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RE: Using a strapon? - 2/28/2007 6:14:32 PM

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I hadn't got a change to try it.
But I would love to one day. Just have to find the right person to try it with.

If you have the strap-on, I have an ass to volunteer ;)

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I hadn't got a change to try it.
But I would love to one day. Just have to find the right person to try it with.

i have a bit of experience, and always crave more, in the receiving area *ws*

I will keep that in mind boys.

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RE: Using a strapon? - 2/28/2007 6:30:12 PM

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Thanks SpielMitMir, perhaps it will be educational for us both :)

At any rate, give it a go (with whomever you choose) I think you can see from the other responses that it has some real enthusiasts.

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RE: Using a strapon? - 3/1/2007 1:33:39 PM

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We"re here, maybe you just need to be in the right place?? I tell them to get one....I don't share my toys.....so they pick it out themselves........or they dont get it!!

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RE: Using a strapon? - 3/2/2007 2:57:42 PM

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I usually save My strap on discussion for a more private setting, but I have a wonderful little number that also includes a vibrator in the harness, so no need to that envy stuff. I think it was about $60.00 retail and well worth the price.

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RE: Using a strapon? - 3/7/2007 8:06:15 AM

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Thank you for the link to http://www.cometsoftware.com/she/...I have been searching for a place to get strap on harnesses with different attachments and to fit BBWs. Thanks again

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I hadn't got a change to try it.
But I would love to one day. Just have to find the right person to try it with.

One of the biggest things that makes or breaks a strap on experience for a woman is the quality of strap on used. While the mental aspect is there no matter what the attachment, if the harness doesn't fit well or isn't designed well you're not going to get the most out of the experience.

I suggest you have a look at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/BDSM_IronCity/ to find munches and events near you. It will be a good place to find someone who would love to explore strap on play with you. Hell, make the sub purchase your strap on for the privilege of being the person to take your strap on cherry. I had never considered doing strap on play till a sub brought it up. I told him it sounded interesting but that I wasn't going to do an outlay of money on something I'd no clue if I'd ever do a second time. He said he'd pay for the privilege of being the first person I ever used that way and took me to an adult store. We had the fun of picking out one together. (The sales clerk kept trying to get him to downsize the attachment he was getting, telling him that most men didn't realize that when something is being inserted rectally, small was usually what they wanted. I turned to him and said.. what she means pup, is your eyes are bigger than your asshole. I thought the poor clerk was going to faint.)

Unfortunately, he didn't know which was the best design or how to fit them any more than I did. Fit and style turn out to be very important, at least for me. Doing strap on with the original harness was fun, but.. it was a lot of work for the result. I had to do so much work for every thrust and withdraw of the attachment that it got dull for me way too fast. I talked to a friend and he recommended a custom harness from http://www.cometsoftware.com/she/ I wrote to the maker and after a dialog, decided to purchase one from him.

I paid for this one. (It didn't cost any more than an off the rack harness!!) It has been the best gift I've ever given myself. It fits like a dream.. I can and have even worn it under skirts. It moves with me. Every twitch of my hips is a thrust or withdraw. While strap on was interesting with the first harness the second opened a new world for me. And after finding a sub I deeply love, strap on is less about dominance and more about another way for me to make love to him. Sometimes I just need to be inside of my lil boy. And yes, to touch a subject I don't usually discuss, I can obtain orgasm from strap on play. Not every time, but it does happen.

For women who do not find sexual satisfaction from regular strap on arrangements, they may want to try a harness that has a hole for the attachment so they can use something like these:
feeldoe http://www.goodvibes.com/Item--i-13BA08--m-80
nexus http://www.goodvibes.com/Item--i-1-3-BA-BE05
triple play http://www.healthyandactive.com/triple-play-dildo.html

You can find links to more of interest in Pgh at http://www.drkdesyre.com/meetppl/orgs/orgspenn.html#PA

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RE: Using a strapon? - 3/7/2007 9:53:56 AM

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You are welcome. It's a truly wonderful harness!

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RE: Using a strapon? - 3/7/2007 9:57:44 AM

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ohohoh.. and I forgot to mention that the snap on attachment holder makes it quick and easy to change attachments. I custom ordered them in different size O rings, so I can work my way up in dildo size. I "pre-load" the O rings so I can do quick change.

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RE: Using a strapon? - 3/7/2007 11:30:32 AM

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I have also found that even if they are strap-on virgins, and don't readily admit to wanting that...it takes very little to change their mind ;)

More knowledge has changed a few minds of men I've crossed paths with.

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I hadn't got a change to try it.
But I would love to one day. Just have to find the right person to try it with.

