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hot1 -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 8:00:34 AM)
Thank you for your opinion. But according to you i guess I should also add..I don't like chinese food....and maybe I love to have a cock in my mouth. Get real.....Noone needs to know that much about a stranger.... but thank you...you just put this whole thing into prespective for me..... yeppers...just tell the assholes to fuck off...lol beth

SirKenin -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 8:01:53 AM)
Yeah, why not suck in as many people as you can and then drop the bomb after the fact if s/he seems like a good candidate. There is a place to put weight and other things for a reason. Fuck, what a rotten, deceitful way to do business and exactly why I do not search on the internet. I hate these bullshit games and the deceit just to increase the "hits" only to find out later you wasted your fucking time. No wonder you get bitchy responses.

mnottertail -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 8:02:28 AM)
quote: and maybe I love to have a cock in my mouth. if that is only a maybe, it should be the very first thing on your profile, love..... Ron

SirKenin -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 8:04:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hot1 Thank you for your opinion. But according to you i guess I should also add..I don't like chinese food....and maybe I love to have a cock in my mouth. Get real.....Noone needs to know that much about a stranger.... but thank you...you just put this whole thing into prespective for me..... yeppers...just tell the assholes to fuck off...lol beth See, you are setting up a straw man and then you defeat it. What a pointless fucking post. When there are significant factors, and yes weight and disabilities are significant factors, you do not use deceit to increase your hits. You be honest about it up front. Sure, you will decrease the number of suckers, but at least the ones that do bite will have a higher degree of success. Again it is people like these that are the reason that I do not search on the internet. The primary one is the disturbing number of wingnuts, psychos, schizos and losers. I can not be bothered.

findmedaddy -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 8:11:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SirKenin Again it is people like these that are the reason that I do not search on the internet. The primary one is the disturbing number of wingnuts, psychos, schizos and losers. I can not be bothered. There are a lot of those, you're right. Sometimes it seems like they are in an overwhelming majority. But once in a while someone I really want to know comes along on the internet, and I've made a couple of friends that way (r/t, r/l friends). I think that's called something like "transient reinforcement," and it keeps me coming back, in hope, to look for the one who will be my most important friend.

SirKenin -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 8:28:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: findmedaddy There are a lot of those, you're right. Sometimes it seems like they are in an overwhelming majority. But once in a while someone I really want to know comes along on the internet, and I've made a couple of friends that way (r/t, r/l friends). I think that's called something like "transient reinforcement," and it keeps me coming back, in hope, to look for the one who will be my most important friend. I do not mind making friends, but I get a little sick of contacting someone and ask them a friendly question or two about their profile and a "hi, how are you doing?" and I get a rude, ignorant response back or some three word reply that was not even worth my wasted time opening. I do not make a pass at them, I do not make any sexual or superficial comments, even about a pretty lady or anything, but just comments on an exuded intelligence or something like that, just to be friendly. I am not interested in a relationship so I have no idea what their damn issue is. The funny thing is that these ignorant people come in here and then whine and complain about the quality of the responses they get (or brag about their HNG emails). So fuck it. The ones that make an effort to contact me, and there have been a few, and are decent are the ones I bother with. Otherwise they get a piece of my mind, like the whining email that was left me by a certain someone that shall remain unnamed (but look in the direction of the OP) as a result of my first post here.

sensualmagirl -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 8:37:35 AM)
~fast reply~ To the OP: I just wanted to say that even if you do put as much information in your profile as possible, you more than likely are going to have to re-inform the person who wrote to you anyhow. Once they send you an email, send them another one back saying "Did you see X, Y, and Z on my profile and are you ok with that?" When I was looking for a Dom on here, I had right in my profile, everything I could think of that would be a turn-off to someone: I'm tall/large framed/plus-sized woman (I don't put down the actual pounds because, well, I felt it was my business, not theirs)... if they didn't like plus-sized women, to keep looking. Also, put on there that I am in a poly relationship/It can not be a 24/7 TPE relationship, I want to meet someone in my area, I needed to be friends first, etc, and so on and so forth.... I discovered that when someone wrote to me, I ended up saying "Did you read my profile?" and "Just in case you missed it, here are the high-lights" -- especially when I would get an email from somebody who claimed on their profile that they only wanted Height/Weight/Proportionate women. I was never rude about it, but would just point out the things that they might have missed. Did not want any miscommunication or wasted time on either of our parts. So, I say, if you think it'll help, put your full disclosure, but, make sure to remind them again, most don't read the profiles. Just my humble opinion as well as my experiences.

