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Submissive mentor - 3/5/2007 9:21:24 PM   
SwitchinAround


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Status: offline 		I know that Dom/me mentors exist, but do sub mentors exist and if so, how do you contact one?
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RE: Submissive mentor - 3/5/2007 9:23:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SwitchinAround
I know that Dom/me mentors exist, but do sub mentors exist and if so, how do you contact one?

Yes.

You just did- you'll have plenty of responses here.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_519882/mpage_1/key_mentoring/tm.htm#519990
What exactly is a mentor supposed to do for/with a submissive?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_95421/mpage_1/key_mentors/tm.htm#95421
Mentors/Protectors for newbies dom/domme?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_139851/mpage_1/key_mentors/tm.htm#139851
Out of my depth, patience and its virtues

http://www.collarchat.com/m_149477/mpage_1/key_mentors/tm.htm#149477
My advice for novice female submissives

http://www.collarchat.com/m_210166/mpage_1/key_mentors/tm.htm#210166
Mentors, what are they and how do they help?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_283883/mpage_1/key_mentors/tm.htm#283883
Mentors

http://www.collarchat.com/m_493886/mpage_1/key_mentors/tm.htm#493886
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RE: Submissive mentor - 3/5/2007 9:26:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes submissive mentors exist. I am a submissive and I have helped mentor (as best I could anyway) and given advice to people both online and in real life. As for finding one, I would suggest finding a submissive whom you respect and simply asking for advice.

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RE: Submissive mentor - 3/5/2007 9:34:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		Can you clarify....are you looking for a mentor of any role to mentor a submissive or are you looking for a mentor who IS submissive?

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RE: Submissive mentor - 3/5/2007 9:37:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Can you clarify....are you looking for a mentor of any role to mentor a submissive or are you looking for a mentor who IS submissive?

Master Fire





To be honest, it wouldn't matter to me--I just want to enter into my first experience with some knowledge of how to act, what to do, ect.

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RE: Submissive mentor - 3/5/2007 10:36:12 PM   
AquaticSub


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RE: Submissive mentor - 3/6/2007 12:05:35 AM   
Synocense


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Status: offline 		Congratulations on your bravery and for reaching out for guidance. To me, that shows some good smarts : )  I define myself as slave and am mentoring
a submissive person at this time, it is possible and so far it is working for all people involved.

Best of luck,
Syn

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RE: Submissive mentor - 3/6/2007 7:29:50 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		Others are very right: be yourself. There are no universal laws about Ds and certainly no manual about how to act. If someone doesn't approve of you being you, then they are not a match for you. If you find a school of thought that appeals to you, find a mentor inside that school. It's ok to look and watch for someone who fits with you and impresses you.

The only rules of thumb that apply here are really the rules found in polite society: be polite and courteous, be neat and clean, be attentive when someone else is talking, etc. etc. Hopefully you know how to do these things already. But, even these rules can be bent in a Dom/sub relationship; some people simply do not want to be treated the way you want to be treated (it's taken me a while to grasp that).

Master Fire


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RE: Submissive mentor - 3/6/2007 1:13:42 PM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		Mentor's don't find you.  You find mentor's.  Yes, they do exist. 
Find someone whom you identify with and contact them.  Simple as that.
Those who are eager to mentor you, I'd stay away from.  Many have alternate adgendas.

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RE: Submissive mentor - 3/6/2007 2:15:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		My mentor was a Dom but he had a slave and she helped me in ways he as a Dom could not so a submissive can be a good mentor.  They do exist.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Submissive mentor - 3/6/2007 2:59:15 PM   
swtrayn


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Status: offline 		First off, good luck on your search and actually being willing to take that step in finding one that can help you in learning.

I think mentors can be a very positive thing in ones life.

I have had friends in the lifestyle that had Mentors and really helped them through some tough times.

I have never taken that step myself to find a Mentor for me, but sometimes I do think about it.

rayn


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RE: Submissive mentor - 3/6/2007 3:29:17 PM   
Arastella


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Status: offline 		I dunno if you'd call me a mentor but a lot of subbies come to me for advice and I've helped a lot of em.  So I'd suppose anyone can be a mentor if they are willing to help ya out and have good advice.  If u need anything, write me and I'll see what I can do.

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