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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/17/2007 10:36:20 AM   
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I've given collarme's chatrooms a fair shake, and I have to say (in a girly voice) that that's 6 hours I'll never get back.   I'd guess, I'm no statistician, just a silly little flouncer, but I'd guess 60% of the chat consists of salutations and departures.   Do some people like this?   I mean how can they?   It makes watching paint dry or grass grow seem like a weekend in Vegas with 4 fem-dom pros, loads of lovely dresses and skirts, nipple clamps, a bottle of vodka and an eightball.    
Surely the point of all this is release, a bit of fun, the occasional tickling of a fancy, a good spanking, some humiliation.........
I'm just asking, I don't mean to offend (okay, I do)
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I used to think of it as boring, but now coming from this perspective.......maybe its a:::::(((( Boring Fetish/Kink ))))::::: lol  or umm punishment?

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/17/2007 10:39:24 AM   
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If you go in when there isnt a lot of chatter, and it is mainly helos and godbyes while people flit in and out, then no, you arent going to grandly enjoy yourself. Maybe you should try other chat rooms, or different times? Dependsing on what you are looking for, some rooms wont do jack fr you, others might be heaven on earth. Its all about timing, youve got to catch a chat room when theres activity otherwise it IS about as exciting as drying paint.  Think about giving it a go at a few different times, see if your opinion changes.  Otherwise, well, sorry hon.  Maybe chat rooms just arent for you.

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/17/2007 10:42:39 AM   
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Ok, I'm gonna start a F2m strapon chat here.


Diane

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/17/2007 10:45:36 AM   
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MMMMMMMMM, My dear deviant Diane, that sounds like fun!!!!    What should I wear?
Kisses, and curtsy,
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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/17/2007 10:47:12 AM   
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Thanks Breath,
You can come by and give me a spanking any time!
Kisses and a curtsy,
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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 2/18/2007 6:20:47 PM   
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A chat room is what you make of it. What did you add to the room in the time you were there? If you had worked to make the chat room a scintillating place, you'd have had a lot more fun. I hear this complaint all the time from people who go into a room and lurk, but make no effort to join the conversation. People are in a chat room to entertain themselves, not you. You are responsible for your own entertainment. If you didn't get any entertainment in the room, look to yourself, not the room.

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 3/4/2007 12:46:02 PM   
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But darling, I ALWAYS look at myself!

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 3/4/2007 12:51:31 PM   
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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 3/4/2007 1:37:59 PM   
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i hear the same thing when people come in. "i am bored" "this is stupid" etc. One thing that i have noticed is that the people who say that rarely contribute to the chat.
It takes work to get to know others in a chat room and it takes work to keep it going. There are pauses in real time friendships, why wouldnt there be in a chatroom.

just my 2 cents, and we all know what that is worth these days


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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 3/4/2007 1:58:18 PM   
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I've run into this problem before as well. But I've never actually come up with a solution. On the collarme chat channels, I've gone in, seen everything's kind of silent and then try to strike up a conversation, but it never seems to go anywhere. It's not like I'm not capable of holding a conversation or even sparking one, but for some reason it's really, really hard on these chat channels here. And I don't desire to be the center of attention, nor do I need to, or even desire to, get off in a channel. I usually go there seeking interesting conversation, and I usually choose the channel that appears to be catering to decent bdsm conversation.

I'm not completely convinced it's the fault of the person who goes to the bad channel that the channel is at fault. I do believe, however, it keeps a lot of the conversationalists from joining the collarme chat channels when they find themselves mainly talking to themselves.


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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 3/4/2007 4:26:15 PM   
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I learned how to speed type in chatrooms, and speed read because the pace is hectic. Then I got out.

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 3/4/2007 5:36:52 PM   
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Fast reply

Too many hi's and bye's and hi ma'am how are you today?



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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 3/4/2007 6:18:43 PM   
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Chatrooms self select for a certain type.  Most chatrooms are full of people chatting about almost anything BUT bdsm.

