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Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 11:44:11 AM   
chastitybelt


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Joined: 1/14/2007
Status: offline 		Is this the norm that some Collarme members are rude when you ask for BDSM information?I had a sub disrespect me today because i ask  him question about his bondage practice. He started accusing me of being a scammer.Is this  the norm on Collarme.com.?I'm just looking for  honest people on here not  rude disrepectful  men.
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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 11:46:56 AM   
MsKatHouston


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From: Houston, TX
Status: offline 		Like everywhere else in life, you'll get those who are polite, those who are rude and those who will ignore you.  Don't let one bad experience sway you.  Simply move on to someone else. 

So, in answer to your question, yes, it is the norm that some members are rude.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 11:48:53 AM   
chastitybelt


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Joined: 1/14/2007
Status: offline 		Thanks,I am going to move on.

< Message edited by chastitybelt -- 3/2/2007 12:05:33 PM >

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 11:59:15 AM   
domiguy


Posts: 12952
Joined: 5/2/2006
Status: offline 		block and ignore.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 12:09:34 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Joined: 2/5/2006
Status: offline 		Was it a first conversation? 

You'd be amazed at how many of us - owned or unowned - are hit on, or are asked very personal questions about our sexuality and play, for the sole purpose of giving the "asker" something to get off on.  Consider this - would you walk into a bar and ask a complete stranger if he/she likes it on top?  Perhaps the sub thought your question was disrespectful...?

I agree about moving on.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 12:36:36 PM   
chastitybelt


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Joined: 1/14/2007
Status: offline 		I'm a domme in training and i was asking this sub basic  BDSM 101 question for the last 2`weeks.I didn't know almost every person on collarme.com is scared of being scammed via email.I wasn't asking  for money but knowledge. This is crazy.

< Message edited by chastitybelt -- 3/2/2007 12:37:11 PM >

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 12:46:24 PM   
FukinTroll


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Joined: 2/6/2007
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Status: offline 		Chastity, read the forums and ask questions. If it feels good grab up the scissors and run. If it feels bad, run... just put down the scissors first.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 12:47:55 PM   
chrissyslave


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Status: offline 		The OP doesn't really give enough information about this contact to draw any firm conclusion, but with her profile it says she is in training and her overall profile is very brief (thus reason for scammer comment?).  No pics, description of what you want and no BDSM interests shown is always a bit of a reason for doubt, so that much you do control and can make adjustments in.  In many regards you seem as much or more a Domme newbie as I am a sub/slave newbie, and no doubt it is easy to make errors in self presentation or requests.

As mentioned by one responder did you make inquires with your very first contact to him, and went into more detailed requests?  If so it may seem you are attempting to GET more information than PROVIDE so he can decide if he even cares to respond, much less provide you details.  It might have seemed you are looking just for bondage ideas, or could be a wanker using a false profile.

My suggestion: look and be real, and tread softly with first contacts that you make.  Then move upwards.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 1:02:44 PM   
chastitybelt


Posts: 32
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Status: offline 		I can't believe a domme in training can't get  any online help  from her follow Domme and sub via PM(collarme).I could understand if i was talking to  people offline, (privacy) but online.Who gives a F**K.?We're not going to meet offline so  answer the question.What's the big deal.I'm asking "how  to do" question? how to avoid  bad experiences?(Exhaling). 

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 1:07:58 PM   
Aileen68


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quote:

ORIGINAL: chastitybelt

I can't believe a domme in training can't get  any online help  from her follow Domme and sub via PM(collarme).I could understand if i was talking to  people offline, (privacy) but online.Who gives a F**K.?We're not going to meet offline so  answer the question.What's the big deal.I'm asking "how  to do" question? how to avoid  bad experiences?(Exhaling). 
Perhaps your own attitude was rude????    If this is how you go about asking questions then I wouldn't blame them for being just as rude to you right back.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 1:14:56 PM   
chastitybelt


