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juliaoceania -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 6:42:44 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I'd find it weird to be told not to wear heels just due to a physical insecurity on the part of the other person.  That vibe would so not work for me.

But I do like being a little shorter and have no problem going around in sneakers/socks or barefoot if it's warm enough.  I have really pretty feet, prefer being naked, it's comfy, and a few inches shorter tends to be the perfect height for kissing.


It does not bother me, I do not like heels anyways, and I can wear them, but I think I need to clarify. I joked about wearing 6 inch heels to a fetish event. That would make me considerably taller than he... he has not told me never to wear heels ever. In fact I wore a regular pair(I was about the same height as he with them on) to his employee Christmas party.

He does not like the thought of me wearing extreme heels and I was just suggesting it to look like a freak[:D]



myobedience -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 6:58:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

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ORIGINAL: myobedience

My question is, do any of you women find it hard to consider a dominant who is way taller than you or the same height or shorter than you?

 


it wouldn't matter what Daddy's height was to me (stuff like this has no baring in our relationship) ...this is almost like asking bi-racial D/s couples does skin color matter in your relationship. 

don't take that statement the wrong way - merely saying it seems rather bias that someone would be worried about another person's height and not choose them as a Dom or sub because of something so trivial.




I must give my thoughts on this now.  I do not equate height with issues like bi-racial relationships.  If I were in a bi-racial D/s relationship, I would venture into the same issues of height.
 
To someof us, height DOES matter.  I simply cannot submit to an obese, shorter than me and non-virile dom.  I have a dear friend who delighted in her ownership of a Gorean Master and left him 3 months later because she could NOT be without his virility.  I do not know, it hasnt happened tome, if i could go that far, but those 3 are major issues for me.
 
In regards to height, I need to look UP in every sense of the word to my dom, height physically included.  Yes in the kneeling positon every man is taller.  But in bed spooning, walking in public, etc it gives my psyche a very icky feeling to know that he is shorter.  I dated a guy about 3 inches shorter, I had to break it off.  BTW, my longest relationship was with a black man, so I cannot equate this to "racialness,"
 
I also would not wear my 3 inch heels with my last dom, he didnt care, I did, becasue I was taller than he in them.  
 
So I wondered how other women felt about height and if their psyche (psycholigcal) played with them in this regards.
 
It's strange though cause in other relationships, I usually picked mucher taller and generally harley type dudes, you know the broad shoulders and great legs and ass type of dudes. 
Now I NEED the kind of man who is totally self confident, has a commanding authority and takes control, blows me away with his voice and knows what he is all about and goes for it, even if it takes him years to find it.  Patience is always a virtue.

I love opinions, we are all so different and unique. 




Obsidiansnamaste -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 7:08:30 PM)

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ORIGINAL: myobedience

I am considered tall or modertely tall for a woman.  I am 5'8"
I have noticed a few women who are 6 ft while browsing profiles.
I have also seen 5 ft or under.
 
My question is, do any of you women find it hard to consider a dominant who is way taller than you or the same height or shorter than you?
 
Does the height of a dominant play into part of your psyche?


Yes height does matter, taller is better.

i'm 5'3 (i thought for many years i was 5'4...found out recently i'm 53.5...who knew?) Master is 6'6  all i can say is....
yummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....~smile~



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 7:17:23 PM)

i suppose then i'm the only one not effected by a man's height whether he's shorter and/or taller than me. if Daddy was shorter than me, i would still treat Him with the same respect and reverence as i do now. it wouldn't effect my psyche because as i stated - the height issue is basically a trival and mute problem. i would be more concerned about if we're compatiable or share the same interests as vanillas and as Daddy-daughter. it's somewhat like "racialness" as well because i'm in a bi-racial D/s relationship and i have had been asked does Daddy's race effect me as a submissive (and it doesn't - i've had many bi-racial relationships before and grew up in a bi-racial family). i guess it still seems shallow to me to consider someone's height as a deal breaker however to each his/her own.



YourhandMyAss -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 7:43:05 PM)

sam lil girl, well it could be a bit trivial, but if they suffered a case of gantisim, they'd be way to tall for me as I am only 5'3. There's health issues to consider to with someone with giantisim, yes that's a real condition.

