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DominaSmartass -> RE: hard habbit to break (2/11/2007 8:04:51 PM)
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Kate, what you are experiencing is very similar to other things (like you said) such as nail biting, hair pulling, skin picking, and more. They are called "body focussed repetitive behaviors" and they are more common than you would think. The most helpful treatments for people who really, truly want to stop (or at least decrease) is behavior modification therapy type stuff. One suggestion is to keep a little basket of toys around the house, especially in the places you normally would suck your thumb, like around the computer or tv. Things like koosh balls, silly putty, stress balls...anything tactile. Chewing gum or sucking on a hard candy might also help. I have had some experience with family members with similar issues before and one discovered a method of relaxation called "tapas acupressure technique" or TAT. You can google some of these terms and find a wealth of information. Whatever you do though, try to help your dom understand that it's not just a bad habbit. Asking someone to stop doing a body-focussed-repetitive-behavior is like giving a smoker a lit cigarette to carry around and telling them not to smoke it. Your body is always there and the behavior is or at least WAS at some point in time, serving you a purpose whether it's comforting, relaxation, or stimulation.
Goodluck!
edited to add: I also want to agree with Magikslave on this one and say that if indeed it's not something you can just stop, period, then maybe he will be more understanding and accept it as just one of your things. Everyone has something, seriously, they do. And if sucking your thumb doesn't interfere with the rest of your life and you don't do it when you should be doing other things, then what's really the harm in doing it? I know it's supposed to be like the dom's word is final and you don't need a reason other than he says so, but we're not living on Gor here (no offense, lol.) This is the real world. And unless he would prefer you take up a much more destructive behavior, maybe it he would be ok with you just limiting your thumb sucking to certain times, as you mentioned. Oh yeah, one more thing. You could ask him to help you by coming over and taking your hand out of your mouth when he sees you doing it and giving you a kiss, or any number of things.
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