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WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slaves ha... - 2/10/2007 3:54:54 PM   
MistressSophia


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Status: offline 		We all know that subs/slaves have a driving force within them,to server, to have that power exchange. So if the question was posed by their Mistress/Master. What binds you to me? your collar or a contract? love and devotion. but those are not the quesation. Lets hear from males as well as female slaves.
This should be interesting.

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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/10/2007 4:01:13 PM   
BabyNyla


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Status: offline 		Well ... I don't have a collar or a contract, so those wouldn't bind me at the moment ... although my wedding ring does, lol.  I would say I am attached to my husband because I love him and I crave him.  Making him happy makes me happy in return and I couldn't imagine doing any of that for another person.  He is the first Dom I have met who has instilled a desire to be submissive inside me (prior to him I dommed for 8 years).  The more I got to know him the more I wanted him and we eventually began training, followed by marraige, and in March/April I will be collared and given a contract.  But for now, his personality binds me to him
 
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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/10/2007 4:21:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		There is no question that i am fiercely devoted and passionately in love with Thorns.  If He were to present that question to me and He has....my answer:
"That burning desire that i have absolutely no control over and  which resonates within me.  I could not change this anymore than i could change breathing.  Your guidance and hand upon my life has engulfed my whole being."

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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/10/2007 4:29:42 PM   
ToServeIsToLive


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Status: offline 		Contracts and collars are just symbols to me; what's in my head is much stronger than what those could be (except maybe if it's a steel collar with a short chain leash...).  To me, being submissive feels extremely natural, which causes me to seek out such relationships (a prerequisite to a binding relationship).  Staying in one would probably be a combination of my appreciation of the one I'm with and my sense of honor.  There's very few things that would cause me to break such a relationship.

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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/10/2007 5:30:19 PM   
goodpet


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Status: offline 		i agree that the collar and contract is just the outward signs of what is inside. i serve and am bond to Him out of duty, loyally, devotion, and love.
It is what is inside the mind and heart that does the binding. That is why we see so many Velcro collars around.

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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/10/2007 6:10:16 PM   
WillowRain


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Status: offline 		WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?

Interesting question and answering the specifics of how that works between my Sir and myself would be too complicated and personal to get into in this format.

But more globally. If I think about the people that I naturally natively recognize as dominant. What binds me into the drive to help them, to treat them with respect and do that dance that is done between a dominant and a submissive on a basic human level? What binds me the most? What brings me to the dance with some people?

I think it is that they make it safe for me to be authentically who I am. They make room for me to be submissive. They are comfortable in their dominance. I can give to them freely and know that they will not abuse me or my nature. That's a pretty big gift and when I meet people who can move in those spaces with me it is a pleasure to be good to them, and do the little things that I am allowed to do. Like remember exactly how they like their coffee, or be a polite and attentive listener for them, or heck, help them load the barbacue with goodies. Service isn't all about sex, it is about the thousand little things.

Room to be myself, binds me the most.

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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/10/2007 6:10:30 PM   
myobedience


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Status: offline 		a collar will NEVER bind me to a Dom...it is His spirit, His need, His acceptance of me, His communication and who i am deeply within me in regards to waht He has told me and my intuition......
it is a binding of the souls

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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/10/2007 6:16:15 PM   
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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/10/2007 7:08:32 PM   
Caitriona


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Status: offline 		My love for My Lord and husband drive me to serve Him with all that I am.

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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/10/2007 8:49:08 PM   
hisannabelle


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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/10/2007 10:08:29 PM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		Daddy doesn't need to ask me what binds me the most to Him for He already knows the answer.  what binds myself to Him is the unique relationship that we have - a loving, caring partnership in which we share many things in common as vanillas as well as in BDSM.  

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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/10/2007 10:41:31 PM   
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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/11/2007 1:24:34 AM   
sub4LTR35952


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"Necessity is the plea for every infringement of human freedom. It is the argument of tyrants; it is the creed of slaves." William Pitt
 
Perhaps Mr. Pitt inadvertently summed up the BDSM concept over two centuries ago with the above statement. Further still, in a word, necessity. It is the byword from which one surrenders personal control and choice to another. Why else would willing offer mind, body and soul for the personal pleasure of another or others. Somehow needs are being met: emotional, psychologically or physical, which are personally fulfilling, more so even that personal freedom. Personally speaking, the connection established by willingly and completely surrendering totally to my Mistress/Lover provides a level of bonding unknown in vanilla relationships. Because of that personal necessity to bond on such a deep level, personal choice and control are sacrificed. My two cents anyway.

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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/11/2007 4:52:34 AM   
Aileen68


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressSophia

We all know that subs/slaves have a driving force within them,to server, to have that power exchange. So if the question was posed by their Mistress/Master. What binds you to me? your collar or a contract? love and devotion. but those are not the quesation. Lets hear from males as well as female slaves.
This should be interesting.


My desire to experience different sensations and control is the only thing that brings me to a dom.    Sometimes it causes me to make very poor choices.  I've never been collared or had a contract.  I've never had a relationship beyond something casual, so nothing binds me to him.

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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/11/2007 5:17:47 AM   
catize


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< Message edited by catize -- 2/11/2007 5:19:16 AM >

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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/11/2007 5:56:56 AM   
princess4Sir


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Status: offline 		that is a GREAT answer    thanks for starting my day off with a smile

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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/11/2007 6:58:30 AM   
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I would be bound without the collar, without the tattoo, those are simply symbols.
 
It is the friendship, the heat, the tenderness, the smiles, the unconditional love in it's myriad forms.

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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/11/2007 7:15:45 AM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

We all know that subs/slaves have a driving force within them,to server, to have that power exchange.


I do not feel I have a driving force within me to serve. I love doing things for my Daddy, but I would not call it a driving force. So I cannot really answer the rest of your question

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What binds you to me? your collar or a contract?

Neither of these binds me, they are both just symbols of a level of commitment. Commitment based upon love binds me

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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/11/2007 7:18:04 AM   
Wildfleurs


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressSophia

We all know that subs/slaves have a driving force within them,to server, to have that power exchange. So if the question was posed by their Mistress/Master. What binds you to me? your collar or a contract? love and devotion. but those are not the quesation. Lets hear from males as well as female slaves.
This should be interesting.


I'd say what binds me to my owner is a committment to be his, love, and devotion to him.  There's also a strong underpinning of lust, a sincere and strong friendship, and a physical craving for him (I have literally been known to smell him... I've just gotten used to and addicted to the smell of him).

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RE: WHAT BINDS YOU THE MOST?We all know that subs/slave... - 2/11/2007 7:41:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

what binds myself to Him is the unique relationship that we have - a loving, caring partnership in which we share many things in common as vanillas as well as in BDSM.  


well said...I could elaborate, but in the end, it is all of the things we share that binds us together.  his collar is just a symbol, and a reminder to me when we are apart, of how much we mean to each other.

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