RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depression differently?

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depression differently?

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depression differently?

Page: << < prev 2 3 4 [5] 6 next > >>

Login

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 7:41:40 AM

MasterFireMaam

Posts: 5587
Joined: 3/1/2006
From: Charleston, WV
Status: offline

You're dealing with an influx of chemicals that you normally don't get...then the withdrawal once they're gone. You've felt these affects if you drink at all or from other activities, too. Just keep and eye out and make sure you have all your coping mechanisms in place, especially people to spend time with when you get home.

Master Fire

_____________________________

The power of who we are can be intoxicating. The power of who we could be is humbling.
-----
Ms Relationship Books
-----
BDSM How-To Books

(in reply to SusanofO)

Post #: 81

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 9:51:00 AM

popeye1250

Posts: 18104
Joined: 1/27/2006
From: New Hampshire
Status: offline

Not being a sub I really don't know about "sub-drop."
I can say though that being bi-polar the "high" can be intense.
Mine could be triggered by alchohol.
I could drink for 3 days with very little sleep and do all kinds of things.
Any "normal" person would pass out after 8 hours of drinking.
My mind "raced" so much I couldn't sleep.
I've been on Lithium for a while now and it works very well!
I sleep better and am more "balanced."
So if you're bi-polar or just depressed go to a doctor and they'll fix you up.

(in reply to MasterFireMaam)

Post #: 82

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 10:08:47 AM

Tiredone

Posts: 4
Joined: 2/9/2007
Status: offline

I am on anti depressants. dont seem to be working, My sub / lover left me. I went completely out of control sent tons of bs email was almost phycotic, OD'd on pills, really made things worse than they have ever been, now I have completley alienated her and what little friends I had. So some advice dont get attached to your subs, keep it strictly session only. Don't end up like me

(in reply to SusanofO)

Post #: 83

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 10:35:00 AM

juliaoceania

Posts: 21383
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: obey1

quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I always assumed it was related to aftercare and making sure one eats well, rests well, and does not let their sugar levels plummet.

Julia, it is me and you again.

Aftercare is a very important part of reaching sub-space. What are your experiences? I need to go to the bathroom and recompose.

I have aftercare whenever I have felt the need for it. My Dom is rather responsive to me. I try not to over play these needs to get attention, but he is rather tender with me after a scene. My recovery time depends on many things.

It is like having a fitness regime, how much sleep you have gotten, what you eat, how much you exercise, whether your immune system is stressed are all going to impact you. Like you with body building.. some workouts just go better than others, right? Same with BDSM.

I am an endorphin junkie. I have been depressed in the past, and exercise is a key component to feeling well. The rush into subspace is different from exercise, but for some of us the biochemical reaction has some of the same components.

As far as sugar levels dropping, when one expends a lot of energy they can have their sugar levels drop. In my case eating fruit or other carb after a scene with lots of liquids is helpful. Even a glass of wine can help. Part of what causes a hangover is the drop in sugar in one's blood stream, I see subspace as having this component too.

I think that another aspect of subspace is a spiritual one. I do not separate the body from emotional states.. they are inextricably linked. So if I exchange power with nothing back in return in the form of energy exchange this could set me up for a drop. We are all just pure energy, and dominance and submission in my mind is a real way that human beings transfer energy and reflect it back at one another.

I do not expect people to agree with all my points, but from my reading and experience, this is my loose theory on it, which may change once I have better info.

_____________________________

Once you label me, you negate me ~ Soren Kierkegaard

Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

(in reply to obey1)

Post #: 84

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 10:41:04 AM

juliaoceania

Posts: 21383
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline

One more point after reading this thread. I have noticed that many on anti depressants either do not experience subspace or subdrop while on the meds. Perhaps I read this wrong, but if that is the case, it is rather telling that subspace is a biochemical reaction in the brain. Anyone that has experienced subspace while on meds will hopefully respond to this post and show that reading on it is a mistaken one. It is a rather interesting possibility.

_____________________________

Once you label me, you negate me ~ Soren Kierkegaard

Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

(in reply to juliaoceania)

Post #: 85

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 10:44:03 AM

Tiredone

Posts: 4
Joined: 2/9/2007
Status: offline

what is subspace i am on anti depressants 40mg Paxil

(in reply to juliaoceania)

Post #: 86

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 10:54:18 AM

KatyLied

Posts: 13029
Joined: 2/24/2005
From: Pennsylvania
Status: offline

I'm not on mood altering meds and I've never experienced sub drop/space. I always thought you had to endure a lot of pain to go there?