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Status: offline 		Aileen68,

How would you react if a person was rude too you ,be nice? I  was VERY respectful to this man but  instead of asking me question.This man was  rude.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 1:19:29 PM   
LadyPact


Posts: 32566
Status: offline 		Being that almost all of My experience is real time, rather than cyber, I find Myself often having to ask about electronic practices.  I hope, in My case, since I paralelle My on line actions to those in the real world ways of the lifestyle, respect first always, My requests for information do not appear to be looked upon as scams.  If I ask using the wrong phrase, I learn from it and move on, but I've still learned something in the process.  I've noticed the cyber world of the lifestyle takes some getting used to, so I do a lot of watching and observing.
 
 
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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 1:19:37 PM   
GeekyGirl


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Status: offline 		If it was a first contact, I would have been rude too.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 1:20:33 PM   
AAkasha


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quote:

ORIGINAL: chastitybelt

Is this the norm that some Collarme members are rude when you ask for BDSM information?I had a sub disrespect me today because i ask  him question about his bondage practice. He started accusing me of being a scammer.Is this  the norm on Collarme.com.?I'm just looking for  honest people on here not  rude disrepectful  men.


What is it that you want to learn about being a femdom?
More importantly, what attracts you to female domination?

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 1:22:19 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Someone else's lack of manners is never an excuse to forget one's own.

Frankly I haven't seen anything which would suggest you didn't provoke the rudeness.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 1:31:04 PM   
chastitybelt


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Status: offline 		geekygirl

I guess  you're going to get cuss out from nice people


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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 1:37:50 PM   
chastitybelt


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Joined: 1/14/2007
Status: offline 		luckyalbatross,

Your post is not an honest reply because i know if a person was rude too you.Luckalbatross will not be nice



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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 1:42:02 PM   
Argentopal


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Joined: 12/12/2005
From: Central Texas / Hill Country
Status: offline 		While I have an small idea based on the OP's attitude here that perhaps she was not as polite as she might have been, I would like to add something to this line of thought.  I had a first chat with someone this week.  I sent the person an email greeting here and they responded asking if we might chat via yahoo and I agreed.  When we both got each other added and were on line I sent them a greeting and followed with the statement that if they were busy or already chatting we could chat later (when I chat I give the other person 100% of my attention and I want the same). They assured me that trey were avainalble to chat with me at that time, so we began with a few basic questions.  Turns out that person was not living where their profile indicated and they had some major life situations not even hinted at in their profile.  As i attempted to carry on some sort of chat conversation, they responded to me in single words, or sometimes short non-sentences. There were long gaps between my comments or questions and their responses.  They asked me where I lived 3 times in a short chat and when I aksed a question about their intent to return to their stated home (from profile) or go someplace else when they moved from their current location (as they said they wanted to do) they were offended that I asked the question.  I was trying to think of things to talk about, as they clearly were not holding up their end of the chat, not even trying to carry on any kind of a chat conversation.  And remember it was they who asked to go right to a chat and not email a few times.  So, I am sure they think I was rude and nosey and I think they were less then truthful in their bio (brand new, not simply old and out of date) and were rude in the chat by obviously not paying attention to the chat when I asked if they had time.  So, 2 sides of  a story, both the truth as we each see it (probably). Both most likely think the other was rude and I doubt we will chat again.  But that doesn't mean we either one might be wonderful for someone else to chat with.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 1:44:22 PM   
JohnWarren


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From: Delray Beach, FL
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ORIGINAL: chastitybelt

luckyalbatross,

Your post is not an honest reply because i know if a person was rude too you.Luckalbatross will not be nice


Her reply struck me as being right on the money. 

Of course, what you "know" about LA may be based on language problems and a predisposition on your part.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 1:50:55 PM   
GeekyGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: chastitybelt

geekygirl

I guess  you're going to get cuss out from nice people




Doesn't bother me a bit. As for them being, "nice people" ,well that's a subjective matter. I consider it rude to ask someone an intimate question the first time you talk to them, therefore I usually respond in kind.


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