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adaddysgirl -> Monogamy and Bisexuality (2/20/2007 6:04:32 AM)
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i see various threads going around that i found quite interesting...one on bisexuality and the ones on monogamy. i want to get some thoughts out here to see what others think.
So my question is....what if monogamy is inherent such as bisexuality (or being gay) is?
So take a child who grows up in a predominantly heterosexual environment (as most of us probably do) but feels attracted to the same sex. Somewhere along the line, they may experiment. At that point, a gay may realize this is what he/she needs in his/her life. Now some may experiment and find no continued interest. And that person may then decide they are heterosexual. And then, of course, you would have the group who has no attraction to the same sex and it is never even a question.
Now take these same people in D/s. They have a partner who wants to share them with another. Of course the gay one will be okay with that. Another might not particularly like it but can tolerate it for the pleasure of their Master. While the third may say 'no way, it's a hard limit'. We all know these scenarios.
Now let's look at a child who is brought up in a predominantly monogamous environment (as most of us probably initially are). They date, fall in love, marry, etc. But they never quite feel satisfied with just one partner (and this probably has traditionally been the case for males but as we can see, there are plenty of females around here who feel the same). So maybe they dabble. Maybe they try swinging, or bringing another into their primary relationship, or maybe they cheat, or maybe they try a poly situation.
And maybe that will work for some but just as being gay, could it be possible that this will not ultimately be what they are 'geared for'. We all know that some will take to it like a bee to honey, but what about those who find it really wasn't for them? And what about those who just have no desire to interact that way at all outside of their primary relationship?
The very first dom i was with asked me about bringing in another female. i said no because i am not bisexual and have no desire at all to be with another female in any capacity. He then asked me about bringing in another guy and again i said no....as i am monogamous and that was of no interest to me either. And all that was so simple to me...there was no question at all about either of those possibilities.
As stated, i am both straight and monogamous (not the easiest combination in D/s, is it?). Finding a D/s partner would really be much easier for me if i weren't. But that doesn't make me change who i am....i just am who i am. And the hopes are that i will find a partner who is also straight and monogamous. Not someone i have to talk into either, nor entice into...or whatever...because i don't think that's even possible to change someone's orientation like that (in either case).
True enough that there are many influencing factors in our lives and as we age, we try different things and we change. But at almost 50, i have been this way my entire life....i believe i can safely say that neither of these is going to change for me.
Thoughts?
Daddysgirl
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