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RE: Appreciation and the D/s Dynamic - 2/24/2007 7:08:20 AM

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Wow Katy, thank you very much for your kind words

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RE: Appreciation and the D/s Dynamic - 2/24/2007 7:41:46 AM

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Definitely appreciation figures into my relationship. It manifests itself in many way, too--from verbal to physical on a daily basis. And it goes both ways. Loraith shows His appreciation as often as I do...and for that I'm grateful.

I can say being appreciative has brought more to this relationship than it has any other.

I can't say if it's because of the nature of our relationship, or the nature of the two of us, though. I'd like to think it's a bit of both. :-)

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RE: Appreciation and the D/s Dynamic - 2/24/2007 8:44:22 AM

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I was wondering if appreciation plays a part in other people's relationships. In other words, do you find yourself being grateful for the relationship, appreciating what it brings into your life, and if so do you think that this concept brings more into your relationship. How does appreciation figure into how you relate, if at all?

YES! Thank you, a fine positive thought on a saturday :)

I, as a female slave am able to feel ( and act on ) a Master with real admiration, to the point of gratitude. .

The dynamic allows me to open up, express, show appreciation and truly worship one who would care enough to lead in a loving power exchange relationship.

Oh! My heart aches! But, with beauty of possiblities!

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RE: Appreciation and the D/s Dynamic - 2/24/2007 8:54:07 AM

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Awe:

I can look down at her at my feet and see her eagerness to serve and please. Anything my sadistic mind has in store for her she leaps to the challenge. I can unleash hell upon her and she pleads for more. As powerful as my unbridled energy is released on her, she is ever diligent to take that power, that energy, and turn it into something I simply sit in awe of. What ever I need she is my all. She is servant, slave, lover, artist, critic, counsel, footstool, cook… No pressure is too great and she serves because she understands. I sit in Awe because she understands me. I sit in Awe because she serves me not through sacrifice, but because she understands me. Whatever I mete out upon her she happily takes. I am not a pillar of endless strength and she understands. I am not without my faults and she understands. I have bad days and good days and she understands. I set in awe of her, marveling at her strength and integrity. It does not matter that we have discussed and negotiated all of this. If I cannot be in awe of her I do not deserve her.

I am sure many D’s will challenge my thoughts as weak. However, I know that you submissives and slaves will understand.

Please, Troll... publish this somewhere. That was one of the most incredible writings on "the subject" I have ever read! Absolutely beautiful!

Your slave is very lucky, indeed!

respectfully, sugarcandy

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RE: Appreciation and the D/s Dynamic - 2/24/2007 12:27:53 PM

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Thank you sugar. I am just not sure I could handle being dissected by the whole world.

Gloom despair and agony unforeseen!

Nevertheless feel free to what you wish with it.

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RE: Appreciation and the D/s Dynamic - 2/24/2007 12:40:41 PM

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I have been reading this thread and even though I am a total newbie, I think I might have an interesting insight into it. I think appreciation, or lack thereof, is part of the reason I'm here.

I've always thought of myself as a giving person who's gifts are rarely appreciated, but perhaps what was the worst of all was feeling so submissive--wanting to be submissive, mostly in bed--and not knowing what to do with that feeling. There haven't been many men dominant or even understanding enough to give me what I wanted and let me be who I wanted to be. I wanted to be submissive and obedient, but know that it was appreciated, and not taken for granted. It is something I need, but it is not easy for me and runs contrary to a lot of other things that I am. Appreciation in my vanilla dating life felt forced--you needed a reason, somehow, to get excited and prepare a special treat or night for your man. It made him uncomfortable or wonder what he has to do for you. I feel like the vanilla men in my life have not known what to do with my enthusiasm for figuring out what they want and being creative in how I give it to them. I am always reining myself in so I don't look foolish or obsessive or suddenly "in love" with a guy. In the few encounters I've had that have had a d/s dynamic, when I've been submissive I've felt very alone. I think in many cases it was interpreted as horniness or not sharing or something else.

So, to a certain extent, I'm finding out what I want to be, how I want to be. That's only half of it, because I won't really understand until there's someone else whose dominant desires and needs complement my idea of submissiveness. In other words--someone who can appreciate it, and the value I am learning to place on it.

also: FukinTroll, I agree, that is a really great piece of writing and it would open up a lot of people's eyes who think that the master-slave relationship is a one-way street or that it's somehow demeaning to women. But I also agree that I wouldn't dare want the public at large dissecting it.

And, I hope it goes without saying--I agree with the poster above who said that when her dom finds her, she'll appreciate the hell out of him..... :)

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RE: Appreciation and the D/s Dynamic - 2/24/2007 12:54:02 PM

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Actually I don't care about public scrutiny. I have had many pieces published here an there.
Thank you again.

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RE: Appreciation and the D/s Dynamic - 2/24/2007 1:42:01 PM

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I had been in an emotionally abusive relationship for 20 years when I 'found' D/s, so I knew from the very beginning that one of the things I needed from any future relationship was to be appreciated and to be able to freely express my appreciation in return. I'm happy to say I found in NChaka a Man who feels the same way. We tell each other that the other's efforts are appreciated all the time. In my opinion, one of the worst things a person can do to themselves is to take relationships that are important to them for granted.

As always, only my opinion and experience. ymmv

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RE: Appreciation and the D/s Dynamic - 2/25/2007 7:25:02 PM

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I tell the people that are close to me how grateful I am to have them in my life, not just those who are in an Ms relationship with me.

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RE: Appreciation and the D/s Dynamic - 2/25/2007 8:38:59 PM

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I was wondering if appreciation plays a part in other people's relationships. In other words, do you find yourself being grateful for the relationship, appreciating what it brings into your life, and if so do you think that this concept brings more into your relationship. How does appreciation figure into how you relate, if at all?

This question is pointed at all orientations.

I will answer later myself.

Yes - i feel extremely thankful to have met Chairman and His willingness to grow right along with me. W/we express O/our appreciation of what W/we have and share together all the time. It's not always easy to be so open, but it's exceptionally rewarding and i feel very very grateful. i listen to people in vanilla relationship and commonly hear "he goes his way, I go mine". That's not for me at all. i'm not saying a D/s relationship is better for everyone, but for me it requires more honesty and willingness to be emotionally and psychologically naked. But i knew before i got into this relationship that i would never again settle for anything less than someone i not only feel thankful for but who's life i can see i am contributing to.

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