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Kalyndrah -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 11:42:25 AM)
sigh Yeah, I've met such a wide variety of people with a wide variety of experience... it has nothing to do with time. Experience can't be measured in time but in what you took from that experience. I was willing to give this 18 year old the bennie of the doubt .... Till I got to talking to her. oy vey! I'd not let anyone I know be her sub! On the other hand, I've met a 15 year old Dom that can put most of the people who've been doing this and very active to shame because he was like a freakin SPONGE and had this eerie concentration and intuition.. shiver super cool. My main point with my responses was that just because someone thinks they're a Dom doesnt' make them a dominant. Same for subs. I've met people who say they're one thing, then when we met up, they're totally the opposite. I mean, I change according to who I'm around (us darn switches!) but you'd think that after you've talked to someone for a while you'd have figured out whether you're Dom or sub or indifferent to them. How stinkin annoying! Oh, and the ones that tell me I'm a sub, I don't know what Dom is or how to be Dom. snicker Tell that to my subs. I'm sub to some, Domme to some. The ones that pay attention know that I switch. The ones that are too arrogant to see beyond themselves and what they want see exactly that - only one part of my personality. And screw them.

Badkitty0810 -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 11:42:48 AM)
Oh that brings me to another thing! So-called Doms who equate "submissive" with needy, co-dependent, weak, stupid, lazy or a host of other negative things or when they refer to me as "girl" or "slave" in an initial email. They're very quickly reminded that I'm neither of those things. Also, the arrogance of some Doms who think that just because they're a Dom means I'm going to swoon and give up my entire life because they've emailed me. I am respectful to those that treat me with respect. Those who do not, quickly find out that this kitty has claws. =) HarryVanWinkle, thank you for starting this thread! This is better than therapy! [:D]

lighthearted -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 11:44:30 AM)
the same things that irritate me about people in general: ignorance, irresponsibility, stereotyping, hypocrisy, hubris, blah blah blah...

porthuronsub -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 12:07:32 PM)
People with experience that feel that they know everything and their experience applies to everyone elses situations. People who do not open their minds and see others' points of view, even if they only agree to disagree with them. There are many ways to look at a given situation. People who don't respect others just because they claim to be a submissive or slave. And lastly, people who lie about who they are or what they like just to gain favor of another. Just my humble opinion (just had to add that!!!)

Squeakers -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 12:31:01 PM)
LA I tend to laugh at it too sometimes, but other times it's gets a bit irritating when I don't conform to the norm and someone says 'OMG Squeakers you didn't have a safe call and you met in private---you'll end up dead!!!!' Seriously would anyone on the net really care if I did wind up dead? And honestly no one would know anyways---it's not like I have a statement in my will----'after my death go to collar me and let them know that I finally got killed because I didn't have a safecall.' I follow my own gut and conform to my own rules and guidelines.

junecleaver -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 12:38:46 PM)
People who learn about BDSM via the internet, get some RL experience, and then instead of improving the medium by which they were originally exposed to BDSM criticize it as a way to look 'cool.' Obviously if we make fun of the internetz then we are more real!

domiguy -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 12:58:09 PM)
too many fat subs.

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 12:58:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania quote: Well to a certain extent the internet IS all about me- I choose what I read, what I respond to, how I respond to it I absolutely agree with this... What do I find the most irritating? Well recently it is "people" that talk about performing sexual acts on other members of this site that are nonconsensual and think this is cute and funny... then they do not understand why the people they are making these comments to get uptight about them Ditto.....oh so very Ditto!!!!!!!!..have one particular gent in mind on that one Julia!..Tempting

SilverShadows -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 1:04:48 PM)
People who are rude and/or arrogant. On the subject of “one wayism” Let me split "one wayism" into two parts, both of which are irritating but one more so for me than the other. There are the people who profess their way is the only way. I find this irritating and arrogant but I ignore it and continue doing it my way. And there are the people who are looking for the one way. . . "Does a dominant XXXX" "What is the right size for XXXX" This person scares me. The first person has an ego problem, the second person is the start of a mob. Of course taken too far even my view becomes "one wayism"

