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any good ideas for service? - 2/14/2007 5:48:40 PM

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As a submissive, I would like to be of real use to a Top but am having difficulty with ideas on how to go about that. Shopping, cleaning, errands, sure. Are there other time-tested favorites anyone can recommend?

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/14/2007 6:14:08 PM

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How about something that your Dominant doesn't like to do, no matter what it is. It will vary from person to person - for me, it's washing dishes, for someone else, it may be cooking, or laundry, or vacuuming, or whatever. basically being available and helpful to whomever you serve.

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/14/2007 6:35:20 PM

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There are no time tested favorites other than a genuine desire to put her needs before yours, and pay attention to finding how you can be of use to her everyday. As to specifics, those are specific to each person, so no one of us can help with the other. M

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/14/2007 6:50:56 PM

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My list:
Mechanic. Simple things that are needed to keep a vehicle in running order are good to know. If you happen to be a master mechanic, that is a highly valuable service to me.

Maid service. This is one of the best domestic services you can offer me. This area includes things like picking up after me, making the beds in the morning and basic household cleaning.

Laundry. If you think doing laundry means gathering up whatever clothes are on the floor and throwing them all in the washer, you have some reading to do.Ironing. you'd be surprised how many can NOT do this well. However, there’s a very humorous book on the market to help you.
Leather care. My leather wardrobe and toy collection are growing. They need maintenance and care.

Boot care. I am a boot person. Even the feminine heels I wear on the rarest of occasions are boots. Boot care and worship is a service that I enjoy very much. My blacking skills are adequate, but I’d welcome someone who can do it as good as or better than me.

Cooking. At least learn my favorite dishes. Lucky for you, I grew up on simple food, most of which can be either made in 30 min or thrown in a crock pot.
Pet service. Keep up with the kitty’s food, water and litter boxes. Pet grooming can beneficial as well. Feeding the fish every couple of days might keep the fish happy, too, or at least alive. Check about what other pets we have in the household, too.

Secretary. If you have a really good memory, I really need someone to remind me who people are. Also, this area includes taking notes about who said they'd do what, keeping a calendar for me and sorting snail mail. Other areas include doing the tiresome chores like thank you notes, invitations, Christmas cards and such that, in "polite society", should be hand written. This is only if I get around to actually gathering a Christmas card list. A birthday card list is much more likely.

Personal Buyer. Go shopping for me. This can also include errands (picking up dry cleaning, mail, etc).

Formal Protocol. Learning to serve when I am in a formal setting or among other Masters. Things like offering drinks (hot and cold) and food unobtrusively, holding things, etc. Always watch for the coat/jacket coming off and NEVER let it hit the floor!

Butler/Major Domo. While a true Butler’s primary task is to run the household, including overseeing the staff, simple things you can do right away include answering the door, answering the phone (to screen calls) and welcoming/serving guests.

Lawn care/gardening. If you like to be outdoors, I like to have the lawn maintained and pretty flowers/trees blooming. The more you can make it look like a manicured golf course, the happier I will be!

Massage. There’s several different kinds of massage, the most popular being clinical, deep tissue and sensual. Other alternate therapies. Reflexology, aromatherapy, tea therapy, chi energy therapy and Reiki. you might consider also learning about herbs, vitamins and minerals. If you do, we will discuss the prescription meds that I am on to look at possible interactions.

Manicures and Pedicures. It would be especially handy if you can learn to do acrylic nails.

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/14/2007 7:23:01 PM

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Dear succomb, Ladies and Gentlemen;

Not all Dominants/Tops/Masters/Mistresses are the same on what they would call 'service.'

In this current state of weather, doing a weather check of my 'domme mobile' and keeping the driveway, walk and steps clear of ice and or snow would greatly please me--and would be considered service.

But, you might want to communicate with that Top of yours as to what they considered 'service' or what is 'romantic' to them.

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/15/2007 7:18:47 AM

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And yet again I find Myself agreeing with Master Fire...

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/15/2007 7:20:28 AM

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There are no time tested favorites other than a genuine desire to put her needs before yours, and pay attention to finding how you can be of use to her everyday. As to specifics, those are specific to each person, so no one of us can help with the other. M

Exactly and I think this is what really separates the sub or bottom from the slave. The slave learns to and then just does put the owner's needs and desires above his own all the time, regardless of how he feels or how sexy it is or anything.

We just got done with 2 days without power or heat -- not how I wanted my Valentine's Day -- but Fox, who was very stressed and missed two days of work, followed my decisions without complaint and worked to try and lessen my stress when he could. The husband played on his DS whenever he could but Fox never relaxed until I told him to, it didn't occur to him because he isn't a husband or a boyfriend, he's my slave.