People who want to do bdsm and have a full social life don't TEND (meaning there are of course exceptions) to spend time in chat.

People who live in areas with lots of real world scene activities TEND to not chat.

So you TEND to get people who crave a social connection they otherwise do not have.  People who have limited outlets for real world bdsm.  Those with few outlets to meet and observe other bdsm people in real life tend to have narrow views of WIIWD.

So, the people you TEND to find in chatrooms are not the same as you will find posting on the boards and TEND to be different than you will find at real world bdsm events.

As for getting thrown out of chatrooms, it happens to the best of us.  I tend to last about 10 minutes in the ones here before I am booted.  They don't like fake poseurs like me.

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 3/4/2007 8:12:19 PM   
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While i have never gone in CM's chatroom, i used to go into AOL rooms and some IRC. i would have to agree with you, that most of what i saw was a lot of people saying hi and bye and very little actual conversation going on. It wasn't as bad when i knew some of the people from the real world, but still not the same as going to a munch and actually seeing them. i don't bother with them anymore and mainly just read the forums here. If i want to talk to someone, i either go out or call them.

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 3/4/2007 8:19:00 PM   
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Last bit, OP like my mother used to say when I whined about being bored. You're only bored if you let yourself be. Now go clean your room lol.

lol...mine used to say, if you can't find something to do, I'll find something for you....i always managed to find something at that point.

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 3/5/2007 2:59:35 AM   
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Chatrooms self select for a certain type.  Most chatrooms are full of people chatting about almost anything BUT bdsm.

People who want to do bdsm and have a full social life don't TEND (meaning there are of course exceptions) to spend time in chat.

People who live in areas with lots of real world scene activities TEND to not chat.

So you TEND to get people who crave a social connection they otherwise do not have.  People who have limited outlets for real world bdsm.  Those with few outlets to meet and observe other bdsm people in real life tend to have narrow views of WIIWD.

I must admit, in most chat rooms, I am often one of the few people with any sort of real time experience. (I have insomnia and not much else to do at 2AM.. sigh) But while I think you are right in general, a great many people in the LA/ So Cal scene do chat online. We have a very large and active local scene. We see each other at munches and dungeons. We have each others phone numbers. (I have more munch friends in my cell phone's address book than family members!) We see each other socially and spend time at each others homes. Some of these people are newbies who are just learning, but most of us are experienced. Most (not all) of us have decent social lives and spend less than an hour a day in chat. (Of course there are those few who have no social outlets other than the chat room and the people in the scene and spend all day in chat.)

And we rarely talk about BDSM in the chat room, since most of us do that when we are face to face. The chat room is more a social place to touch base with friends.


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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 3/5/2007 10:24:56 AM   
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Im a chatroom Moderator here, and I dont take offense at this thread at all. Often it is just hello's and goodbyes but when conversations get going, its a fun time. Ive met many a good friend in the chatrooms. 

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 3/5/2007 10:42:31 AM   
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No, that is not the point of chat rooms. They're not here to get your jollies off.. Believe it or not, the world's not all about your jollies.
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Surely the point of all this is release, a bit of fun, the occasional tickling of a fancy, a good spanking, some humiliation.........


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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 3/5/2007 10:43:53 AM   
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I can't figure out why anyone is getting bent out of shape here. 

So what, the guy doesn't like chat?  Hell, I don't like it either and I'm sure there are plenty of people here who feel the same way.  I personally find it, typically but not always, boring and/or inane so I rarely go into a chat.  Besides, there's enough 'chat' taking place here on the boards (I'm guilty of it as well).  But hey, if YOU like it (and I know many do), then chat away!   

Btw skirtboy, I agree with UR...I personally like your posts and find them refreshing.  You have a nice vocabulary to boot.  Keep posting!
  

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RE: Why are the chatrooms so boring? - 3/5/2007 10:49:06 AM   
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Holy crap! Collarme has chatrooms?!?!?

Whodathunkit.......



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