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LadyEllen -> RE: Sissies - is it all about them? (3/7/2007 4:08:24 AM)
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Interesting reply there SubAK.
It does raise though, (again), the question of what is femininity? Every woman I know is feminine, and yet even they cannot adequately and comprehensively describe what it is, still less agree on it. It puts me in mind of the "George to Julia" television documentary we had in the UK in the 70s, where the TS woman was asked how she feels? She answered, "like a woman", and the consultant then asked the female student observer in the room, "how does it feel to be a woman?". The reply, not unsurprisingly was "I dont know. I feel like me".
To me, this indicates that there is something that is femininity, but that its impossible to pin down what it is, and it has enormous variations. We know it, when we see it, but there is no adequate description - its something personal to the person who is feminine, and something which others can detect instantly, but it cant be boxed and so cant be reproduced since we have no model to follow.
To my mind therefore, almost anyone could feminise a willing second person, but the result would be one determined by the feminiser's own understanding of feminine, which as we have seen is highly variable, and in the case of those considered feminine themselves, also varies widely between them, and is something so innate to them that it can be difficult to explain and so reproduce.
And this is why I believe, we so often see crossdressers affecting what they understand to be femininity, but which is so often deficient in its manner, and so attracts adverse reaction, particularly from those who are themselves naturally feminine who whilst not capable of ascertaining their own kind of femininity, are quite capable of spotting a simulation and not pleased by the result, in that they perceive that this is how the crossdresser sees them - which is actually not the case at all, but arises from the crossdresser's understanding of femininity, which in most cases is charged with sexual elements surrounding their attraction to the feminine in the first place.
And this to me is the determining factor - the sexuality of the crossdresser, in the choice of possible and best partners. Contrary to popular opinion perhaps, most crossdressers are heterosexual, so their ideal partner is going to be a natural female, with maybe a TS female as a possibility. Not because one or both of these is more adept at producing femininity, (since neither has a firm understanding of what femininity is, alike with everyone else), but because the whole activity of crossdressing in this context is a sexual one, and even with the humiliation factor, a male is not going to be viable as a partner for a heterosexual male.
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