RE: Now I'm a fake cuz,

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz,

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> RE: Now I'm a fake cuz,

Page: << < prev 1 [2] 3 4 5 next > >>

Login

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/25/2007 1:22:22 PM

porthuronsub

Posts: 339
Joined: 4/26/2005
Status: offline

Some just don't get that CM is more than just profiles of people looking for a match. I don't know why people act the way they do, probably never will. you just have to ignore them and hope they fade away.
I really like your yahoo group too. Are they hard to set up? Do you have your own website yet?

I really have enjoyed the forums. I have learned alot, even if it is just about the mindset of people involved in WIITWD.
When my Mistress is well again, I want to introduce her to the forums, I think she will enjoy them as well.

(in reply to DianeB269)

Post #: 21

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/25/2007 1:26:56 PM

FukinTroll

Posts: 6277
Joined: 2/6/2007
From: Under a bridge
Status: offline

I got mail last night that said; I pity you.
So I replied, Thanks!
She replied back asking why my profile was so harsh and sent her a massive letter pointing out just how contemptuous her letter was and then explained why my profile was so harsh. I was amazed when the light came on and she understood that her contemptuous first letter was way out of line.

Usually they block me before I can reply. So I just keep a little list of stupid and nasty sub/slaves to pass on to others when they ask.

_____________________________

I'm the guy your girl is thinking about when she is fucking you!

TrollTopia
Greedy Groupie!

The Mods have me on speed Spank!! Gotta luv'em.

(in reply to porthuronsub)

Post #: 22

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/25/2007 1:27:53 PM

DianeB269

Posts: 1596
Joined: 10/30/2006
Status: offline

You should see my blocked user list..hahaha

Thanks, just go to yahoo and click on Start a group...I shut my website down a
few years ago.

Diane

quote:

ORIGINAL: porthuronsub

Some just don't get that CM is more than just profiles of people looking for a match. I don't know why people act the way they do, probably never will. you just have to ignore them and hope they fade away.
I really like your yahoo group too. Are they hard to set up? Do you have your own website yet?

I really have enjoyed the forums. I have learned alot, even if it is just about the mindset of people involved in WIITWD.
When my Mistress is well again, I want to introduce her to the forums, I think she will enjoy them as well.

(in reply to porthuronsub)

Post #: 23

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/25/2007 1:31:04 PM

DiurnalVampire

Posts: 8125
Joined: 1/19/2006
From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline

I get teh fake thing all the time becaue I am not a Sadist. And I dont live with Angel, he lives on campus. So, obvously I am a fake too, and so is he for living apart from me and stil being collared. Yep, we know. We all know.

DV

_____________________________

I will be your Dominate if you will be my submit - Fox

Snarko Ergo Sum
If you cannot change your mind, how are you so sure you still have one? -proverb

*Owner of Fox - collared 10/13/07*
VampiresLair

(in reply to DianeB269)

Post #: 24

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/25/2007 2:33:48 PM

BeachMystress

Posts: 2156
Joined: 4/3/2004
From: Naples Island- Long Beach CA - Southern California
Status: offline

I've been called a fake many times myself, dispite the fact that I live 24/7 with my subhub, regularly attend munches and play in dungeons and am honestly and actively seeking two nonsexual subs for domestic and pain positions. But, I told them NO, so either I had to be a fake or they had to live with the fact that they were undesirable to me. Very few times have I sent a rejection letter and gotten back anything resembling a polite response thanking me for my time. The first time it happened, I actually reconsidered the sub and met with him. While my first impression was right and we were not suited for each other, I did point him to a friend who I thought would be a match for him. I did not pave the way for him, feeling that if he was as good as I thought he'd impress her on his own. He did and they were a couple for a while.

_____________________________

Beach Mystress
*Do not threaten the weak. Intimidate the strong. ~ Stevenson*
http://beachmystress.jigsy.com
http://www.flickr.com/photos/beachmystress/

(in reply to DianeB269)

Post #: 25

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/25/2007 5:05:49 PM

MistressDolly

Posts: 917
Joined: 8/24/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: DianeB269

I have been called a fake many times cuz, I don't live the 24/7 or D/s lifestyle.
I am a Dominant woman but, I just don't wanna live it 24/7 and DO NOT want a
live in sub or slave.
So, that makes me a fake!!!!

Diane

PS; I don't care what people say/think of me but, I get tired of reading it.

It's easy to send trash mail because of the anonymity behind the computer screen so I request whomever wants me to read their mail to send me a specific type of photo. 9x out of 10 if they are serious, they will take the time and effort to submit to this request. While I may miss the opportunity to perhaps meet someone very nice, I'd take that chance nonetheless; I'm looking for something specific and don't have a lot of time to engage in back and forth email exchanges, nor to weed through trash mail.

