So, why would I waste my time?

I want someone that wants to be with me as much as I want to be with them.


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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 8:57:43 AM   
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I guess I don't get what you are saying. To NEED to compete or fight would mean that "she's just not all that into me". So, why would I waste my time?

I want someone that wants to be with me as much as I want to be with them.



Too true. If she doesn't come (come not cum, get your head out of the gutter) when I snap my fingers then I know she is not for me. A man can only expend so much energy in chasing a woman.

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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 9:03:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I guess I don't get what you are saying. To NEED to compete or fight would mean that "she's just not all that into me". So, why would I waste my time?

I want someone that wants to be with me as much as I want to be with them.



I understand what you're saying, I think....  Maybe not.

Are you only responsive to those who immediately, completely, and without hesitation throw themselves at you...? 

Is it your contention that you're the only possible desireable choice for those whom you desire...?

I'm all for a healthy ego, but really...  must this be some sort of contest where we all posture about how WE don't stoop to actually making an effort to attract someone...?

...and isn't that sort of posturing competing for affection, just in a different way?


I certainly believe so.

as I said, some truly fascinating responses.  Revealing and remarkable.

To each his/her own.


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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 9:15:58 AM   
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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 9:29:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		No, I am not into posturing nor do I have a big ego. I am a very laid back easy going friendly person. I can tell if someone is interested in me or not, by either words or actions. If I am interested in them also, I express that. I don't see it as anything resembling competition.

As far as stooping to make an effort, to me that would just be pretending to be someone other than who I am. I want a person to be attracted to me, not some act I am creating. What I am saying is that I don't want to pretend to be someone I am not just to attract someone that would not be attracted to me otherwise.


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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 9:37:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well to be honest, before there is some sort of commitment there is usually some competition on some level in my opinion,

Someone single, attractive, full of fun and life is probably going to have people vying for their attention. They will have several people trying to spend time with them often. Before this type of person commits, yes they do have others competing for their time. That is what the dating and mating game is about in my experience... we humans make it complicated, but Darwin had it right in many ways.

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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 9:53:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		Actually im reminded of a reality show that screened here a year of 2 ago - same scenario and the 'woman' in question was absolutly gorgeous south america/latin type

but yes you guessed it the 'woman' was infact born a man and had simply been taking hormone replacement since he was 12 and since had the neccasary surgury to complete the transformation - now because he had started so young his features though strong werre very feminine and in fact i dont think i knew a single guy who would not have sat up and begged lol - suffice to say the home audience knew that she was in fact a he (genetically at least) - surprisingly they got down to the last 3 and she picked a winner - and THEN they were told the truth - funnily enough they never screened the guys reaction to the news - but you can imagine the stories that surfaced lol, suffice to say the winner declined the prize of 2 weeks alone on a yacht with this woman lol.

Anyway in response to the question, no, i wouldnt compete for a woman that was not mine, however, 
would i steamroller over a guy like the angry viking i can be to defend the woman that IS mine? Hell yes, to my dying breath.

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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 10:59:59 AM   
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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 11:35:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		Me compete over a man?....No, because for woman it only causes drama. Friends lost, rumors spread, ect. Woman are aweful to each other when wanting the same man. Any way there are enough other men that i don't see why i should have to. If the man wants me, he'll follow suit.

Second point, as a woman being fought over. I wouldn't like it, but if he thinks i am going to come crawling to him....hell no! I guess in my dreamy submisive way I want a Dom who will claim me.

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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 4:02:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		This is all about "15 minutes of fame".

Every one of these people, win or lose, ends up getting on magazine covers, gets asked to sit in on the Tonight Show, etc.

It ain't for the hopes of finding a good woman...it's all about the Benjamins.

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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 5:18:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		See, it was some black lady that was being interviewed on a TV show.  She thought she was some kind of hot or something I guess.  All I could think about was how I could reach through the TV and punch her in the head.  Anyways, they were showing clips of her pathetic show and that is what gave rise to my question.  I was just wondering what kind of guys could be that lame, and then on top of it all be even lamer in chasing after a dumb twat like her.

