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massages - 3/24/2005 2:41:11 AM

fencerpet19

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Okay so this isn't entirely BDSM related, but I've been asked to give a massage and I'm looking for some input. Now I believe I give great massages... the kind you get at a spa. But does anyone have any little tricks that send your partner over the edge? Like different oils or lotions you use, or ways you massage a certain area. I'm just interested in what others do when giving a massage. Thanks,
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RE: massages - 3/24/2005 8:00:00 AM

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I always take my time on the feet.

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RE: massages - 3/24/2005 8:21:02 AM

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I lvoe giving/receiving massages... a few tidbits of advice:

1) stimulate all the senses during the massage. This can be achieved in many ways: Candles or dim lights (sight) though the flickering of candels is a personal prefrence of mine. Play a soothing music (sound) catered to preference of partner. Whatever massage oil/candle you use (scent), be sure it's enjoyable to your partner. Nothing can kill a massage worse than a massage oil that your partner finds 'olfactorily offensive'. Yes you can even include taste - whether using something sweet oin your lips, fingers or nipples to rub against his/her lips.

2) avoid over stimulation of genitals and erogenous zones as it's a sure way to end the massage early. Tease them, show you're interest and restraint at the same time. I like being teased with a long stroke from thigh to thigh, or abdomen to thigh (brushing genitalia). Gentle strokes of shaft and scrotum should be alternated with stimulation of other body parts (thighs, chest, face, buttocks etc) until you are ready for the massage to end, as it inevitably will with overstimulation ( either in orgasm or in an almost uncontrollable urge to pursue an entirely different activity <wink>).

3) for a sensual massage, start slowly and build pressure in deep tissue areas as you go. Return to light tickling touch after the deep tissue rub. I find that contrast is nice, but too much contrast can take one out of the zone. ie: grabbing an icecube after using a warm massage oil is not necessarily a good idea (of course it's not necessarily a bad idea either).

4) use your body and not just your hands. massage your partner with your torso, elbow, feet, breasts, your cheek/chin, tongue etc (be sure the massage oil is palatable). This can be highly erotic.

5) Most importantly, do not be in a rush. Remember the goal is to build up the mutual energy between you. Enjoy the process and so will your partner.

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RE: massages - 3/24/2005 9:02:54 AM

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Like different oils or lotions you use...

Personally, I use Eucerine or Albolene. Albolene is a bit more vaseline-ish, but it stays "wet" longer as well. Eucerine feels a bit less greasy, but you need to re-apply if you are doing any serious massage.

A tip: try to maintain some contact at all times while giving the message. Don't ever remove both hands at once and break the connection. This means getting the message space prepared in advance, so everything is within one arm's reach. Don't forget a towel, some water (for drinking) and any other sensation devices you might want to mix in with your massage.

If it were me getting the massage, I would want you to incorporate some ritualistic aspects to it. Kneels, bows, asking permission to touch. These turn a simple massge into an act of submission...

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RE: massages - 3/24/2005 10:20:50 AM

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I know a few pro threapists. E-mail me on the other side and I'll connect you with them via e-mail for some advice.

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RE: massages - 3/24/2005 3:32:53 PM

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Like different oils or lotions you use

Fractionated coconut oil is nice because it doesn't stain (your clothes, the sheets, etc). I like sweet almond oil, personally, but that's not based on anything other than the fact that the texture works for me. Jojoba oil is nice because it mimics sebum but not great for massage because it can absorb very rapidly.

The BEST though, imnsho of course, is whipped shea butter. It's not runny like an oil, but it has all the wonderful slick properties and just the right grip/glide ratio. My personal favourite is the one made by David Roman of ardatharomas. You can find it here: http://www.ardatharomas.com/aromabutter.htm You can get the unscented version and add your own essential oils (but please do so KNOWLEDGABLY! Some eo's are sensitizing, or photosensitizing, and others can have unwanted physical or emotional effects) or you can buy it already scented. David's products are top quality.

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RE: massages - 3/29/2005 6:38:54 PM

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If you're in a reasonably sized city, there's probably at least one store that sells massage therapy items including base oils and lotions and scented oils to create your own personal massage oil or lotion. I'm sure they'd be a good source for information, whether it be picking their collective brain, or books they have, as well as point you to classes from a community college or other source, if you wish to get serious about your technique.

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