(in reply to DianeB269)

Post #: 26

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/25/2007 5:21:01 PM

wewantaslave

Posts: 32
Status: offline

The way I see it, if you're doing what you want, that makes you a domme. If you are doing what others want you too, well, then that would be fake domme.

Mistress Dana

(in reply to MistressDolly)

Post #: 27

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/25/2007 6:27:29 PM

PsyVamp

Posts: 1026
Joined: 10/30/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: DianeB269

I love it when they ask "WTF are you doing here if you are not looking for anyone?"

Diane

quote:

ORIGINAL: porthuronsub

quote:

ORIGINAL: DianeB269

Yeah, Like the guys that went to collage and still do not know what "I'm not looking"
means.

Diane

Or "just here for the forums". You know, if you weren't so attractive and enjoy a fetish that is so universally loved, I bet you wouldn't have half the problem.
There are some people that just don't understand the english language, or they are in the mindset that they are SO good that you couldn't possibly mean that comment applies to them.

And they don't read very well - or they don't read the profiles at all, they just see "Dominant Female" and email "I want to be your slave" - nowhere in my profile does it say I'm looking for a slave.
Guess I must be fake too.... maybe its my evil twin that plays at the club...

Vent on ...
Psy

_____________________________

Don't take life too seriously; No one gets out alive. .
Could a blue screen of death constitute being defenestrated?
~Owner of wolf~ (one of them, anyway)

(in reply to DianeB269)

Post #: 28

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/25/2007 7:00:33 PM

MsCfromMelbourne

Posts: 777
Joined: 2/15/2007
Status: offline

Jealousy - you are a good looking, intelligent woman You are kind and widely admired. That's enough to make any less secure/ new Dominant jealous of you.

What people say over email can be ignored unless that person matters to you somehow in real life

Only one sub has had the nerve to call me a fake to my face (at a play party). But his kink is provoking Dommes so they lose control and hit him in genuine anger. That little game should only work on Dumb Dommes!

Could I suggest that the name calling is intended to provoke you. It is the name caller who has a problem: not you.

< Message edited by MsCfromMelbourne -- 2/25/2007 7:04:42 PM >

(in reply to PsyVamp)

Post #: 29

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/25/2007 7:09:26 PM

RWAble

Posts: 282
Joined: 1/5/2007
Status: offline

Some people just have no brains...it is the nature of the beast. It is beyond them; why anybody would be on a site for conversation. Ah; the key word....because they don't know how to converse.

quote:

ORIGINAL: DianeB269

I love it when they ask "WTF are you doing here if you are not looking for anyone?"

Diane

_____________________________

When the Yankees leave Florida, then we can be free.

Life is a voyage, not a destination.

(in reply to DianeB269)

Post #: 30

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/25/2007 7:24:22 PM

ineedotk

Posts: 109
Joined: 8/17/2006
Status: offline

Do like all other Femme Dommes do that I've observed, just do your own thing and don't follow any rules - because I've discovered that in the BDSM community, the only REAL rule is that there ARE NO RULES! YOU are the rule.

(in reply to DianeB269)

Post #: 31

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/25/2007 7:39:00 PM

SilverShadows

Posts: 558
Joined: 2/15/2007
Status: offline

The thing is lots of them just want to hurt you. Some feed off your frustration and others, as has been mentioned, need to preserve their ego's. And there ego's are so weak that they can't look their own behavior and see how it earns them rejection. Like asking you for a 24/7. A whole silly cycle.

_____________________________

The Countess

Το αίμα είναι η ζωή
Cruor est Vita
Sînge is art.hot. Viaţă
Vér van a Élet

Come Kiss the Guillotine
Come Taste the Gasoline

(in reply to DianeB269)

Post #: 32

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/25/2007 8:50:24 PM

LadyHugs

Posts: 2299
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline

Dear DianeB269, Ladies and Gentlemen;

In my many years in the scene/lifestyle, I've been called negatives and or 'fake' because [insert excuses list.]

There are periods in time, where I am without a slave as I've ended one, such as through death and the slave who will find me when the time is right. That does not mean that I am any less of a Dominant, that I am not any less of a Lady, not any less of a Master.

Living the lifestyle is labor intensive and has its rewards and its time of being a royal pain in one's lace and leather undergarments (where the sun doesn't shine). I personally need that space and time to regroup, restore and live. It is nice not to have to be responsible for another person. It really is freedom.

Frustrating as it may be--please know that as long as you can look in the mirror, look at yourself and be proud of the lady you truthfully are--then let others cause their own drama and be at peace with yourself.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

(in reply to DianeB269)

Post #: 33

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/26/2007 6:02:13 AM

dicipline2

Posts: 63
Joined: 5/4/2004
Status: offline

This all comes from people who really dont understand or respect your position as a domme. Actually, Id say that anyone who resorted to this tactic is the real fake since it is probably a wanker. Kind of like how the male Doms seem to think women dommes are just confused little subbies. RMFE.

