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twistedwillow -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 12:10:50 AM)

Sorry for posting to you julia but way to tired to look for a decent jump off, left this up when i went to work this morning, at 8 pages long, i've now just ready how many ? 29 pages or some such... AND i missed out on the bbq [:(]

dbg you are entitled to your opinion, regardless of how wrong we think it may be. However you shouldn't force your opinion on others with a blanket statement ...  all  X who do Y are ABC,  it dosn't work like that.
Thats like saying my D is vegetarian, and forces me to eat vegetarian too, there for i am vegetarian .... no i'm not, by choice and if i were ever uncollared, i would be eating meat. 
Or how about this, i voluntarily went to a vegetarian bbq the other weekend, does that mean im now a vegetarian, even though it was only a once off ? 
I'm sure as many others have tried to explain only to have you brush them off, you will do the same to mine.  But i feel i suffered through reading all this, i can post my 5c worth.

twistedwillow




FelinePersuasion -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 12:36:29 AM)

 I love that, if I knew how to do signatures I'd snatch that line up an smack it into my signature space.
quote:

ORIGINAL: BunnySoft

Honey listen to these nice people because you need some serious therapy and a 747 for all that baggage you are hauling around with you.





SDFemDom4cuck -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 12:48:14 AM)

At the top of this forum page click on "my profile" then scroll down until you see signature. Fill in what you want for your sig line and click on the attach signature for every post thingy...Voila. you have a signature



defiantbadgirl -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 1:13:53 AM)

You are right about my profile and I have already changed it. I didn't go into this trying to police profiles. Here's how it all started. One day, I was on the forums and I saw a thread about "forced" bisexual acts.. I noticed how long the thread was and discovered how popular it was. Several men on this thread said they would never do it because they were straight, then commented that male subs who did this were really bisexual, but said they were straight. I remembered what happened to me and thought about how often the same thing happened to others. Many think bisexuality refers to both sexual preference and sexual acts......they don't know that they need to ask more specific questions. When I stated this, I got responses like my sexual history is not their business or it's their own fault for not asking more specific questions.or it's their own fault they don't read the forums so if they learn the hard way, oh well. How are people who think this way any better than my husband was? I never knew there were two definitions until I read the forums. If I hadn't seen the posts, I could've gone through the same experience twice. Nobody deserves to go through this, whether they read the forums or not.



FukinTroll -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 1:15:36 AM)

Defiant, didn't you say... somewhere back in that mess... that you were here to be like a profile police to warn people of the dangers so they can avoid what you went through?



defiantbadgirl -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 1:38:03 AM)

There shouldn't need to be any profile police.



cjenny -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 1:39:14 AM)

But I thought you wanted this sort of information to be upfront and immediate?
OMG I am so confused now.



Vendaval -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 1:40:02 AM)

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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl


Oh, he did plenty wrong. He didn't just try it once. After we got married he rarely had sex with me and he didn't have any problems getting it up. All he wanted was cuddling, kissing, and bj's......refused to satisfy me at all.
Are you saying that the sex drastically changed after you married him?  And if so, how long did you stay married to him? 

Later, I ran into his old "friend" who was openly gay. That's when I found out my suspicians were correct......they were alot more than just friends.
When did you first have the suspicions, before or after
you were married? What happened to make you
suspicious?


And he too thought it was wrong for my husband to marry me under false pretenses.
Did you confront your husband about this?


That's why my husband quit associating with him when he married me.
And he might have been trying to fit into what
was expected of him by mainstream society.
 

He knew his old lover would tell me the truth.

A rejected lover has plenty of motivation for lies and revenge.
Did you maintain contact with his former lover?
Did your husband know you had communicated with him?
 
 
Your history in this marriage clearly indicates a need
for counseling and therapy.   You need to focus
on yourself and release all the hurt and anger
to begin the healing process.  If you try to
pursue any relationship with this much emotional
turmoil inside of yourself, that relationship will
become toxic as well.  And BD/DS/SM relationships
tend to be more complicated than vanilla.
 
"Fools rush in where angels fear to tread!"
 
Peace,
 

Vendaval
 




FelinePersuasion -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 1:45:11 AM)

yes, and they chan change the bounds of the relationship at any time to suit themselves, and not their dominant. What clean the toilets with my bare hands sorry nope it's wednesday, I'm simply not allowed to because it's wednesday and I say so lolol.

I am just kidding btw:D
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ORIGINAL: porthuronsub

and can a slave add to his list of rights as he/she sees the need...



