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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 10:20:24 AM   
NorthernGent


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ORIGINAL: petdave

Let me preface this by saying:
  • i know it's not productive to criticize other people's kinks (and believe me, i've been on the receiving end)...
  • you're free to do whatever you want, and if i don't like it, i know i don't have to read it...
  • and i know nobody gives a damn what i think...

buuuuuuuttttt....

It seems to me that in the past few years, the "Daddy Dom" segment of the scene has really exploded, and i just can't keep it in any longer:



Referring to your sex partner as "Daddy" just creeps me right the fuck out.



Can i get an Amen? Anyone?

Shields up,

...dave



A woman calling me "daddy" doesn't fit with me. Having said this, I can understand the concept of a strong dominant male nurturing a woman who feels unsure about the world and needs a comforting, caring man as a crutch to guide her and provide the strength of character to tackle the world.

I'm probably on the border of daddy/dominant. My character encompasses fairness, compassion, empathy. My politics is based around this. The defining point for me however is I also have a ruthless edge and I have a need to instill discipline - my politics reflects this as I don't suffer fools gladly and I have zero sympathy with a certain British mindset and their attitude to life. I will always be 100% ruthless with British conservatives and their war-mongering policies. In other words, I'm charitable where I believe people deserve charity, but where they cross the line I'm a different character and they need some serious discipline. The more I think about it, I need a British conservative submissive to smooth the edges.

A woman referring to her dominant as daddy doesn't freak me out, but it's not for me.

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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 10:22:39 AM   
VeryMercurial


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Status: offline 		Thank you for giving us another way of looking at this from a male's point of view.

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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 10:27:30 AM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		i call my master daddy in front of my bio mom and my bio daddy they don't pay aaaaaaaaaaaaany attention to it. I have wndered how odd it sounds when they hear it but that's rare if not often that I wonder. I do however try to say james if we're in public like at a table at a restarant. Really the only qoute unquote inapropriate time I'd say to say daddy would be around people it'd cause a problem with like  your sister in law who positivily hates it. Or people you just don't care to advertise too. Other wise who cares.
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ORIGINAL: VeryMercurial

Now this is funny.  I always wonder if the daughter slips and calls him Daddy in front of relatives or
at some other improper time.



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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 10:31:13 AM   
VeryMercurial


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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

i call my master daddy in front of my bio mom and my bio daddy they don't pay aaaaaaaaaaaaany attention to it. I have wndered how odd it sounds when they hear it but that's rare if not often that I wonder. I do however try to say james if we're in public like at a table at a restarant. Really the only quite unquite inapropriate time I'd say to say daddy would be around people it'd cause a problem with like  your sister in law who positivily hates it. Or people you just don't care to advertise too. Other wise who cares.
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ORIGINAL: VeryMercurial

Now this is funny.  I always wonder if the daughter slips and calls him Daddy in front of relatives or
at some other improper time.




Thank you, I am getting used to it, by the end of this thread, I may call my submissive, daddy.  : (

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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 10:32:44 AM   
findmedaddy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: petdave

Let me preface this by saying:
  • i know it's not productive to criticize other people's kinks (and believe me, i've been on the receiving end)...
  • you're free to do whatever you want, and if i don't like it, i know i don't have to read it...
  • and i know nobody gives a damn what i think...

buuuuuuuttttt....

It seems to me that in the past few years, the "Daddy Dom" segment of the scene has really exploded, and i just can't keep it in any longer:



Referring to your sex partner as "Daddy" just creeps me right the fuck out.



Can i get an Amen? Anyone?

Shields up,

...dave



No shields necessary, dave. You put all the right qualifiers in before you made your observation. The only counter observation I would make is that for some of us, it's not a "kink." It's a place of psychological need and want, and we can move between it and our adult, sexual selves. I realize it's odd and maybe hard to understand. For me, a thread like the "cunt torture" one that was here a few days ago presents things that are odd and hard to understand.

All I wish is that if this were really exploding on the scene, someone (me, if I had the talent) would make a place on the Web and in r/l for such as myself to find the daddy dom of the type I seek, and for those men who are attuned to this particular form of nuture to find me. I'd be done with creeping people out here in a NY minute!

Take care.



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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 10:37:32 AM   
tangldupinblue


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Status: offline 		come to think of it hes the first person to ever put their foot down and say thats it your done, and i listened...so its a disaplianiarn thing for me too.

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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 10:43:05 AM   
Tamerofwild1s


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I love when my girl calls me Daddy . its become a term I hold higher then the term Master ... I've said it in alot of other posts refering to Daddy Doms ... I personally will NOT give you the Amen but I respect your choice .... its all about whatever creams your twinkie .. or blows ya skirt .... do what makes ya happy 

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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 11:04:17 AM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		I was with someone's family in new york and james and I were talking and I called him dad in front of Shari's aunt and the whoel car, and nobody thought anything of it, Her aunt said Chris can you call your dad back later,  It's hard to concentrate when someone is on the phone late at night when I am driving, I was kind of amsued. not that its' difficultt o drive, but that nobody else but shari had any clue.
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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

Daddy ....Daddy ...Daddy

He calls me on the mobile phone.

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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 11:13:32 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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A woman calling me "daddy" doesn't fit with me. Having said this, I can understand the concept of a strong dominant male nurturing a woman who feels unsure about the world and needs a comforting, caring man as a crutch to guide her and provide the strength of character to tackle the world.

i don't see myself as unsure about the world around me however i calling my Dom "Daddy" because it's his guidance and nurturing nature that attracted me to Him ...something i never had with my real father. i suppose in his line of (military) work it was hard for my father to show any love to me which i feel contributed part of the negative drawbacks in my life now.