(in reply to DianeB269)

Post #: 34

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/26/2007 7:24:58 AM

Aubre

Posts: 478
Joined: 12/9/2004
Status: offline

If they call you a fake Diane they should have to suck on one of your strap-ons after you use it. Seriously, I don't understand this need to try and elevate oneself by trying to put other people down. I'm a male, I'm not looking to meet anyone and I am here on the boards to hang out and chat. If folks don't like it, too bad. No one has to explain to anyone about "OMG WTF R U on this board 4 if U don't want to meat someone???"

(in reply to dicipline2)

Post #: 35

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/26/2007 7:34:37 AM

DianeB269

Posts: 1596
Joined: 10/30/2006
Status: offline

Thank you Aubre and thank you to everyone else for all your awesome replies.

Diane

(in reply to Aubre)

Post #: 36

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/26/2007 7:40:13 AM

hereyesruponyou

Posts: 770
Joined: 1/22/2007
Status: offline

It is frustrating! and it's healthy for us to share our frustration and makes it easier to not take personally. MY most recentone came from saying i have someone underconsideration for 24/7 and therefore am focused only on that at this time. Again, i got the "you are fake just like all the other dommes here". Now that just makes soooooo much sense

(in reply to DianeB269)

Post #: 37

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/26/2007 7:47:21 AM

DianeB269

Posts: 1596
Joined: 10/30/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: hereyesruponyou

It is frustrating! and it's healthy for us to share our frustration and makes it easier to not take personally. MY most recentone came from saying i have someone underconsideration for 24/7 and therefore am focused only on that at this time. Again, i got the "you are fake just like all the other dommes here". Now that just makes soooooo much sense

I'm still getting these messages as I type here.

1st message today...If i come to S.F. could we meet for some fun?
My reply...Can't you read? I'm not looking!!!
His reply...You're fake like 90% of the women here.

Diane

< Message edited by DianeB269 -- 2/26/2007 7:50:40 AM >

(in reply to hereyesruponyou)

Post #: 38

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/26/2007 8:36:46 AM

LadyTantalize

Posts: 242
Joined: 4/13/2004
Status: offline

Umm, so good to read the posts in this thread as I too can identify.   But gratefully, I'm rarely labeled a fake anymore and those who once did are long gone from the scene - imagine that!

I've been around the leather scene for many years, have had *kink* relationships that have lasted from a few months to over ten years, I hostess a munch, engage in much fun and do it all on my own terms not by the mandates of others!

So in the spirit of fun and as living proof of walking to the beat of your own drum....

I'm fake because:

1.   I prefer not to live in a 24/7 and truly prefer to live alone.
2.   I do not demand my slave or submissive to kneel often or remain nude at all times.
3.   I like my slaves or submissives to sit next to me rather than at my feet.
4.   I do not need a collar on a slave or submissive to declare their enslavement to me.
5.   I do not need a slave to be a Dominant Sadist (I was born this way and wake up this way every day no matter who is in my life.)
6.   I do not need to enter a room with a stable of leashed slaves to proclaim my dominant nature.
7.   I can light my own cigarette and fetch my own coffee.
8.   I can clean my own house and my own dungeon.
9.   I do not demand to be addressed as Mistress or Lady or other such entitled terms.
10. I follow my own protocols and not those dictated by others.

Ahhhhhh, that was fun!

_____________________________

Truly, Lady T.

Lady Tatiana Tantalize
Atlanta's Sadistic Southern Belle, Crossdressing Consultant, Punk-Rock Party Girl and Wicked SugarPuss
http://www.ladytantalize.net

"A prayer for the wild at heart, kept in cages."
-Tennessee William

(in reply to DianeB269)

Post #: 39

RE: Now I'm a fake cuz, - 2/26/2007 8:52:20 AM

Searchingmyself

Posts: 4
Joined: 2/19/2007
From: Virginia
Status: offline

LadyT you so rock! I am the same way, and when I had my submissive I NEVER once had to order him to do something, and I never had to punish him. I didn't carry a bullwhip around with me. And in everyday life we looked like boyfriend, and girlfriend. I didn't need him to kneel at my feet, and I let him kneel at my feet when he had that desire to do so. I agree with everything that you said. So I guess I am a fake as well? lol. It is so good to see someone like me for once. Keep rocking on!

(in reply to LadyTantalize)

Post #: 40

Page: << < prev 1 [2] 3 4 5 next > >>

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> RE: Now I'm a fake cuz,

Page: << < prev 1 [2] 3 4 5 next > >>

Jump to:

New Messages	No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages	Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages	Locked w/o New Messages

Post New Thread

Reply to Message

Post New Poll

Submit Vote

Delete My Own Post

Delete My Own Thread

Rate Posts

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

0.094