FelinePersuasion -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 2:03:26 AM)

this is the thread that never  ends, yes it goes on and on my friends, some people started posting not knowing what it was and they'll continue forever just because............

 
This is the thread that never ends, yes it goes on and on my friend......................



FelinePersuasion -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 2:06:58 AM)

Or wonder exactly just what the hell it is she's been eating all these eyars that you passed off as 4 legged animal.

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ORIGINAL: porthuronsub


Welcome newbie!!  I don't like to let people know I am a cannibal.  I prefer they find out after we have been together for a couple years and a few hundred "meals".

then she would be considered a cannibal too, right? 



FelinePersuasion -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 2:13:24 AM)

On strangers with candy  yesterday, the movie not the sitcom, the mother says jody we don't talk with food in our mouths at this table so jody spits it all out says I don't have food in my mouth, and the mother says well please put some in it.

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ORIGINAL: Valyraen

Really, you'd be better off talking with your mouth full. Washing it down just isn't worth the work, sometimes.



FelinePersuasion -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 2:18:07 AM)

Emphasis on the cock part of the cock tails.
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ORIGINAL: sensualmagirl

Where do I sign up? I'll bring the cocktails and show tunes...




swtnsparkling -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 3:28:51 AM)


quote:

michaelOfGeorgia
all i can say is that, any male that does it (or wants to be "forced" to do it) ARE bisexual.
 
quote:

defiantbadgirlI agree that they are bisexual.
the two of you could not be moreWRONG! 



swtnsparkling -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 3:31:30 AM)

FR-   I think
michaelOfGeorgia and defiantbadgirl
make the Perfect couple.


Defiant- do you have your own car? cus mike will need a ride



AquaticSub -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 3:53:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

I was bi, and Ive seen Cats.

I think that makes me a gay man now.
Dammit


So have I.... what does that make Valyraen? [:D]



AquaticSub -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 3:57:09 AM)

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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelOfGeorgia

all i can say is that, any male that does it (or wants to be "forced" to do it) ARE bisexual. it's us straight guys that would fight tooth and nail to prevent such things from happening.


I agree that they are bisexual, and so would most of mainstream society. The point I'm trying to make is, anyone who says they are straight on their profile, but has engaged in bisexual acts should specify that to prevent any misunderstanding. Some of the coolest people I've ever met are of a different sexual orientation. The people I know don't apply a definition they know will be misunderstood, deceive their potential partners, then tell them after they are involved......."Oh by the way, I have engaged in sexual acts with my own gender." Then when their partner is freaking out......."Why are you so upset? I never lied to you. I was honest according to technical definition."

Which is just like if someone tells their partner they used to smoke pot and the person flips out calling them a druggie for something that doesn't matter anymore.

Lovely how only two people would flip out anyway. Look in a mirror dear...



AquaticSub -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 3:58:19 AM)

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

quote:

Princess is into denial, not defiance.


You can lead a princess to the frogs, but you can't make her pick the straight one to kiss.


*cracks up* Ya'll make for the best morning reading...



AquaticSub -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 3:59:57 AM)

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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

Anyone who has hard limits is wanting safety at their terms. Does that mean anyone with hard limits should drop their profile? Or does that only apply to those who seek a partner who has never engaged in bisexual acts? I'm on here because I enjoy bdsm. I know you mean well, but everyone is unique in their own way. Imagine how boring this world would be if everyone shared the same likes and dislikes.. If everyone deleted their profiles because of their differences, this site wouldn't exist.


No. Please clean out your ears. Most people with hard limits don't go "I won't play with you if you've ever done XY and Z". That's why you have issues and should go back to vanilla land.



bandit25 -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 4:12:06 AM)

defiant,

It may appear that people are ganging up on you...they really aren't.  You prolly need to knock that chip off your shoulder and try and process what's been said here.  Honey, you apparently have Issues!  I would think that they could be dealt with in a more constructive way than telling people that they are bisexual simply because they've had sex with someone of the same sex.  I honestly doubt that you are at all qualified to make that type of judgment. 

As I said earlier, if you're all that homophobic and feel that someone needs to give you his entire past sexual history, well, you may want to think about searching on another site.  btw...you said that you enjoy bdsm, right?  Um, which part?  You've got so many "hard limits" I don't see how you're ever going to find a partner much less get laid (and for all those who want to jump up and tell me that this isn't all about sex...for me a part of it is).  Someone who hits you is abusive...being with more than one woman is wrong (or whatever you said), being with same sex is disgusting.  So, when you hit someone (since you identify as a switch) are you being abusive?  Think about it.



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