_____________________________

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”
- Albert Einstein

(in reply to Tiredone)

Post #: 87

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 11:15:55 AM

juliaoceania

Posts: 21383
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I'm not on mood altering meds and I've never experienced sub drop/space. I always thought you had to endure a lot of pain to go there?

All people are different. It can become like a pavlovian response too. For example I can have a subspace type of reaction just from having my hair pulled. It it not a heavy duty subspace, but it is a level of it. I can feel it slightly, but Sinergy says my eyes glaze over slightly when he pulls my hair, and my body has a distinct "give" to it.

My deepest subspace was caused by a face slap that I was not expecting, and my head just buzzed from it, I literally sunk, my whole body slumped. Later he showed me how hard he had slapped me, it was really only a tap to my face, but because I was blindfolded and hands tied above me, my brain processed it in an exaggerated way. So again, I would say the mind and the body are so connected that it can be the perception that causes the reaction as much as the reality of it.

Edited to add, Sinergy wants the reaction more than he wants to inflict pain, sometimes his entire goal is just to make me loopy on endorphins because he enjoys how giddy I get after we play. I get rather silly afterwards.

< Message edited by juliaoceania -- 2/9/2007 11:17:49 AM >

_____________________________

Once you label me, you negate me ~ Soren Kierkegaard

Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

(in reply to KatyLied)

Post #: 88

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 11:20:04 AM

SusanofO

Posts: 5672
Joined: 12/19/2005
Status: offline

Just wanted to thank everyone for all for all of the replies and good suggestions. I am taking them all to heart and will use them. Thanks for the support and good advice.

- Susan

_____________________________

"Hope is the thing with feathers,
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
And never stops at all". - Emily Dickinson

(in reply to Celeste43)

Post #: 89

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 11:22:09 AM

KatyLied

Posts: 13029
Joined: 2/24/2005
From: Pennsylvania
Status: offline

quote:

All people are different.

I think I have some sort of mental resistance to it. I've felt light and tired, but never anything that made me feel as though I was losing control.

_____________________________

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”
- Albert Einstein

(in reply to juliaoceania)

Post #: 90

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 11:27:24 AM

SweetSarijane

Posts: 3788
Joined: 10/7/2005
From: KC area Missouri
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

One more point after reading this thread. I have noticed that many on anti depressants either do not experience subspace or subdrop while on the meds. Perhaps I read this wrong, but if that is the case, it is rather telling that subspace is a biochemical reaction in the brain. Anyone that has experienced subspace while on meds will hopefully respond to this post and show that reading on it is a mistaken one. It is a rather interesting possibility.

I didn't think to mention it being so focused on the drop, but I actually do hit subspace and notably more frequently than I drop. I love flying and floating like that, totally losing myself in sensation and drifting freely. For me to hit subspace is related to the intensity of the play ie the more intense, the more likely I am to hit subspace and go deeply into it.

_____________________________

Sarah2
Deviant Mind
Wild Side Readers KCSass

(in reply to juliaoceania)

Post #: 91

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 11:29:46 AM

SweetSarijane

Posts: 3788
Joined: 10/7/2005
From: KC area Missouri
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I'm not on mood altering meds and I've never experienced sub drop/space. I always thought you had to endure a lot of pain to go there?

Not necessarily a lot of pain, but very intense sensation does it for me. I think it varies from individual to individual really.

_____________________________

Sarah2
Deviant Mind
Wild Side Readers KCSass

(in reply to KatyLied)

Post #: 92

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 11:30:35 AM

Daddyslilgirl67

Posts: 1
Joined: 1/30/2007
Status: offline

I hope no one minds that I drop in and say something here. I have dealt with having depression since I was a kid. I have noticed that when Master and I have had a session, the amount of sub drop and how long it lasts depends on what is going on in my life at that time. If I have been really stressed out from having a bad week at school, and we have an intense session, than my sub drop might last longer than usual. After care is one of the most important areas after a session. If it is not the sub drop can last a long time, and have a very emotional impact on a person.

(in reply to SusanofO)

Post #: 93

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 11:35:54 AM

juliaoceania

Posts: 21383
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

quote:

All people are different.

I think I have some sort of mental resistance to it. I've felt light and tired, but never anything that made me feel as though I was losing control.

