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RE: good wife spin off - 2/10/2007 7:53:19 AM

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I think even if you have a house full of kids you can wear things your spouse likes, brush your teeth and hair before you get to him in the bathroom at your office before you go home, and kiss him like you mean it once you two come back together after being separated.
It only takes a second to spruce things up a bit for your partner.
I usually came home from work, changed into a house dress or in summer a little cotton one, and no panties on, and then proceeded to straighten up and prepare our meals.
Yes it's effort, but really not that much effort once it becomes a habit for you.
I love being in service to the man I love.
I love doing little special things to let him know I care.
Even when I lived with someone with my 2 and his 3 kids all under the age of ten we found time for a warm greeting, special attire for him, and serving him throughout the evening.
If you're really so busy you have no time to primp and preen there are still stitches in time you can use to make him feel special every day.
In turn he isn't dreading coming home because he expects you to dump your frustrations on him right when he gets home.
Instead he'd have a warmer more fuzzy though knowing you're there with a smile waiting for him with expectation or coming through the door after him and being happy to see him.
Spend the little time to decompress & reconnect 1 then bring up your day as you need to after you've greeted each other remembering how wonderful it is to have them back in your company again IMO.
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RE: good wife spin off - 2/10/2007 10:14:07 AM

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And once again this is why I think keeping things great is the job of two people. I remember the very first man I would consider my dominant.
We both worked for the same company, kept similar hours and did similar labor. I had my place, he had his. But he would come over every night after going home to shower and clean up, knock on my door and give me the warmest smile. And a kiss that still makes my toes curl when I look back at our years together. I, in turn, had prepared dinner and set the table, showered and dressed in something I knew he would like.
Doing anything or everything for him was always my joy. I think because he always made me feel special.
The model presented in the 50's housewife is fine, but presents life as if it is his job to bring home the bacon and suffer the horrors of working in the outside world. And her life as if she has nothing else to do but train the kids to be silent when he arrives. I can remember those years. The only thing I remember about my dad is that he came home drunk more often than not. My mom was not allowed to complain about it. And we kids spent a lot of time in our rooms (or my closet), or ducking out the window.
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Instead he'd have a warmer more fuzzy though knowing you're there with a smile waiting for him with expectation or coming through the door after him and being happy to see him.
Spend the little time to decompress & reconnect 1 then bring up your day as you need to after you've greeted each other remembering how wonderful it is to have them back in your company again

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RE: good wife spin off - 2/10/2007 4:19:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: onestandingstill

It only takes a second to spruce things up a bit for your partner.
I usually came home from work, changed into a house dress or in summer a little cotton one, and no panties on, and then proceeded to straighten up and prepare our meals.
Yes it's effort, but really not that much effort once it becomes a habit for you.

Doing these things become habit just like brushing your teeth before work, not forgetting to take medicine, making your bed.. etc , etc.. i agree that these things dont really require that much effort once it becomes a habit. If you have children you wouldn't forget to feed them right? You'd make sure your pets have fresh water right? You wipe up a spill after it happens right?

Master/Mistress, Domme/Dom, significant other gets home and you greet them appropriately because it has become a part of you. Lunches, dinners, snacks are ready because again it has become habit. You know they may want a bite to eat. Ya know. You bring them a drink or refill in between throwing laundry in the washer because as you pass them it occurs to you you havent brought them their nightly beverage. Again, all these things just become habit and they are habits that you couldn't imagine not having once they have been instilled in you. This to me makes one a good wife, sub, slave, pet etc..

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RE: good wife spin off - 4/18/2007 6:02:45 AM

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ORIGINAL: mixielicouswhat a lucky master

origional thread can be found here

here is a list of "how to be a good wife"

Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.

Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.

Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.

During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.

Be happy to see him.

Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

Don't greet him with complaints and problems.

Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.

Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

A good wife always knows her place.

so i can understand why women who are pro-feminist can easily be upset by this, [because back in '55 -true- this was NOT a choice]
... or why woman who grew up watching their mothers behave as such while all the while bored to tears - also shun the idea

meanwhile i grew up watching the opposite and my mother being unable to keep a man around. connection?

but i am honestly surprised at the lack of women/subs/slaves/etc, who agree that this makes .... not nesc a good wife, but a good sub/slave. i feel any who identify as such and have the opportunity to be live in/long term should strive to meet these standards.

this is how i live my life, and i could easily use this article as my daily routine

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RE: good wife spin off - 4/20/2007 7:28:03 PM

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being this 1950's wife is EXACTLY what i want to be! it wont make me a better sub but it will allow me to be the best one i can be...........

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RE: good wife spin off - 4/21/2007 4:37:52 AM

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ORIGINAL: jayded34

being this 1950's wife is EXACTLY what i want to be! it wont make me a better sub but it will allow me to be the best one i can be...........

very very true

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RE: good wife spin off - 4/21/2007 5:15:38 AM

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i grew up watching my mother create that household for my father, they are about to celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary and niether I nor my siblings have ever known them to fight with eachother. The home i grew up in was warm, stable and secure, my parents create a balance of their roles which was very traditional. Just because my mother did all of those thngs it didn't stop her being an intelligent, tough, dedicated career woman as well, she was not down trodden by my father and he was not a tyrant to be feared.

Due to the way i have been brought up, that image of domestic bliss, and those instructions of the good wife, are simply how i expect and desire to live with my life partner, i would be doing that even if i was vanilla.

The real message i get from that list is the importance of never assuming you - your thought sneeds worries - are of more importance than His, It may be so, he may not have had a shocker of a day at work, he might be just fine and dandy, but you do not know that when he walks through the door. This is something that really strikes with me, when i am an owned girl, i will seek to be the calm, the peace, the constant devotion in His life. i will strive to be the one person, that lives for Him and for His happiness. I really get that vibe from the 1950s house, she is all about making him happy and welcome, how wonderful is her job!!

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RE: good wife spin off - 4/21/2007 5:32:25 AM

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I think the difference is that today we have a choice. If this model were the only choice available, whether the man acted like a prince or a jackass, it would be odious to me too.

"i am honestly surprised at the lack of women/subs/slaves/etc, who agree that this makes .... not nesc a good wife, but a good sub/slave. "

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