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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 12:33:50 PM   
agirl


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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

Not everyone knows the bdsm definition of bisexuality is different. Unfortunately, that will lead to more people going through what I did.


It isn't different. What's different is your idea of it. If you stick slavishly to a concept without educating yourself, you are going to have a hard time.

What do you make of the dictionary definition .......*sexually attracted to both men and women*?

That is about as simple and as clear as it can be..........for mainstream or bdsm.

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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 12:37:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		Because you are loopy as a loon, shrill and unpleasent, you blame everyone in sight for your errors in judgement, and in all youre time here on the boards you have yet to make a positive contribution.
 
You feel anyone who tries to reason with you to be attacking you, you seem to think that the entire world is a plot to mislead and decieve you, and you cannot rationally defend yourself or your statements.
 
Since you ask...

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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 12:38:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: stef

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ORIGINAL: topcat

If you are ever collared with a gold chain, I will eat my third best whip.

I'll go you one better.  If she's ever collared with a gold chain, I'll eat your third best whip after you're done with it.

~stef


DEAL! your choice of condiments.

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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 12:41:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: topcat

Because you are loopy as a loon, shrill and unpleasent, you blame everyone in sight for your errors in judgement, and in all youre time here on the boards you have yet to make a positive contribution.
 
You feel anyone who tries to reason with you to be attacking you, you seem to think that the entire world is a plot to mislead and decieve you, and you cannot rationally defend yourself or your statements.
 
Since you ask...


Y'know, I was thinking about posting something similar to this, but since someone already summarized it so nicely...

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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 12:46:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		I apoligise to anyone reading this thread for my venting- but after reading this far in this trainwreck of a thread, it just popped.
 
I apologise for my error in judgement in posting the above.

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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 12:47:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: topcat

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ORIGINAL: stef

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ORIGINAL: topcat

If you are ever collared with a gold chain, I will eat my third best whip.

I'll go you one better.  If she's ever collared with a gold chain, I'll eat your third best whip after you're done with it.

~stef


DEAL! your choice of condiments.


Once you have made your choices, please cross-post them on the desert island thread, there was some controversy over that way about what condiments would enhance those type of foodstuffs. 

GAWD I LOVE THIS TOWN!!!!!!


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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 12:54:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: topcat

I apoligise to anyone reading this thread for my venting- but after reading this far in this trainwreck of a thread, it just popped.
 
I apologise for my error in judgement in posting the above.


If you apologizing is the only consequence of such posts, I will even free you of that duty.

Post away, my man!

Yours,


benji

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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 12:56:49 PM   
agirl


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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 12:56:58 PM   
topcat


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Status: offline 		Dear Benji-
 
No, truly- I have shamed myself with my outburst. It displays a lack of control that diminishes me. As penance, I will reply to the second most annoying persons posts now.
 
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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 12:58:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

The point is, when most people see the word straight, they think a person has only been involved with those of the opposite sex. If someone didn't know that "straight" male subs are sexual with men, they may not think to specifically ask. Some women don't like the idea of being with a man who has engaged in sexual acts with other men. What happens if she finds this out 2 years into the relationship and is totally grossed out by it?


so that is the point of talking and getting to know each other, and not just jumping into a situation with a total stranger. 

If the person this guy is talking to is that homophobic,  to care so much about someone's "past", then that should be one of her first questions for him.  Which if he is not "attracted" to men, then he is not bisexual or gay.  

He probably did it to please his Mistress, it is the past, so who cares?  I would never fault someone who was simply being obedient.  You could really scare a person doing this.  It's confusing enough for some submissives/slaves and this would not help at all.

If he lies, then he will probably lie about other things first, which she will probably catch, and dismiss him as a candidate way before she would ask him such a question.

just the way I see the world

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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 12:59:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: topcat

As penance, I will reply to the second most annoying persons posts now.
 


Of course, now we're all running around to see who you respond to next....lol. (Hope it's not me!).


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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 1:03:17 PM   
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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 1:08:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

quote:

ORIGINAL: topcat

As penance, I will reply to the second most annoying persons posts now.
 


Of course, now we're all running around to see who you respond to next....lol. (Hope it's not me!).




 You were beggin' for it.......lol



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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 1:15:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		Some have not quite grasped the art of the simple nuance I see.... (stet)

I wonder if the large amount of confusion about these blowmasters is due to  the fact that in her up front  questionaire she neglects to ask as a follow up, if they suffer la petite mort from blowing their fellow man?  This could account for some of the mainstream disagreement, perhaps.

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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 1:26:10 PM   
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 1:27:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: topcat

quote:

ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl
I consider myself very mainstream. Living the lifestyle 24/7 would be very unrealistic for me. I want someone to date that enjoys power exchanges behind closed doors from time to time. If I am ever collared with a gold chain, it will represent the vanilla as well as the kink.


If you are ever collared with a gold chain, I will eat my third best whip.


Cyber world collaring, or real and truuuuuueeeeee??


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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 1:38:10 PM   
topcat


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Status: offline 		M. LaT-
 
It would have to be real world, F2F, and I think to be fair, last more than a week.
 
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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 1:38:34 PM   
LotusSong


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ORIGINAL: hisannabelle

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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

Whether he performs the act for his mistress or not, he is bisexual. For a straight sub, this would be a hard limit. I'm a switch so I sub sometimes. Because I'm straight, anything bisexual is a hard limit..


erm, that's by your definition. according to a lot of people, that's bullshit. that would be like saying allowing myself to be sexually used by a mistress automatically makes me bisexual, and were i straight (which i'm not) it wouldn't. it seems to me that you simply have a lot of deep-seated fears based on what you've been through, and while there's nothing wrong with that, i think it's kind of presumptuous for you to project those fears onto other people, especially when your definition of it is likely far different from most. (i'd be curious to see how many people on this board agree wholeheartedly with you.)

eta: what about slaves, or submissives whose limits are only defined by those of their owner? i don't really -have- hard limits - at least any that aren't His - i imagine that's true of many male submissives as well. where does the limit factor come into play there, by your definition?



I agree with defiantbadgirl.  Everyone is allowed to speak their own truth and readers are allowed to accept or deny it.

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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 1:44:08 PM   
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I agree with defiantbadgirl.  Everyone is allowed to speak their own truth and readers are allowed to accept or deny it.

 
The problem is when you take a "personal"truth, and apply it to the rest of the world, and say if they do not abide by your "truth", that they are lying

And that is exactly what she did on this thread

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RE: honesty about sexual orientation - 2/19/2007 2:11:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: agirl

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

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ORIGINAL: topcat

As penance, I will reply to the second most annoying persons posts now.
 


Of course, now we're all running around to see who you respond to next....lol. (Hope it's not me!).




 You were beggin' for it.......lol





LOL....I feel so................used.

*sniff sniff* We've never exchanged words but he thinks I'm annoying...

(He's not the first, lol)

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