hot1 -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 8:38:18 AM)
Ron darling...lol...I put that in just for you...to see how long it would take you to find the thread...lol quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail quote: and maybe I love to have a cock in my mouth. if that is only a maybe, it should be the very first thing on your profile, love..... Ron

hot1 -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 8:41:48 AM)
How many really read profiles? To be honest unless you have my interst I dont. I get to know people. I hate the phoney, fakes and liars...almost as bad as shallow people......I get a kick out of people when they get upset because I call them on it.....kinda just makes my day. I guess I am way too upfront, honest in your face type of person....what you see is exactly what you get. beth

SirKenin -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 8:47:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hot1 How many really read profiles? To be honest unless you have my interst I dont. I get to know people. I hate the phoney, fakes and liars...almost as bad as shallow people......I get a kick out of people when they get upset because I call them on it.....kinda just makes my day. I guess I am way too upfront, honest in your face type of person....what you see is exactly what you get. beth I would not pat yourself on the back. In my case you made a terrible, wrong call. And as far as being upfront and honest, you only get down right nasty and defensive and look for any opening to attack, as was evidenced in your pathetic email. If you were so upfront and honest, your disability would be in your profile... You shot yourself in the foot on that one. I am calling your bluff and surprise surprise you have nothing in your hand.

sensualmagirl -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 8:50:32 AM)
To OP... if somebody emails me, I automatically read their profile to check out what they are about. If I've interracted with someone on the message boards, I check their profile because I'm curious like that. So,yes, I check their profiles, and I read all of it. I find it interesting and informative -- even if there is nothing on it, I know they are not worth me knowing about.

sensualmagirl -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 8:59:16 AM)
oh, but, OP... I realized, I got an email recently with my new profile... which this profile doesn't say much just that I'm not looking except for maybe friends... This person had emailed me back in the summer before I met someone... and turned out only wanted phone sex... I said no back then, and I said no again this time... only this time, I sent him a form letter from CM (thanks CM for those!) because quite obviously, he didn't even glance at my profile, never mind read it, so, I didn't want to take my time to write out an email when he couldn't spend 2 seconds to read my short profile.

SirKenin -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 9:02:53 AM)
Yeah, if someone sends me an email I always read their entire profile. I like knowing who I am talking to and it also gives me an idea of common interests and further ideas for conversation. When I decide to initiate contact I always read the entire profile first and then address key points in their profile in my email. Then if they respond back with something halfway intelligent or interesting we go from there. Unfortunately they are usually rude or give three word responses. So basically I wasted my time. Oh well, it happens.

nephandi -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 9:08:03 AM)
quote: Well, I refuse to admit or live like I am disabled...but I am not so blond that I won't take the tax credit and gimp parking sticker thank you very much. I am sorry..but a big part of who I am is how I handle my medical. For not giving up and just go and sit in the chairs like the doctors say i might as well do. and dammit anyone that basically tells me I am not worth the time of day because I can't wear heels....i just want to string up by the nuts And that attitude show you are a strong, fine woman whit pricipels, if the man that posted to you did not get his high heels kick, just ingore him, he was acting like a baby, you were acting mature, you can do alot better than that.

LaTigresse -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 9:12:48 AM)
I am going to say that short of giving out personal, confidential type info..as in social security number (silly boy) anything that you imagine could be relevant to what it is you are hoping to accomplish. If I was looking for someone into foot worship I would post a picture of my feet (it would suck to have someone all ready to...worship....and have them get up close and person with said appendage and say "EWWWWWWW YUCK!!! You have ugly feet!!!!!" not that I think they are but, well, you get the idea) and I would mention that I won't be in high heels all day everyday due to some occasional pain caused by my ungodly high arches. If you are looking for a relationship that involves service and you have a medical/physical condition that might affect your service then yes, you should probably disclose it ASAP. Given the all-fire hot topic of weight on these forums I also believe being honest about that is important. Unless I change my ways and become a masochist I doubt I will ever become uber-thin and if someone should decide they want to meet me they are probably going to notice that I am not a size 4. Put a 1 in front of that and you will get a realistic picture. Basically I think the more you put out there for the world to read the easier it is to deal with a real life face on meeting. I mean, why on earth would you want to play a role on here only to be attracted to someone and then not be able to face them because you built yourself a straw house of lies??