I think that there are different types of physiological reactions, and one does not have to lose complete control over their faculties to be in subspace. I have had that happen twice, but I consider subspace to be something physiological and biochemical, like being high. One does not have to pass out from alcohol to be drunk for example. One can have a few drinks and be tipsy and still have fun.

The first time we played I had trouble talking the rest of the day, and was extremely giggly... I consider this to be part of subspace in addition to the floaty part. I can feel the chemicals flood my brain.

_____________________________

Once you label me, you negate me ~ Soren Kierkegaard

Reality has a well known Liberal Bias ~ Stephen Colbert

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people. Eleanor Roosevelt

(in reply to KatyLied)

Post #: 94

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 11:37:26 AM

sexyone4you

Posts: 613
Joined: 8/17/2006
Status: offline

In general, if you talk with your Dom and he is a considerate and caring person who will do aftercare, you should really be fine. Just keep up open, honest communication with him.

(in reply to SusanofO)

Post #: 95

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 11:44:24 AM

DiurnalVampire

Posts: 8125
Joined: 1/19/2006
From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline

just a quick reply
EVERYTHING affects people with depression differently.
If you know you have a problem with depression, then you and your Master have to watch your reactions to things closely to know how to handle what comes up. Your reactions wil not follow a predictable pattern, and you and He will have to figured things out before you get extremely involved so that it can be the best scenarios for you both.

DV

_____________________________

I will be your Dominate if you will be my submit - Fox

Snarko Ergo Sum
If you cannot change your mind, how are you so sure you still have one? -proverb

*Owner of Fox - collared 10/13/07*
VampiresLair

(in reply to sexyone4you)

Post #: 96

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 11:54:26 AM

SusanofO

Posts: 5672
Joined: 12/19/2005
Status: offline

DiurnalVampire: Good point - about everyone being individual when it comes to depression and dealing with this issue. I've discussed this with my Dominant, but we might well have another discussion about it - I don't think he realizes how very concerned I am about possibly this becoming an issue, and I don't want to ever disppoint him re: Any extra-depressive "sub-drop" - or an unanticipated response on my part to bdsm activity. I have no doubt he'd be relatively understanding, I just want to decide how we'd handle it - before it happens (if it does, which I hope it doesn't).

- Susan

< Message edited by SusanofO -- 2/9/2007 12:36:38 PM >

_____________________________

"Hope is the thing with feathers,
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
And never stops at all". - Emily Dickinson

(in reply to DiurnalVampire)

Post #: 97

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 12:17:38 PM

cjenny

Posts: 1736
Joined: 11/27/2006
Status: offline

julia, you asked if meds negated sub space. For me it doesn't at all. Sometimes I think I am closer to sub space.. finding words here sorry,... I think I am closer because my medication causes heightened sensations. So does the fibro/lupus for that matter. Hmph I just negated my own point dang it!

KatyLied, I don't receive much pain. He can make me go there by just teasing me for ages denying any release. I go there with a good spanking too

but he is never severe with me physically.

Wow I have really worked thru a whole bunch of pain/medical & BDSM issues here at CM. It has all been invaluable.

_____________________________

*Unless I cite a source it is MO.

~ ssssh. i think i've just found freedom. ~

(in reply to juliaoceania)

Post #: 98

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 12:36:43 PM

KatyLied

Posts: 13029
Joined: 2/24/2005
From: Pennsylvania
Status: offline

I always feel like I'm missing something huge when people start talking about subspace and dropping (although I guess dropping is bad, and I don't need any more of that).

_____________________________

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”
- Albert Einstein

(in reply to cjenny)

Post #: 99

RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depress... - 2/9/2007 12:47:51 PM

SusanofO

Posts: 5672
Joined: 12/19/2005
Status: offline

cjenny: If you are looking for an anti-depressant that will not have sexual side-effects (like completely erasing your sex drive) - Serzone is excellent, and I've read that Wellbutrin is also good as far as this goes.

- Susan

_____________________________

"Hope is the thing with feathers,
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
And never stops at all". - Emily Dickinson

(in reply to KatyLied)

Post #: 100

Page: << < prev 2 3 4 [5] 6 next > >>

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Does "sub-drop" affect those with depression differently?

Page: << < prev 2 3 4 [5] 6 next > >>

Jump to:

New Messages	No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages	Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages	Locked w/o New Messages

Post New Thread

Reply to Message

Post New Poll

Submit Vote

Delete My Own Post

Delete My Own Thread

Rate Posts

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

0.078