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dollparts85 -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 12:01:26 PM)
I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life :( I want to get married and have a family some day...

MagiksSlave -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 12:16:19 PM)
Oh and I can see you are totaly going about doing it the right way. Magik's slave

dollparts85 -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 12:25:32 PM)
Well, aren't I supposed to slowly start doing sex stuff so I get used to it? How else am I supposed to get used to it? I have PTSD...so its hard for me...

sensualmagirl -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 12:29:09 PM)
yes, and it will happen when the time is right... but, you have to love yourself before you can love anyone else... look internally before you look externally... Also you are on a BDSM website, you really have to have your head together, know inside of you if this is right for you or not. According to your profile, you are 21... however, you sound much younger to me by your comments. Nonetheless, you have a lot of time to worry about these things... and in that time, you really do need to discover who you are, what you want, what you need to be happy. Again, I say as I said before, look what you wrote, ask yourself about them, and if you really need to, get yourself a B.O.B. in the meantime until the right person for you comes along. A watched pot never boils... things happen when you least expect them. Good luck.

MagiksSlave -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 12:32:52 PM)
actually no phone sex and online sex is not going to really help you get used to it.... They are very very different then the real thing. Magik's slave

dollparts85 -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 12:39:14 PM)
it helps me get used to the idea...instead of feeling like I'm going to throw up all the time...I can start enjoying it...at least I've began enjoying camming...I think it'll just take time for me to start enjoying the phone too...its just new and it'll take time...maybe a few more months...

hisannabelle -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 12:40:34 PM)
i have ptsd as well as many others on here. having phone sex with someone who's simply using you to get off will not make it any better. building a trust-filled relationship with someone who is honest, sincere, and actually gives a damn about you, your emotions, and your sexuality, will help. until then, you are just digging yourself deeper.

dollparts85 -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 12:43:35 PM)
b.o.b?

MagiksSlave -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 12:44:06 PM)
Ok well I dont get it you come here and ask us if something is worng here and you are beeing used... almost everyone says yes.. but then you go on to depfend it.. and why you are going to keep doing it.. Fine do as you please but then dont come here and complain about it if you arent going to at least pretend to listen... What you are doing will most likeling make your issues worse you arent going about healing yourslef the righ way but nothing we say here is gunna do a shittin thing to help becasue you dont want to hear it. Magik's slave

HydroMaster -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 12:45:30 PM)
Well, I'm not much into phone sex myself but here are three options. 1.) He is in fact using you to get off and you should confront him about it...not aggressively mind you, just to discuss 2.) I forgot to check if you're a sub, slave, or what, but if he feels you are just doing the phone sex to please him he hang up thinking you're satisfied if he is. 3.) You're experiencing the phone sex equivelent of falling asleep after sex. In any event so should probably have a discussion with him about it prior to you next tele-trist.

agirl -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 12:47:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dollparts85 I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life :( I want to get married and have a family some day... That's rather natural for someone of your age. However, there are an awful lot more pleasurable ways of going about it......getting married and having a family doesn't rest on getting used to phone sex or talking dirty. Believe it or not, it can begin with something as simple as holding hands and enjoying someones company. Have you had a chat to your therapist about the chap, the phone sex and so forth? agirl

agirl -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 12:54:34 PM)
You're not going to get the equivalent of a therapist's session here, doll. agirl

texancutie -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 12:59:31 PM)
Actually dating, and getting to know someone real life, is a good way to get over any issues with sex you have. And going slow while you are getting to know one another seems to work well too. BOB is a battery operated boyfriend, buy one, experiment with it, you might find you like it. This guy you have phone sex with sounds like he is too cheap to call a phone sex line and pay for it. He is using you because you are convenient. Go ahead and do it if you like it, but it sounds like you don't. What does your therapist say about it in regards to it helping you? Just mildly curious here. I know what I would say because I am a former social worker...lol. Oh well to each his own.....

SolarisRider -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 1:01:02 PM)
For my two pennies worth ... yes he's using you. A Dom/Master ... scratch that ... any human ... would surely give you their time and effort to be interested in what you want.

dollparts85 -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 1:03:09 PM)
I haven't told my therapist anything about him and me having phone sex and stuff...

MissyRane -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 1:04:08 PM)
You should work on getting OUTSIDE first before focusing on dating you aren't old enough to be frigid already! and if you want to live a sexlife, gawd don't try starting sexlife before you can get used to going outside and gain friends. At least learn to have the priorities in order[>:]

dollparts85 -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 1:04:35 PM)
sorry I don't know why I keep defending it embarrassed I guess its cuz I care about him a lot...but I know he is using me...but I just wish he wasn't...

SolarisRider -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 1:06:29 PM)
One thing I'm wondering is if you had a wider social circle (online of in r/l) would you be as "hooked" on him?

sensualmagirl -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 1:07:52 PM)
~fast reply to OP~ If you read my other post (after I edited it) -- B.O.B. -- battery operated boyfriend... I'd take that anyday over phone sex with somone who holds a relationship over my head like a threat and then hangs up on me after climax... But, hey, that's me, you need to do what you enjoy... just listen to your gut, you want to feel like this all the time? Go ahead, enjoy, don't complain about it. Do you want to have something better, look inside of yourself/friends/family... the guy will follow... that's my last piece of advice.

dollparts85 -> RE: Question about phone sex... (2/11/2007 1:13:23 PM)
I don't even get off with the phone sex...I just pretend to... I'm not really interested in getting off...

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