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Capitalization for Doms: annoying? - 2/12/2007 12:53:16 PM   
wyldsubmissive


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Status: offline 		I personally find that capitalizing letters for a dominant, regardless of gender comes and goes for me. I understand why its done (or at least I -think- I do.) I think that dominants require the capitalization (some of them) because they want their submissive to remember every time they type that capital letter about why they're doing it.

To me its just irksome at times.

Thoughts?
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RE: Capitalization for Doms: annoying? - 2/12/2007 1:01:13 PM   
viperess


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Status: offline 		Greetings,

i guess for me i captilize Master, Mistress, Sir, and Ma'am as a show of respect to Masters and Mistresses. It was something taught to me by a former Master years ago when i was doing some writing for Him and it has carried through the years. i try to be respectful if for no other reason as because any and all of my actions and thought reflect back to my Master. So for me it is not annoying. Now if you meant the Y/you and W/we type thing yes that is a little over the top at least to me.
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RE: Capitalization for Doms: annoying? - 2/12/2007 1:02:06 PM   
valeca


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Status: offline 		Doesn't bother me in the least.

Now adults not knowing the difference between 'there', 'their' and 'they're'...that's irksome to me.


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RE: Capitalization for Doms: annoying? - 2/12/2007 1:04:04 PM   
cjenny


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Status: offline 		Personally I find it silly & yes, irksome. But for a lot of people it is important in establishing the balance when online. The best Doms & Masters that I have meet both on/offline have also said that the caps thingy is way overdone and annoying.

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RE: Capitalization for Doms: annoying? - 2/12/2007 1:08:25 PM   
tetherboy


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Status: offline 		I agree.  The M/me, Y/You, etc., stuff is beyond irksome.  Also, I'm not overly fond of those who choose to cap themselves such as "Me, and My".  I see it as being a tad haughty.  On the other hand, my capping someone's personal pronoun like "You, She, Her, etc." is a form of respect that I can demonstrate to someone who has demonstrated they deserve such.

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RE: Capitalization for Doms: annoying? - 2/12/2007 1:10:18 PM   
AquaticSub


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My dominant hates the practices as he views it as deification. Only God/other deity gets a capital letter (outside of what is dictated by proper grammar rules). I despise the practice of "W/we" because it makes for choppy writing and defeats the purpose of writing - communication, preferably clear. I refuse to give myself a lowercase "I" because I find that extremely trivial, rather pointless and breaks one of the fundamental rules of English grammar.

The word "master" doesn't get a capital letter from me as a noun and most of the time not as a title. My dominant feels that if master is a title, so is submissive and slave and they should get capital letters too. Not sure how I feel about this one, but I submit to his opinion on the issue.

I recently talked to a dominant who has been in the lifestyle for many years about this. He doesn't do much online and when I explained all these little "rules" to him, he started laughing.

The point of writing is to express ideas, not have a "look how subbly I am" competition. The expressing of ideas is done best when people submit, if you will allow the pun, to the rules of grammar that have been established by hundreds of years of use. But then again, I just won't talk to people who use internet speak. Even on the internet. 

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RE: Capitalization for Doms: annoying? - 2/12/2007 1:11:10 PM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		Doesn't bother me either way.  I don't usually do it myself.  I will cap Mistress, Master, etc occasionally but I don't cap pronouns like Me.  I will not allow a slave of mine to do the S/slashy thing. 

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RE: Capitalization for Doms: annoying? - 2/12/2007 1:12:28 PM   
tetherboy


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< Message edited by tetherboy -- 2/12/2007 1:13:36 PM >

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RE: Capitalization for Doms: annoying? - 2/12/2007 1:24:56 PM   
kindaeasy69


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Status: offline 		I personally could careless if someone does it or not.  I do find I do it when referring to others ie -  your Dom

I recently had a IM converstation go something like this:
[Her] hi sir
[Her] Sir*
[Me] how are you today
[Her] quite good, sir
[Her] Sir*
[Me] quit that

now that (to me) was annoying.  And don't get me started on the / thingy


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RE: Capitalization for Doms: annoying? - 2/12/2007 1:33:50 PM   
MaryT


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quote:

ORIGINAL: wyldsubmissive
To me its just irksome at times.

Thoughts?



To me, it's pretty much irksome all the time in first and second person pronouns.  To cap the D in dominant or whatever in third person isn't as irksome.  I have a thing about thinking that language is important in communication.  While I love that English is ever-evolving, I find inappropriate use of initial caps to be an indication of ignorance at the least (of both the language and BDSM).  The We/we stuff is just ridiculous (And this little piggy went We/we/wee all the way home!)

To put it plainly:  It's chat room crap, IMO.  