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RE: Using a strapon? - 3/7/2007 1:47:27 PM

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belljar

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I have also found that even if they are strap-on virgins, and don't readily admit to wanting that...it takes very little to change their mind ;)

More knowledge has changed a few minds of men I've crossed paths with.

very true. not an easy thing for a guy to admit. i was broken in slowly. just a finger when She was going down on me, then two, then three, then the significant move to a dildo, then another really significant move to a strapon. the strapon making the role-reversal undenyable. even once there, i was very tentative about really letting it be known how much i loved it for a bit

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RE: Using a strapon? - 3/8/2007 7:50:47 PM

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love strapon play ..i will gladly bendover for my mistress anytime she wants to take my ass with her 10 in strapon ...i think she looks great wearing it and when she cums down the stairs with that strapon on i know where it is going ...shes great at doing me good with it and usually after the strapon she loves to fist me ...both ways are great ways to submit to a woman and her desires ...call me crazy but it does feel good ...usually gets it done at least once a week ..have fun

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RE: Using a strapon? - 3/9/2007 3:43:10 AM

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I don't know why it is so difficult (perhaps age? I know when I was 19 I had no clue about strapons and such) but I will agree that this is a form of sex. While I love strapon play, if someone contacts me and that's all they want, they get the same response as a random e-mail for sex. That's trolling.

Whereas, if someone is interested in being a service sub, play partner, or friend, and that is one of their interests, they are much more likely to get a response from me, and eventually get the harness pulled out.

Speaking of, I have a variety of harnesses, and I prefer a 4 strap harness to a 3 strap harness every time. I can use a toy on myself if I'm looking for orgasm, or if playing in a threesome I can receive while giving. My favorite harness, though, is a three strap - because it has spikes on the harness for a little ~extra~ sensation on the ass cheeks and thighs of the recipient.

For a while I made a boy supply his own insertables, but since going the silicone route I don't stress about it because I can sterilize between partners. I do make someone supply their own vac-u-lock toys because as far as I know none of those are silicone.

My best recommendation for beginners is to get the Tantus Silk in small, medium, and large, and then size up from there once those are all comfortable.

The feeldoe is great, but I felt it didn't do well with him leaning over and me standing up straight. I think it would work better in the bed, where both bodies are mostly horizontal. It did, however, transmit the vibrations FABULOUSLY.

I'd love to share techniques or stories if anyone has specific questions. Feel free to send along a note.

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RE: Using a strapon? - 3/9/2007 6:25:59 AM

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Why is it so hard to find a women into/ willing to top a guy with a strapon?

Easy enough to answer just that question : use of strapon = sex.

If that is all the submissive is looking for, or is the main focus of his submission, ( instead of a reward to be earned by service work or whatever the Dominant wishes ) then his asking for strap on action might seem to be more selfish gratification than submission.
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RE: Using a strapon? - 3/9/2007 3:06:22 PM

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Its taken a couple of years but I have met a few Dommes who like strapon play. But it takes a lot of time and patince attending several Munchs and other bdsm functions.

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RE: Using a strapon? - 9/3/2007 4:00:40 PM

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sounds like you know exactly how to use the strapon mystress

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RE: Using a strapon? - 9/3/2007 9:46:18 PM

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Strapons are fun (especially the harnesses with a vibrator near the clit) but I also really enjoy double ended dildos and feeldoes. I own the purple and blue feeldoes at:
http://www.stockroom.com/Vibrating-Feeldoe-P1732.aspx

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RE: Using a strapon? - 9/4/2007 3:39:21 AM

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Well Lady i would give you my ass to "spiel" for as long as you want.

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I hadn't got a change to try it.
But I would love to one day. Just have to find the right person to try it with.

I do not think you will have any problems finding the right guy.

Diane

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RE: Using a strapon? - 9/4/2007 8:08:35 AM

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Strapons are fun (especially the harnesses with a vibrator near the clit) but I also really enjoy double ended dildos and feeldoes. I own the purple and blue feeldoes at:
http://www.stockroom.com/Vibrating-Feeldoe-P1732.aspx

Mistress Lisa

That seems to be the important part.....for her to feel it all the way inside.

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RE: Using a strapon? - 9/4/2007 12:56:26 PM

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the feeldoe looks very interesting dominalisa

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RE: Using a strapon? - 9/4/2007 2:19:53 PM

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Why is it so hard to find a women into/ willing to top a guy with a strapon?

Well this one is way to easy.

They're all too busy doing each other to worry about the butt cheeks of
some sweet ol' stranger you know.

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RE: Using a strapon? - 9/4/2007 3:56:08 PM

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Being a lesbian, strap ons are DEFINITLY a big part of my sex life...

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