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Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 1:35:42 PM

petstorm

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First and foremost, i am not asking if i should do this, or how. i am simply asking (women in particular) how they would feel about it. A little background first though...

i love my Master. He's every breath i take and the blood that flows through my veins. There is very little i would deny him. That being said, he has a fantasy of having two girls to serve him at the same time.

i trust him, and i have faith in the bond we have. i am not worried about another girl coming in an taking him away from me. And i have chosen to try and find a girl to partake in this fantasy.

Now, here is where my dilema actually lies... i am not even bi-curious. i have the word of my Master that i will not be asked to give to the other girl, and i'm perfectly ok with being on the receiving end under the control of my Master, should she be bi-sexual.

So, my questions then are... under these circumstances, would you partake in such a fantasy? Would you do this for your Master if you were not bi-sexual or even bi-curious? And if you're single and not even bi-curious, is it something you might consider if you knew you would only be there to serve the desires of Him?

i guess i'm just curious to know how others feel about this subject.

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 1:39:11 PM

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If sex is the primary equation of your relationship it may be a bit precarious. However, there are many cultures that practice poly lifestyles and bisexuality is not part of the practice.

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 1:43:56 PM

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Nope, sex is not the foundation of our relationship. However, this post IS about a sexual fantasy.

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 1:48:07 PM

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Well it's my life in a sense- I live with two straight males. They are fine with me having an individual relationship with the other. I see no reason why they need to function as anything other than roommates.

I'm not really sure what YOU are talking about though- hiring a prostitute so he can enjoy sex with another woman for a night? Finding a woman on adultfriendfinder to enjoy for a night? Going to a swingers party so he can hook up with a chick there, maybe have her go down on you while he fucks her?

There's a million ways to play out the "other girl in the bed" fantasy- someo f them are easier to find a willing partner versus another.

This is also extremely different from "having another woman in our lives and intimately attached to the dom."

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 1:48:34 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: petstorm

So, my questions then are... under these circumstances, would you partake in such a fantasy? Would you do this for your Master if you were not bi-sexual or even bi-curious?

absolutely yes, and this slave is neither bi-sexual nor bi-curious. if it is pleasing to Him, this slave is ALL IN.

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 1:48:42 PM

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is this a long term arrangment or fantasy fling that you are hoping to accomplish?

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 1:52:25 PM

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I don't know. It would probably depend on the girl. I'm monogamous and that is a condition of our relationship. I probably wouldn't do it because, depending on the girl, she might get very bored of always giving and never getting and it wouldn't be fair to her.

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 1:55:51 PM

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For me the question of this nature comes down to can I or can’t I do it and not about if it will be pleasurable experience. As long as I can actually do it and it will not cause any physical or mental problems then as a slave I would do it for my Master’s pleasure.

My answer based on the OP talking about a sexual thing and not poly relationship.

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 2:04:25 PM

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We recently have been talking about this together. I talked to a friend of mine that is into swinging with her dom how it was for her, I started a thread about it in the general forum. I thought that he may really want this from me in the future because he wanted me to think about that soft limit and perhaps if it should be there between us.

I did not conceive that he wanted me just to consider why it was a limit, and that it was about me having this limit, and not about him desiring this from me. Once I realized that it was about the limit and not that he wanted me to do this necessarily, I let the limit go.

He may very well decide he wants me to do this, and I will do it, but he would not have me do it if he thought it would harm me in any way... and that is why I agreed to allow it if he ever orders it of me.

So now I will answer your questions

quote:

So, my questions then are... under these circumstances, would you partake in such a fantasy? Would you do this for your Master if you were not bi-sexual or even bi-curious? And if you're single and not even bi-curious, is it something you might consider if you knew you would only be there to serve the desires of Him?

I would do it, I would do it because I trust him implicitly not to hurt me. I desire to give him this experience because although he has had threesomes with other women, it was not done in a way that he enjoyed it as much as he thought he should... I would love to fulfill the fantasy in his head in real life, but I do not know if he will ever think that I would be in an emotional place where it would not harm me. It is completely his decision.

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 2:10:28 PM

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Oh and let me add that I have been "the other girl" on many occasions- most often as a friend to a sub who wanted to give their dom the experience or whose dom wanted them to find someone for a threesome. I rarely do it anymore because I found it was usually an empty experience for me and because I got tired of being the most experienced on in the room all the time.

But I'd certainly still be up for it with the right friend/set of circumstances.

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 2:14:53 PM

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IMO...if the third is fully informed as to her role and yours,and you yourself is ok with this scenerio, and you mind not the sharing sexually of your Dominant, then it should be a go.......right?......Tempting

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 2:23:02 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Oh and let me add that I have been "the other girl" on many occasions- most often as a friend to a sub who wanted to give their dom the experience or whose dom wanted them to find someone for a threesome. I rarely do it anymore because I found it was usually an empty experience for me and because I got tired of being the most experienced on in the room all the time.

But I'd certainly still be up for it with the right friend/set of circumstances.

That’s an excellent point. If the energy of the room is not positive and if the people are all not on the same page then a threesome can suck. Nothing worse then having two people stumble around nervous and unsure of themselves.