The whole thing made absolutely no sense to me at all.  Heh.  I can easily see why she was turned down by two other guys though.  She needs to be brought down a ladder or two.

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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 5:59:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		I saw an episode or two of one of those shows, a few years back, and I seem to recall that in one of them the winner had the choice between receiving the supposed lust object for whom they were all competing or a bucket of money.  That changes the dynamics a bit.  And in one where women competed for a man, not only was there the bucket of money at the end, but they were all given increasingly valuable jewellery for every episode in which they avoided elimination.

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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 6:49:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		So it is all about the cake.  Well, considering the things people will do for money, I guess that helps shed light on things.

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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 8:08:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have been meaning to ask this question -
 
Why do you keep watching TV shows that disgust you that
feature people you despise? 


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All I could think about was how I could reach through the TV and punch her in the head. 


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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 9:13:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Vendaval

I have been meaning to ask this question -
 
Why do you keep watching TV shows that disgust you that
feature people you despise? 


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ORIGINAL: SirKenin
All I could think about was how I could reach through the TV and punch her in the head. 



Lol.  Fair question.  I am not watching them, per se.  My partner is.  I just happen to be in the same vicinity on my computer at the time.  I overhear all this drivel and when I look up I can watch the TV from where I sit.

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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 10:07:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yeah, I used to have a roommate that watched shows
of the same dubious quality.  I just got up and left the
room.  But are you not the one in control of the remote?
 
You might try the technique I used to observe with
the retired parents of a friend.  The husband effectively
shut off all communication by doing 3 things -

1. turning a sports game on the TV
2. wearing his headphones to listen the radio announcer
   for the game
3. reading the sports page in the newspaper at the same time


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Lol.  Fair question.  I am not watching them, per se.  My partner is.  I just happen to be in the same vicinity on my computer at the time.  I overhear all this drivel and when I look up I can watch the TV from where I sit.


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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 10:41:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with your responses.   I think we all compete on some level for that which we want; granting some competitions are done in a more refined manner.   I also wonder what these folks would compete for, if not a woman?   I don't mean competition like physically beating 10 people in order to win her affections; but anyone with any social skill knows that he/she has to have and demonstrate some desirable quality (innate or aquired) in order to be desired by the other.  M

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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/8/2007 11:00:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Vendaval

Yeah, I used to have a roommate that watched shows
of the same dubious quality.  I just got up and left the
room.  But are you not the one in control of the remote?
 
You might try the technique I used to observe with
the retired parents of a friend.  The husband effectively
shut off all communication by doing 3 things -

1. turning a sports game on the TV
2. wearing his headphones to listen the radio announcer
   for the game
3. reading the sports page in the newspaper at the same time


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ORIGINAL: SirKenin

Lol.  Fair question.  I am not watching them, per se.  My partner is.  I just happen to be in the same vicinity on my computer at the time.  I overhear all this drivel and when I look up I can watch the TV from where I sit.



I have no interest in controlling the TV whatsoever.  First, I hate TV so I do not use it anyways.  If she wants to get use out of it, power to her.  I do not micromanage, that is a hard limit for me.  I am not a babysitter.  She is welcome to watch whatever she wants.  She gets enjoyment out of it so it is all good.  It is not my choice, but what the hell.

But it is funny that some of the shows she watches hightlight how many idiots there are in this world.  I will admit, though, some of the stuff she watches can be pretty interesting.

But again, she likes it and that is all that matters.

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RE: Would you compete for a woman? - 2/9/2007 12:04:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have two words for that: Attention Whore.  And I'm not just talking about the chick.  The guys get that award, too.

However, the Attention Whore Grand Prize Trophy goes to....DUM DUM DUM...the entire cast of Survivor!  Give yourselves a big pat on the back guys!  (We know you do it all the time anyway.)

Edited to add:  I think the penalty/prize for willingly attention whoring yourself out to a mass media dating show should be that the winner have to have sloppy, disgusting sex in a vat of chicken grease with the person they've vyed for.  That would make them take true love a little more seriously.  Because true love's about the only thing that would get most people down and dirty in a vat of chicken grease.

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