But unless it was in the extreams like he's 3 feet or he's 8 9 or 10 feet, like I said wouldn't matter to me.



adaddysgirl -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 8:22:13 PM)

i am only interested in taller, big build guys (doesn't have to be muscular....just big built).  i usually go for 5' 11" or above.  i am 5' 4" but with 5 inch heels, i just don't want to look my partner in the eye.  Yeh....i really like that lil feeling!
 
Daddysgirl



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: height differences (3/1/2007 9:37:30 PM)

As I posted originally, having something have an effect doesn't mean it's necessarily a large or meaningful or decision changing effect. 

A persons height WILL have an effect on how I perceive and respond to them- so will their hairstyle.  That doesn't mean I'll completely change decisions based upon that particular effect.



asiandoll27 -> RE: height differences (3/2/2007 2:27:17 AM)

Well - I am often 5' 5" - -- with 3 inch heels on. Sometimes I do feell disadvantaged around other women who are so much taller than me - but those times are rather rare. Just dont expect me to go out wearing flats. :)



nissa -> RE: height differences (3/2/2007 2:53:47 AM)

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I peaked at nissa's profile and it said she was 5'7 and 115 lbs. Although "tall" is a relative term I suspect nissa might think she is too heavy as well...LOL! 

LMAO...actually,no, I think I am too skinny if the truth be known. But I had always wished that I was shorter [&:]. I like men who are over 6 feet...I like the feeling of being 'dwarfed' [8D]



myobedience -> RE: height differences (3/2/2007 3:52:06 AM)

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ORIGINAL: nissa

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I peaked at nissa's profile and it said she was 5'7 and 115 lbs. Although "tall" is a relative term I suspect nissa might think she is too heavy as well...LOL! 

LMAO...actually,no, I think I am too skinny if the truth be known. But I had always wished that I was shorter [&:]. I like men who are over 6 feet...I like the feeling of being 'dwarfed' [8D]


I thought that was strange too nissa.  At 5'8" if I was 120, I'd be looking like a bag of bones.  I like about 145.



onestandingstill -> RE: height differences (3/2/2007 6:46:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I am 5'9" and I definitely prefer tall guys.  And tall for me is in the 6'2" - 6'4" range, I like 'em TALL.  And please don't embellish your height, that's a big pet peeve of mine..  My limit is a guy who is shorter than me.  I just can't see it happening.  

In that mindset where you consider the package the gift came in more than the gift inside don't you ever wonder if your surfical hang up isn't what keeps you from finding your one in some respects?
I'm not trying to be a smart ass or say it's wrong for you, I'm really just wondering if a 5'5 man came along that was evertyhing else your heart desired if his height would eliminate him from your consideration.
suzanne



juliaoceania -> RE: height differences (3/2/2007 8:21:44 AM)

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In that mindset where you consider the package the gift came in more than the gift inside don't you ever wonder if your surfical hang up isn't what keeps you from finding your one in some respects?
I'm not trying to be a smart ass or say it's wrong for you, I'm really just wondering if a 5'5 man came along that was evertyhing else your heart desired if his height would eliminate him from your consideration.
suzanne


I am 5 foot 10, and I will say in katy's defense (not that she needs defending) that attraction is extremely important to some of us. Now if looking down on someone (literally) is a turn off and stops attraction from being borne, I do not think this is superficial in a negative way. Almost everyone has a criteria of something they find appealing or unappealing.

I would not date someone 5 foot 5 unless I developed an attraction to them. I have never been attracted to someone that much shorter than myself. Perhaps I am superficial, if that is the case I really do not care to be honest. I have dated disabled people, people of other ethnicities, people that others considered unattractive... because I can never quite put a finger on what will attract me other than intellect, but I have never been attracted to someone that was significantly shorter than myself. That is probably because on some superficial level I do not find men 5 inches shorter than I am attractive... I can live with that superficiality about myself, but I will not abide forming an intimate relationship that I do not feel that special "something" called attraction ever again. I did that once, and it ended rather badly because I hurt him... and he was one of the most physically attractive men I have ever been involved with. In fact he was gorgeous.