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RE: Capitalization for Doms: annoying? - 2/12/2007 1:41:30 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		If someone's posts are  poorly written and articulated I skip that post. I tend not to allow myself to become upset by the way people type on a message board. There are far more valuable uses for my mental energies. I will be rather blunt, I think you have far too much time on your hands if you have the time to be annoyed by capping. I know I have too much time on my hands, so please do not take that as a put down, because it isn't. I tend to view things this way, if I allow myself to get annoyed at such things I am only letting myself get bogged down in stuff that should be in the category of "stupid shit". I do at times get bogged down in stupid shit, so again I am not judging you, just pointing out a perspective.

I capitalize when referring to my dom and my daddy. Not to any random daddy or dom. It is the way I like to differentiate between him and everyone else. He has never stated he liked me to do it or disliked it.

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RE: Capitalization for Doms: annoying? - 2/12/2007 1:45:52 PM   
TrueCalling


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Status: offline 		D/duh!  I often ask those who capitalize the  letter m in the words Me, My, and Mine,  why they do it. The number of "I don't know" replies indicates (to me) that many follow the crowd.... the fact that some men demand it as a show of respect, is laughable.

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RE: Capitalization for Doms: annoying? - 2/12/2007 1:49:00 PM   
venusdiva429


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Status: offline 		Irritating. I instantly think that they're stuck up. This picture pops up in my head of a guy in a really cheesy pleather outfit clubbing me over the head, repeating "Me! Me! Me!" It just seems so contrived 

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RE: Capitalization for Doms: annoying? - 2/12/2007 2:00:56 PM   
sub4hire


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quote:

ORIGINAL: wyldsubmissive

I personally find that capitalizing letters for a dominant, regardless of gender comes and goes for me. I understand why its done (or at least I -think- I do.) I think that dominants require the capitalization (some of them) because they want their submissive to remember every time they type that capital letter about why they're doing it.


My take on it has always been they want to feel superior in a world where they are not.  So, try to make others feel less of themselves.  It boosts their ego's.
Once respect is earned I can definately understand why a person would show the respect earned.  Though, to someone who doesn't matter much.  I don't understand why myself.
Kind of like someone who found a chat room an hour ago giving themselves the self imposed name Master and demanding everyone address them as such.
Not having a clue what a Master is.

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RE: Capitalization for Doms: annoying? - 2/12/2007 2:09:12 PM   
Chavayeen


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Status: offline 		Y/yes, i/I/eye find/D it annoying...almost as bad....as the I/idiotic use of...B/bad punctuation....not to....mention...M/misspelling.

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RE: Capitalization for Doms: annoying? - 2/12/2007 2:10:43 PM   
wyldsubmissive


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kindaeasy69

I personally could careless if someone does it or not.  I do find I do it when referring to others ie -  your Dom

I recently had a IM converstation go something like this:
[Her] hi sir
[Her] Sir*
[Me] how are you today
[Her] quite good, sir
[Her] Sir*
[Me] quit that

now that (to me) was annoying.  And don't get me started on the / thingy




That made my day. Was she offended?

And out've curiousity why did she have you call her "sir"?

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RE: Capitalization for Doms: annoying? - 2/12/2007 2:14:04 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I find slashies irksome to read, and there's never any consistency I've seen in what gets slashed and what doesn't so I'm not sure what that is supposed to symbolize.

Capitalization for one's own self and own relationships I don't notice much- but I dislike when they apply their own rules of caps onto discussions with/about others because they are imposing their assumptions on the general public. 

But, just like the words subbie and domme, it's here to stay, you deal with it and avoid when possible.

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RE: Capitalization for Doms: annoying? - 2/12/2007 2:22:03 PM   
junecleaver


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Status: offline 		The capitalization doesn't really bother me.  The slashy thing makes it more difficult to read and is distracting though.  It's just one way on the internet to say, 'Hey, guess what?  I identify as a Dominant/submissive.'  I think I tend to capitalize Dominance because I've used the abbreviation 'D/s' repeatedly and it's just stuck in my head that way.

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RE: __________________: annoying? - 2/12/2007 2:34:38 PM   
Mercnbeth


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quote:

ORIGINAL: wyldsubmissive
...Thoughts?


asking how "annoying" something is, or how "beautiful" a particular body-type is, or how "healthy" it is to ___________ are always subjective and the reasons behind all can be very sensitive or important issues for many.
 
here at CM, it seems these types of threads serve as a platform to put others down/puff oneself up for something that is purely a personal preference. it also appears to serve some folks with an online humiliation scene.  to each their own.

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RE: __________________: annoying? - 2/12/2007 2:42:07 PM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

it also appears to serve some folks with an online humiliation scene.  to each their own.


*giggles* I love this remark.

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