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/15/2007 7:34:07 AM

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Pedicures and manicures. While not everyone enjoys them, most do.

Come up with a couple menus for various meals that of foods that YOU are good at preparing, and perfect them. Culinary Institute of America cookbooks (there are a lot of titles) are great for learning skills, as is Julia Child's "The Way to Cook". Magazines like Gourmet, Food and Wine, and Cuisine at Home are also good resources. Most (although not all) women enjoy really really good chocolate desserts.

Do some research and learn how to best clean and care for BDSM equipment from floggers to boots to canes to...

Learn massage.

Learn how to make coffee and tea properly.

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/15/2007 7:54:04 AM

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Home repair and carpentry skills are great skills to have. Being able to fix things when they break (like my coffee table that has been broken for MONTHS) or helping out with home projects or building toys (like the st. andrews cross I've been lusting after), are extremely valuable services to me.

Also I agree with Ms. Sonnet Marwood (per usual *grin*). Its important not only to learn how your dominant likes their coffee or tea (sugar, milk, cream, whatever) but also how to make it properly to the strength they prefer.

A working knowledge of wines and menu planning can be very helpful, especially if one entertains a lot.

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/15/2007 8:10:20 AM

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I have found that my Lady always has a lot of things she needs done.
I wonder why anyone would need to ask this question.
Service to me, is helping her in any manner that I am capable of helping her in.

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/15/2007 8:18:54 AM

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*frantically jots down all these suggestions.* LOL. Don't forget driver. Sometimes you just dont want to be bothered with traffic. And computer repair/maintenance.

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/15/2007 8:21:25 AM

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Why not just make a list? I don't know of anyone that would have problems thinking of ideas
how someone could provide service for them.

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/15/2007 9:09:01 AM

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Perhaps the OP is asking beyond the obvious of 'anything the Dominant one wants'? There are many skills (as mentioned) that in an interview process would make one submissive more appealing for roles, than a submissive/slave who did not have these skills.

Learning the suggested skills, and perhaps coming up with others, is a great way to prepare yourself for your new life of useful service to your Dominant. So, get on with it! Too often we get approached with the old 'I want you to fulfil all my kink fantasies' attitude.

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/15/2007 9:12:36 AM

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I agree MsStick, but it does not take a genius to figure out what women like: pedicures, manicures, massages, chores,
etc. Beyond that would it not make sense to ask that particular Mistress?

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/15/2007 9:47:31 AM

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I am not actually the person's submissive yet, and I don't yet know what she wants and likes as intimately as if I were already in service.

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/15/2007 9:49:11 AM

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she suggested that I come here, I am just looking for ideas

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/15/2007 10:04:50 AM

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I personally woud love someone with secretarial skills.

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/15/2007 10:21:14 AM

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While a sub certainly isn't psychic and won't specifically know what the domme he eventually serves will exactly want - it's soooo rare when one actually takes the time to work on such skills while he's looking, to basically "build his resume".

Wouldn't it be wonderful when talking to a potential sub to hear "Well, I'm not sure if you enjoy such things, but I've been learning massage and I've taken basic culinary classes and I can change the oil on your car and I can do basic woodworking and I can sort out laundry properly" rather than "oooo I am willing to learn whatever you want me to learn so long as you personally teach me".

Bottom line: What you've done speaks volumes over what you promise you'll do. Actions speak louder than words.

Lorelei, I'm uploading a new photo just for you ;-) Should be up whenever the mods approve.

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/15/2007 10:33:05 AM

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I bet its got a birdie in it. *grin*

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RE: any good ideas for service? - 2/15/2007 11:07:14 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood

While a sub certainly isn't psychic and won't specifically know what the domme he eventually serves will exactly want - it's soooo rare when one actually takes the time to work on such skills while he's looking, to basically "build his resume".

Wouldn't it be wonderful when talking to a potential sub to hear "Well, I'm not sure if you enjoy such things, but I've been learning massage and I've taken basic culinary classes and I can change the oil on your car and I can do basic woodworking and I can sort out laundry properly" rather than "oooo I am willing to learn whatever you want me to learn so long as you personally teach me".

Bottom line: What you've done speaks volumes over what you promise you'll do. Actions speak louder than words.

Lorelei, I'm uploading a new photo just for you ;-) Should be up whenever the mods approve.

That can be very good to know and makes a good impression especially if there is variety and it isn't focused on sex. I've gotten lists of skills before -- most often they are really just lists of sexual acts or fetishes.

Like I said in the post about stay-at-home slaves, if I had a stay-at-home slave, I'd expect him/her to know how to take care of everything at home and that would be a long list of mundane skills.

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