So to add if you the OP agree there are many factors in making it a good experience and that might include some acting ability. Finding the right woman will be critical.

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 2:23:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I would do it, I would do it because I trust him implicitly not to hurt me. I desire to give him this experience because although he has had threesomes with other women, it was not done in a way that he enjoyed it as much as he thought he should... I would love to fulfill the fantasy in his head in real life, but I do not know if he will ever think that I would be in an emotional place where it would not harm me. It is completely his decision.

This is exactly how it is for us. I know that it is something that Master would very much like to do and I too trust him implicitly. I trust him to know when the time is right for us to do this and I also trust him that he will decide the level of my involvement with the other woman. I am not bi but I would certainly do this if I knew it is something he really wanted and it would make him happy.

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 2:24:33 PM

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i'm the selfish type so i don't like to share or play with others which is why i'm happy that Daddy is the same way.

however before i met Daddy, my former Dom (also a member here)decided that one of my tasks would be to join collarme and find him another female to join us. like you, i'm not even bi-curious ...it's more like on the narrow edge of being bi-curious and i told him this but my voice was not being heard. he wanted his stable of submissives and demanded that i work hard to find him one. what i didn't know about my former was that he had other "submissives" too and i seriously thought i was the only one. of course he thought that fact about him was established (which it wasn't) so i quietly left him without ever completing this task.

i know it's the ultimate male fantasy to have two or more women at the same time however i personally am not comfortable with another female in our bed sharing my Daddy. He's all mine - forever!

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 2:31:04 PM

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Now see, i used to be that way too. i didn't share and refused to share. But there's something very different about my Master. i am not his submissive, i am his slave. i have not given him my submission, i have completely surrended to him. i can't tell you when those lines were crossed, or even how it happened. i just know that it has. And it was ME who brought up this matter. It was my choice to give him this gift, and honestly, it's growing into my fantasy as well...though i know in the deepest part of my soul i can't be giving to the other girl. She will have to draw her pleasure from Master, under the conditions of the encounter... which are details i don't care to share with the whole wide world. :P

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 2:33:56 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: petstorm

Now see, i used to be that way too. i didn't share and refused to share. But there's something very different about my Master. i am not his submissive, i am his slave. i have not given him my submission, i have completely surrended to him. i can't tell you when those lines were crossed, or even how it happened. i just know that it has. And it was ME who brought up this matter. It was my choice to give him this gift, and honestly, it's growing into my fantasy as well...though i know in the deepest part of my soul i can't be giving to the other girl. She will have to draw her pleasure from Master, under the conditions of the encounter... which are details i don't care to share with the whole wide world. :P

Will this be a one time thing? It really matters as to what advice we give.

Edited for clarity. Sorry

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 3:00:45 PM

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Well, since you're asking what I'd do in the situation, I have to be honest and say that I can't expand my mind beyond not being bisexual. I'm not sure how I'd feel. Any other female who comes into our 'family' is automatically a degree higher than me (I will always be on the bottom), so what he or she says goes, unless he impedes her. I am very good about being relaxed for my Owner's enjoyment. For example, I hate the taste of cum- man, woman, I don't care. It's some nasty tasting fluid! However...I do it for him, and it's not one of my hard limits, so I suck it up (no pun intended :P) and deal.

However, we're talking about another human being, another set of wants and desires, how they serve, how they believe one should serve and dominate, etc. It's very difficult to find harmony in such a situation (especially if the other sub is batshit crazy), but if I'm comfortable with the other girl and I feel like we have a connection, then I'm usually good to go.

Sorry if this post didn't help :\ It makes for good conversation, though!

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 3:11:32 PM

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fastreply, this is directed to the op - i am polyamorous and bisexual, but were i not, i imagine i would do it if it pleased Him...however, a lot of people wouldn't, and that's okay, too. i think as long as i had enough trust in the dominant and in his ability to respect my limits and desires, even if i were the most straight, monogamous person on the planet, i'd be okay with it. perhaps, as you mentioned, it's because i have more of a slave mentality than a submissive mentality, so (as we discussed to death on that thread with dbg) i would do it even though i wouldn't get anything out of it other than His pleasure. i don't know how this would figure in for other non-bicurious submissives, though, so i'm really glad you posted this...it will be interesting to read the replies.

really, though, neither way is right or wrong. :)

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 3:19:39 PM

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Well since you won't share the circumstances, it's hard for us to give help and suggestions- since a lot of us have thought about this before and have actualy experience with it, we certainly could do so.

However, as already noted- as long as you guys know what you want, clearly express it to the other person, they clearly understand it and are happy with it, and no one ends up sick or damaged, then enjoy.

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RE: Adding a girl when you're not even bi-curious - 2/25/2007 4:52:00 PM

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its not uncommon for 2 str8 women to serve a dom. if a dom wanted u 2 freak wit another female to excite him, if all wanted to be fair it would really depend on how strong his desire for it was vs. ur repulsion. in a different situation, i will explain like this. i will sometimes go to an evant or party i m not n2 so a friend or lover will have a companion there. only if it is really important to them. is it was someplace i REALLY didnt want to go i would just refuse. i don't know if ur followin me on this but thats my 2 cents

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