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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 11:14:47 AM   
daddysprop247


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Status: offline 		Daddy Daddy Daaaaaddy. hehe. sorry i can't roll with you on this one petdave. although i wouldn't call my Master a "DaddyDom", he is indeed my Daddy/Father. He is also my Master. for us the two work together very nicely. He simply came to me at a time in my life when i was completely lost and really, really needed a Father figure. it was never an intentional thing nor a roleplay/ageplay thing. it's just who he is. i call him Daddy (or Dad...bet that really squicks you out huh?) 99% of the time. my biological Father died when i was 13, and i loved him dearly...he was my best friend in the world, and the only person at the time who really loved and accepted me as i was. that loss left a huge gaping crater inside of me. and my Master has helped to fill that. He takes care of me, guides me, disciplines me, loves me unconditionally...he is Father.

there is also an UM living in the house with us, so Daddy has two little people running around calling him Daddy. tho the UM is 12 so he's sort of changed to "Dad", whereas i still say "Daddy" most of the time. has never caused any trouble or confusion. when out in public, around his family, or whoever else, who he is does not change...He is still Daddy and i am expected to call him nothing else. i am not permitted to ever call him by name, which i wouldn't anyway.

as for the sex?? it's quite amazing. i love when Daddy f*cks his little girl hard and rough, dumping his seed deep deeep in his daughter's womb. :)

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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 11:19:46 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		i enjoy freaking out people on the bus if He calls when out and about in public because i say so loud and with joy in my voice.  one time He called while i was on the air at the radio station and my bosses thought it was so cute that He called. i still get teased about that phone call even though it happened months ago.

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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 11:27:10 AM   
daddysprop247


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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

i enjoy freaking out people on the bus if He calls when out and about in public because i say so loud and with joy in my voice.  one time He called while i was on the air at the radio station and my bosses thought it was so cute that He called. i still get teased about that phone call even though it happened months ago.


lol, we like freaking out the vanillas a bit too. the funny thing is because of our age difference, people often assume that he is my biological Father anyway. what freaks them out is when they notice him grabbing my bum or jamming his tongue down my throat, hehe. one time we were in the mall shopping for new clothes for me, and we go into this one store that had a lot of the teeny tiny skirts that Daddy loves me to wear. He picked out a few for me to try on, and naturally had me model each one for him. the young salesclerk guy there kept looking at me, then at Daddy, then at me again, all confused. He finally asks Daddy, "man, is that your girl or your daughter?" and of course Daddy says, "my daughter," and slapped my butt firmly at the same time. the guy got this little grin on his face and was like "you're a lucky man" lol....so  you'd be surprised how many have the secret incest fantasy going on.

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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 11:46:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		I always liked to think the lifestyle wasn’t only about sex and some would argue it has very little to do with sex. So therefore the Daddy Dom thing is valid but limited to a certain type of scene. Funny how the first thing anyone mentions these days is the sex element. I’ve got nothing against sex but I can go anywhere for that. I myself am not in such a relationship but can understand what both parties would get out of it.

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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 11:55:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: FullCircle

I always liked to think the lifestyle wasn’t only about sex and some would argue it has very little to do with sex. So therefore the Daddy Dom thing is valid but limited to a certain type of scene. Funny how the first thing anyone mentions these days is the sex element. I’ve got nothing against sex but I can go anywhere for that. I myself am not in such a relationship but can understand what both parties would get out of it.


You put it better than I did. Thanks

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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 1:52:24 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		first off not all D/lg relationships are about sex, so it;s not limited to a "certain scene". And it's not a "scene" or kink to some. My daddy is my daddy dom and we don't "scene" He;s Daddy 24/7 365 days a year holidays too. It's a mentality a way of life, a choice to live this way with this dynamic everyday.

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So therefore the Daddy Dom thing is valid but limited to a certain type of scene.

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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 5:02:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247
as for the sex?? it's quite amazing. i love when Daddy f*cks his little girl hard and rough, dumping his seed deep deeep in his daughter's womb. :)


AAAAACK! Safeword! Safeword!

A few postscripts to the List O' Disclaimers...
i certainly don't think that a D/s relationship is strictly about the sexual relationship between the parties... however, that is the part that unsettles me the most about the Daddy-girl/boy dynamic... actually, having a non-sexual Dominant mentor/trainer that is referred to as Daddy makes a certain amount of sense to me....
As a "pet", i do understand the need to live with a nontraditional dynamic, and that it transcends scening...
Oddly enough, if you take away the discipline aspect and look only to the nurturing/protecting side, my relationship with my wife has a certain Daddy/girl aspect, as i think that much of what she finds attractive in me are the things that she wanted, but didn't get from her loser father, and those are all characteristics of my father that i admired and try to emulate.

Anyway, i'm feeling muuuch better now... or at least i will once i get daddyprop's message off my screen

Happy weekend,

...dave


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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 5:04:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's not my thing, but not because of the sexual taboo it dances with.  If it were only about that, it probably wouldn't bother me so much.

I don't like being in the role of a daddy's girl and it doesn't feel nurturing at all, but oppressive and suffocating. It just doesn't work for me.  And, I admit that I have a hard time understanding others who seem to only be able to relate to their partner in that way, and use the phrase, "My Daddy."  It seems way too reductivist for my tastes.

So, a little amen, but to each their own.


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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 5:28:15 PM   
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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 5:42:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: petdave


Referring to your sex partner as "Daddy" just creeps me right the fuck out.


Me too! Or mommy or sis for that matter!

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RE: A different kind of "does anyone else?" q... - 2/16/2007 9:24:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		I thought it was weird at first ... but now I crave calling him daddy and love it when he calls me his baby or his princess.

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