|
KCbuttslut4U -> RE: Some silly questions... (3/14/2005 12:58:23 AM)
|
Interesting responses. Pretty useless mostly, but interesting... Lets re-cap some of the highlights, shall we?
quote:
As for your comments about Dommes refining their skills, note that learning how to use an instrument properly is a very small part of being a Domme. Being a Domme has so much more to do with the power inside. Perhaps once you realise that, you might *click* more with your local Dommes.
Why would i want to "click" with someone who honestly believes this without an outstanding medical plan? Your "power inside" doesn't mean you know jello from corn nuts when a submissives safety is involved.
Question: What good is that "power inside" without someone to have power over, even if only for a short time?
quote:
This is fine to acknowledge, and I do the same. But the message you posted is rather undiplomatic, especially for someone so new. And I hate to break the news to you, but you really should know this: **Dommes do not lack for male subs**. You and I are on the wrong side of the supply/demand ratio. It means we have to be extra careful not to offend.
Thank you for the advice Chris. Wise words. As undiplomatic as my question seems, it was written in a sincere effort to understand something that i have observed through reading profiles. i realize that male subs are a dime a dozen, my questions were aimed at the quality of male subs an unpracticed Domme might expect to find, as well as how important keeping skilled at domination is to a Domme. However, since you responded consider this; as a male submissive, how wise do you think it would be to submit to, say CBT, if you were reasonably certain that a Domme is unskilled in that activity. Is that session worth the risk of permanent, irreversable damage?
quote:
It amuses Me you question about whips and floggers getting a workout when all it is you want is to be farked with a strap-on and be used as an oral sex service boy. So tell Me what whip skill inparticular are you offering these Mistresses a chance to hone?
Actually, thats sort of the point, now isn't it? What kind of twit would let someone who doesn't know what they're doing smack them around with a single-tail just because they happen to own one? i would think that more submissives would be concerned about that sort of thing. While i dearly love being "farked" with a strap-on, in order to move into a more involved sort of play, sanity tells me that emergency room visits are a bad thing.
quote:
I'm continually amazed just how cheap some guys are. There are skilled Pro-Dommes everywhere. They don't give a whit (usually) about marital status or other contributing factors. So long as you pay their fee & agree to the terms they set, your need for anal reaming would be satisfied.
Here's a hint buttslut, stop whining & go pony up the money. In the long run, you'll be happier because you'll get exactly what you want. Bent over, lubed, & taken for a ride along the hershey highway.
Interesting comments, and a little hypocritical considering the comments in your own profile GddsBella. You are searching for "One who knows that this lifestyle is less about kinky sex than the connection; the power exchange between a dominant & a submissive." Yet your suggestion is that i pay someone for kinky sex rather than find a way to find someone with whom to connect in a power exchange. Here's a hint GddsBella, anyone can use someone elses own words against them. It's a pointless endeavor, and childish at best. Thank you for allowing me this time to connect with my own inner child though.
quote:
I find it interesting that you assume that Dommes can't practice their skills unless they are with a play partner. I have spent some time using my floggers and whip on pillows in order to practice my aim. I choose not to play with every sub that comes along because D/s is a very emotional and physical thing for me, and it's something I choose to experience with someone with whom I have a deeper connection.
Thank you very much. i appreciate the straightforward response SecretDomme. That actually does help clear up some of my questions.
quote:
Everyone comes into the BD/SM world with a different agenda. and you will eventually come to realize this. Perhaps you have not found someone who you are on the same page with and maybe you might not find that person with your current attitude. Suggestions were given for you to see a pro Dom but from the tone of your post it doesn't sound like you would want to give a monetary tribute (and they aren't cheap!) for the lady's time because it sounds like you feel you are somehow owed free playtime for Dommes to practice on. you are so wrong.
Um, actually no. The point of my questions were intended to find out how important Domme's think a working knowledge of there skills are. A professional Domme would not be likely to attract a very large clientel if she was ignorant of how to use her equipment. In a private sense, my questions go to the quality of submissives a Domme is likely to attract if she does not practice her skills, as well as the safety of their potentual submissives.
quote:
Why do you assume We are abstaining?
Silly boy, with the silly questions. My play skills have nothing to do with whether or not you can do the dishes, clean My bathroom, wash My car, and countless other tasks you would be required to perform. My strap-on, which you so badly want, is not for your pleasure. It is for Mine.
Why yes, as a matter of fact, i would love to experience your strap-on. Thats not the point of these questions though Ma'am. Sorry, that just had to be said. I digress...
quote:
If you are lounging around a club or party with the attitude that you are there only to play, then it is about you, isn't it? Most Dominas are not going to be attracted to that aura!
Let me use your line of thought for a moment. If you were lounging in a club, or at a party and obviously lacking in competency or any real skill, what sort of submissive would be attracted to your "I am Woman, hear me roar" aura if thats the only thing you really have to offer?
Oh well, we live, we learn not to ask serious questions in the "Ask a Mistress" Forum...
Thank you
|
|
|
|
