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defiantbadgirl -> RE: honesty about sexual orientation (2/20/2007 8:33:21 AM)
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ORIGINAL: bandit25
defiant,
It may appear that people are ganging up on you...they really aren't. You prolly need to knock that chip off your shoulder and try and process what's been said here. Honey, you apparently have Issues! I would think that they could be dealt with in a more constructive way than telling people that they are bisexual simply because they've had sex with someone of the same sex. I honestly doubt that you are at all qualified to make that type of judgment.
The problem is, many people think sexual orientation refers to both preference and acts. Most on here know that, but persist in using their definition and not elaborating. These people don't specifically ask about acts because they don't know. By not elaborating, that takes away a person's right to choose what sexual orientation (what they've always thought sexual orientation was) they want to be with. What about those who have had a sex change and don't bother telling their significant other before becoming involved? Tecnically, they are whatever sex the surgery made them into. Does this mean they aren't guilty of deception? I would love to present this issue in a more constructive way, but I'm not sure how.
As I said earlier, if you're all that homophobic and feel that someone needs to give you his entire past sexual history, well, you may want to think about searching on another site. btw...you said that you enjoy bdsm, right? Um, which part? You've got so many "hard limits" I don't see how you're ever going to find a partner much less get laid (and for all those who want to jump up and tell me that this isn't all about sex...for me a part of it is). Someone who hits you is abusive..Someone who hits me in the face is abusive because that's a hard limit, someone who spanks me is not. I've talked to plenty of doms who don't believe in striking women in the face..being with more than one woman is wrong (or whatever you said) There are many women on here seeking monogamous relationships, you talk like I'm the only one, being with same sex is disgusting. To me it is because I'm straight. To a homosexual, being with the opposite sex is disgusting. That doesn't make either person wrong or better than the other one. It's just a matter of person preference. So, when you hit someone (since you identify as a switch) are you being abusive? Yes, in most cases I would consider myself abusive if I did that. I just spank because I don't do to others what I wouldn't want done to me. Now if they specifically asked me to hit them in the face and told me they liked it, that would be a different story because I aim to please.Think about it.
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