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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I am thinking this will change now that transfats are going to be a thing of the past... anyone want to bet that we all start losing weight just from that?

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

What if the op asked if there was a relationship between child abuse and bdsm?   What would the reaction then be?

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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

then the OP should post some of his theories that made him so stumped ...don't you think?

Well.... I think its the old 'post a controversial and already done thread and watch everyone scramble to beat me up' trick!

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ORIGINAL: BBBTBW

This lifestyle is about being WHO you are WITHOUT the fear of OSTRIZATION and REPRISAL.  When questions such as the OP comes up, WE who are targeted feel OSTRISIZED.  This goes for any topic that targets a specific group of people.  It is only natural that we come out on the defense.  Why can't we just accept people for who they are without wondering why they are a particular way?  As long as no one is getting hurt in the process just let people be.  If you see someone of interest, show them your interest.  If they don't fit your particular interest, leave them alone.

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ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl

Here's a response...who gives a crap whether or not BDSM gals are heavier than vanilla gals. 

I mean honestly, have you nothing better to do with your time than waste mental energy pondering other people's looks?

You know why vanilla sites APPEAR to have more thin people? It's because the vanilla crowd in general is less tolerant of obesity, therefore fat people aren't as likely to list profiles on vanilla sites to begin with.

Newsflash: America is fat. Get over it. Walk into the grocery store and count the number of fat people vs thin people and you'll find that over half the adults are at least moderately overweight. I say "adults" because teens don't really count...a lot of women are thin as teens and gain after the age of 18 or so. I was one of these (went from a size 3 to a size 14 almost overnight and with little change to my diet or exercise regimen.)

The big question is why the hell does anyone care? I respect that some people want to be thin. Good for them. The rest of us will enjoy our food and find more intellectually productive things to do than spend hours on a treadmill.  Live and let live and don't worry about other people.

I'm 5ft3 and almost 200lbs. I'm also cute as all get-out. As long as I'm happy with myself, I see no need to post threads pondering the appearance/weight of other people. What they look like is just not a terribly interesting subject.

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ORIGINAL: cherylnchains

i have noticed this as well, not only on sites , but in the local groups, play parties and such.  There are all sort of issues, we age, had children, health issues such as diabetes, thyroid etc, let alone many in that change of life. i am not only about 40 lbs overweight, but always trying to lose it.
i read an article once.. where i dont remember now, but in this article it stated that most people seek pleasure, food is one of them (the whole comfort food issue).. but .. there was a comparison about brain chemicals and patterns in this article that linked food and sexual desires.  It seems from the interpretation that the brain reacts similar when we eat as to when we induldge in sexual activity.....i guess something to look into, lol.

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ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl

The rest of us will enjoy our food and find more intellectually productive things to do than spend hours on a treadmill. 

Now I disagree with you on that one GeekyGirl this thread is #1 with a bullet right now.

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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

then the OP should post some of his theories that made him so stumped ...don't you think?

Well.... I think its the old 'post a controversial and already done thread and watch everyone scramble to beat me up' trick!

it still doesn't excuse the fact that he has yet to state any theories and/or observations that made him stumped so many of us could logically discuss the topic at hand

then again i suppose i asking too much from the another insensitive poster

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ORIGINAL: cherylnchains

i have noticed this as well, not only on sites , but in the local groups, play parties and such.  There are all sort of issues, we age, had children, health issues such as diabetes, thyroid etc, let alone many in that change of life. i am not only about 40 lbs overweight, but always trying to lose it.
i read an article once.. where i dont remember now, but in this article it stated that most people seek pleasure, food is one of them (the whole comfort food issue).. but .. there was a comparison about brain chemicals and patterns in this article that linked food and sexual desires.  It seems from the interpretation that the brain reacts similar when we eat as to when we induldge in sexual activity.....i guess something to look into, lol.

'note to self...to increase weight...get me some sex...yes even if you have to PAY for it...again!' Well it is true about receptors in the brain upon stimulation and so yes I can see the comfort food issue, but isnt there a point in ones life where they care about there physique? I'm no oil painting being a firedemon but even I get councious about my appearance and there comes a point where you get off your ass and do something about it...if you have an issue with it ofcourse, if you dont well then fair enough.   

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ORIGINAL: hot1

crawls over to Obey1

can I have some ....pleaseeeeeeeeeee

beth

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ORIGINAL: michaelOfGeorgia

i mentioned shallow people, but nobody heard.

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ORIGINAL: sensualmagirl

but, come on people, give the fat girl over here a break [;)]