|
mp072004 -> RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a switch? (2/20/2007 5:49:39 PM)
|
Yes, I'd consider a switch as a serious and frequent lover. But I'm polyamorous, and my primary partner is a dominant like me, so I guess I'm already outside the box. He occasionally bottoms-sort-of to me, and I occasionally sort-of-bottom to him, as we couldn't really have sex without someone getting scratched up a bit. [N.B. We've quit identifying as switches because 1) properly bottoming is relatively rare for both of us, and would likely be even less common if we didn't get all those lovely relationship-strengthening benefits from having sex with one another 2) people who identify as switches tend to be regarded as switching both on the d/s axis and the SM one, which isn't the case for either of us 3) neither of us is looking for a dominant or top partner, for one-offs or more advanced things, nor would either of us be a good addition to a submissives' group, so there is no social value and some social confusion if we identify as switches.] It is important to note that this imaginary switch secondary or tertiary partner of mine would submit and bottom to me, and if he or she desired, would top and dominate with others. Perhaps we would co-top, if we were reasonably well-matched stylistically, as I often find that fun.
No, I wouldn't properly submit, or engage in submissive roleplay. I've tried it, and I've learned that I don't like submitting and I'm not very good at it. I'm good at inflicting pain and getting people to do what I want, and I like those things, so I do them. It can be fun to get bruised a little or do some rough sex, but a punch or pinch on my terms or a bit of playful wrestling is quite different from obeying and serving, and is even distinct from saying "Yes sir" and kneeling.
Monica
|
|
|
|