hot1 -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 9:14:17 AM)
I guess with me it goes back to someting someone told me.......you can spend hours on a profile, even get someone else to write it for you....but you cannot tell anything about a person until you interac with them. I answer every email...sometimes it is short....depends on what they ask. I mean if someone asks can you relocate I might simply responce with a no...lol but I am told that I am one of the few that do respond.......unless it is something so bad that i just hit delete and block, but then I think i usually send an email saying you are now blocked.

lilsubl -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 9:34:35 AM)
if one reads my profile & journal entries, one will know that my former Master has released me & that i need pain...this morning, i received an email asking me if my Master allowed me to seek sex elsewhere...i was more amused than anything, sent him a response to the effect that i appreciated his interest, but obviously he hadn't read or understood what was stated in my profile & to have a nice day...i refuse to allow people like that--morons & trolls, in my opinion--to have any control over my mood or my actions....if you choose to, put it in your profile what your limitations are...if you would rather deal with that on a case by case basis, keep your profile as it is...just don't let those kinds of emails dictate your mood or actions......

duckykarma -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 9:40:49 AM)
I am honest on my profile, at least as honest as i would be to someone walking down the street....Yes I have a 2year old kid and I thought it was important to put that on my profile..however i dont put extremely personal stuff on my profile becauase if the person is willing to get to know me and they ask certin questions for example do you like blow jobs i tell them no and give them my reason...but thats not something i would just tell everybody...especially if i dont think they are worth my time..i also dont respond to ppl who have nothing in their profile or a picture....

hot1 -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 9:46:01 AM)
I am told that maybe I should have more about myself in my profile...but I would rather go one on one. I simply say the basics...and as I get closer to that person the more they know. I treat everyone the same way I get treated...for example if you send me a nice email..i will respond in a nice email, ask me a short yes/no question...i will respond with yes or no. Be mean and/or rude....I might just take your head off....lol I was curious as to what people thought, very much like the case of domiguy asking about his tagline.....is not that he was going to change it..was just curious as to what people included and why. I get upset when anyone is told they are trash because of one reason, and tend to go hunting...not just when it is done to me....because very rarely do I get attacked, and usually only online....lol..my real life friends just keep saying I never want you to be pissed at me....and even here it is because someone has simply not taken the time to get to know me. And if you take the time and still don't like the person...then simply don't bother with them...no need to attack or flame...I don't get the flames. I don't get someone trying to hurt another and doing it just for game...but damm i see it over and over on email lists and forums. But I do agree with LT about if you were seeking something in specific that should be in your profile. Since I am here for friends and if it leads somewhere great if not.... I know at times I simply notice a profile and say wow...nice profile..good luck in your search, don't bother to respond I am not the one you are looking for because of....distance, health, or whatever the reason...but just wanted to say you are right on......or something in that matter....not that I look at a lot..but only if you catch my interest first...in a good way or bad. And lately I have been emailing people and telling them how much I enjoy them on the forums....lol beth

juliaoceania -> RE: What should and should not be in your profile? (2/12/2007 9:49:08 AM)
I feel for you hot1. Your profile is for you, not anyone else. Being on CM and looking for a dominant is all about you too. You do not owe anyone on the internet anything unless you have decided that you do. You do not owe them information unless you consent to it. The above being said, you are also responsible for your own emotional states, and allowing others to hurt your feelings. You decided that it was ok for this azzhole to invade your heart and hurt you. No one else allowed it but you. He never mattered at all, because it was always just about YOU. No one's opinion should matter but your own, unless you allowed them into your heart. Did this guy deserve to be there? I think you know the answer to that. If you feel comfortable talking about your disability on your profile, do so, if not, don't. It is all about you after all.

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