KatyLied -> RE: height differences (3/2/2007 8:25:41 AM)

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I'm really just wondering if a 5'5 man came along that was evertyhing else your heart desired if his height would eliminate him from your consideration.


It probably would.  If he was 5'5" he would not be what I desired.  I know that may sound shallow, but physical attraction is important to me and I find it powerful.  I also want to add that two of the best relationships I've ever had were with guys who were my exact height.  There is something hot about standing face to face in a heated moment.  [;)]



SeekingAMentor -> RE: height differences (3/2/2007 8:33:48 AM)

I am 5ft 4in so most men are taller than me but I have always had an attraction to taller men.



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: height differences (3/2/2007 8:41:27 AM)

i'm 5'4" and look super hot in 2 inch heels standing next to guy who is 6ft (tallest' i've ever dated was 6'4"). it wouldn't bother me if Daddy was 5ft or 6'2".  i'm not going to tell someone "sorry, you're not the perfect height for me" - very superfacial and shallow to judge based on height. then again this is one submissive's opinion.



missturbation -> RE: height differences (3/2/2007 9:03:01 AM)

I'm 5ft 4 so most men are taller than me. Can't say its ever really bothered me either way. I sometimes feel a little weird when i put my 6" heels on if im taller than my date / man but i cant give up the heels. I guess i do prefer feeling small at the side of a man.



juliaoceania -> RE: height differences (3/2/2007 9:23:40 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

i'm 5'4" and look super hot in 2 inch heels standing next to guy who is 6ft (tallest' i've ever dated was 6'4"). it wouldn't bother me if Daddy was 5ft or 6'2".  i'm not going to tell someone "sorry, you're not the perfect height for me" - very superfacial and shallow to judge based on height. then again this is one submissive's opinion.


I would ask if you have ever dated someone 5 foot tall, if not you cannot really judge taller women who just have more opportunity to come across men several inches shorter than themselves. It is really easy to sit in judgment when someone has never been put in a situation before... like I said, if you have dated a guy that is 4 '11 then I am mistaken... but if not you really have no idea what it feels like to tower over a man.



nissa -> RE: height differences (3/2/2007 9:35:01 AM)

~fast reply~
 
I can admit that there are few men that I have come across that are actually shorter than I am [&:] but I do have a preference for those that are alot taller than myself. There is just something so comforting about looking up at someone when you are standing side by side.



onestandingstill -> RE: height differences (3/2/2007 9:38:02 AM)

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

i'm 5'4" and look super hot in 2 inch heels standing next to guy who is 6ft (tallest' i've ever dated was 6'4"). it wouldn't bother me if Daddy was 5ft or 6'2".  i'm not going to tell someone "sorry, you're not the perfect height for me" - very superfacial and shallow to judge based on height. then again this is one submissive's opinion.


I would ask if you have ever dated someone 5 foot tall, if not you cannot really judge taller women who just have more opportunity to come across men several inches shorter than themselves. It is really easy to sit in judgment when someone has never been put in a situation before... like I said, if you have dated a guy that is 4 '11 then I am mistaken... but if not you really have no idea what it feels like to tower over a man.

Well I'm 5'9 and dated a guy who just loved me in heels that was 5'4. Other than the whole I didn't fit sitting in his lap too well the rest of the size difference was irrelavant.
LOL so was his name, it was Magoo.
Gosh what a hottie he was, too bad he moved away way back when.
suzanne



juliaoceania -> RE: height differences (3/2/2007 9:45:01 AM)

But are you judging those who have not done as you have?

It is one thing to say that a superficial trait could stand in the way of love, it is another to state that someone is a superficial person because they are not attracted to whatever.

I have dated a deaf man and I stayed with a man that lost a couple of inches off his height. I did not feel I was doing either of these men favors and I loved them both. My former dominant was old enough to be my father. One of my former boyfriends when I was very young had only one eye.

I do not think it is completely superficial that a physical trait in another may make you feel in the deepest recesses of yourself uncomfortable. Short men make me feel like a mommy, not like a submissive woman... that is the way I feel, and I am starting to think that I am being attacked for my inner feelings... we all have a right to those without some sort of moral judgment on us. I am sure you would not want to have sex with someone that made you feel like you were with a UM



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