DiurnalVampire -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 1:05:07 PM)
My pet peeve, I have 2. The ones that whine that they cant find anyone (after a whole week or so of searching) and then when they do finally find someone they complain like crazy when it doesnt work out on the first try. Second is the ones who think they need to offer you ideas on how to train or interact with your sub without getting to know anything about you, or them. I lveo the free exchange of ideas, and I dont even mind the "its al about me" stuff... I just dont like the unrealistic expectations, I guess. DV

FukinTroll -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 1:08:29 PM)
Pet peeve.... The people who have a staggering amount of post and feel that gives them right to demean and devalue others.

juliaoceania -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 1:09:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FukinTroll Pet peeve.... The people who have a staggering amount of post and feel that gives them right to demean and devalue others. How about those with limited posts who do the same thing..

FukinTroll -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 1:12:48 PM)
Yup yup yup!

DiurnalVampire -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 1:16:52 PM)
OK, I'l add that to mine as well. Those who think that becasue they are in an open forum, they dont need to respect anyone elses opinions and those that dont agree, they can attack with whatever they can think of.

domiguy -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 1:19:47 PM)
On a serious note what I find staggering is the absence of clear thinking...Those that wish to eliminate the "vanilla" from their lives and then can't imagine why relationships don't work out? The majority of what we learn is instilled in us at a young age...Many of the same pitfalls that inflict relationships "here" are no different from the ones affecting all relationships in general. I know this might be somewhat contradictory statement but I wish the women out here had more balls. Meaning that I enjoy the company of a woman who is diverse, and realizes the sum of who she is cannot be defined by her three holes.

toservez -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 1:22:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kyraofMists The use of the words real, true, fake, wannabee or other words designed to try and get someone to think less of what they do or how they feel. "You are not a real/true submissive/dominant if you do X" or "You are just a fake/wannabee because you won't do X" This also is a big bug of mine. There seems to be a percentage of people who feel the need to self promote themselves by tearing others down and/or get on a pedestal and tell you how the right way to live another person’s life. I am also with LA, “For me it's people who think certain things DON'T happen in the scene because it's just "too out there." In a more general way it always bothers me when people who have either never done something and/or is a limit feel the need to chastise, warn or write in such a tone to judge others who do the things. It is like since they will not do this then others should not either because I need to be the coolest which none of this is ever about. There are a lot of people who warn you about the dangers of fast food as they are lighting up their umpteenth cigarette.

windchymes -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 1:24:33 PM)
Newbies who are "under protection" of some online dom....like he can really do something to protect them from whatever it is they need protecting from. Also, same newb's whose emails must all be sent to DaddyOnlineDom for approval, censoring, or whatever it is they do with them.

toservez -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 1:25:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire OK, I'l add that to mine as well. Those who think that becasue they are in an open forum, they dont need to respect anyone elses opinions and those that dont agree, they can attack with whatever they can think of. Amen, that was so much better and classier then what I just posted. Wish I would have written that instead. I will add when people throw in the reason of “keeping it real” or “this is just who I am” because there is no way a person can go through life and hold a job and keep friends if that was truly the case.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 1:29:14 PM)
don't know if someone has already mentioned this since i didn't read everyone else's responses - however what peeves me the most is the thought only real-time submissives are true submissives. just because i'm not lucky and fortunate like many of you to have your Dom close to you doesn't make me less of a submissive to my Daddy. i'm not a "service" submissive (whatever that is). i'm a full-time daughter-submissive to my DaddyDom.

domiguy -> RE: What do you find most irritating in the "Online BDSM Community" (2/25/2007 1:45:00 PM)
More pet peeves....when people announce their "collaring!"...I always want to ask them to sign my Year Book!....WTF!...We act like it is some serious event! It's usually just another fucked up relationship doomed to failure...In other words "No one really fucking cares!"...I just can't wait to call all of my friends and say, "You won't believe this! But pissonme just got collared to Domdeluise...I'm soooo fucking excited...I think I'm going to cry."....Gve me a fucking break!

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