feylin -> RE: degrading words (3/23/2007 7:58:33 PM)
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My roommate and I visited Ireland for two weeks several years ago. Before the trip we both had issues with the word "cunt"...of course, we were young then and still thought anal was a definite no, so you know some time has passed. At any rate, two wonderful weeks in Ireland cured us! Spent a couple of nights drinking in Bunratty and all we heard was "that f-in cunt." The term was used to describe or denote everything from a fine horse to a troublesome airplane. We used "that f-in cunt" for about a month or more after we got home....in traffic, waiting in lines, we couldn't use it enough. Thankfully, it wore off, but I no longer cringe when I hear it ~ I just smile at a fond memory. We also got some great pottery and liquor, too. (Just so no one thinks we only brought back potty mouths.) After exploring my kink, I learned what others here have stated: the intent makes a difference. I do remember the first time my schoolmate stated matter-of-factly (right at the bus stop! egad) that I must be a bastard since my family sported three different last names in residence. I was truly devastated when they went on to say my brother must not be my REAL brother, so I explained that we only used different last names to sort the mail faster (it was one of my quick moments). I was so young I had to ask what bastard really meant because I thought it was just my mom's nickname for my stepfather, That Bastard. But words can be very powerful so I always try to find something positive to say to a young person. I heard "stupid" a lot as a child and I simply do not believe it should ever be applied to children ~ even when a person is angry and/or scared and weird stuff comes flying out of their mouth. (Because we'll remember and blame all sorts of crap on you when we talk to our therapist, then the therapist will go on some talk show and before you know it, there's your life snipped and squeezed down to all the ugly stuff and sandwiched between commercials for feminine hygiene products and orgasmic shampoo. Just saying. It could happen.)
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