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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 9:19:33 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		face slapping and other extreme play will always be a hard limit for me because of my parents and ex.  at a tender age, i witnessed a horrible argument between my parents and my father viciously attacked my mother. i suppressed this act in the back of my head until one fateful Christmas Eve my ex (who was drunk) slapped me.  he did it in front of his mother and other family members while i was preggers with my 2nd UM. though i fought back, i vowed no other man would ever hit me like that again.




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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 9:24:33 AM   
SirDiscipliner69


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Status: offline 		I had some of the hottest sessions with a local experienced girl a while ago...never a dull moment with her...unfortunately the worlds of reality and fantasy collided with the truth and attention.

Still looking back it was hot.

The look in the eyes of submission and eagerness willful behaviour....hmmmm

Ever just want the hotness but not the wackiness that follows after they are remorseful?

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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 9:29:02 AM   
Wildfleurs


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Status: offline 		We enjoy doing breath play (in the form of dunking underwater, plastic bags on the head, choking on the throat, hand over the mouth and nose, choking with his cock, etc) as well as face slapping although we found that for the face slapping to really be hot it has to be in the right context, which is usually in the middle of sex (especially when mixed with begging for face slapping).  With breath play my owner doesn't believe in doing it to the point of unconciousness, which I think is really appropriate. 

I don't have any sort of background or history of abuse as either a child or adult so there's no real triggers for me in any of the SM shtuff, including breath play although some kinds of breath play I tend to panic in the middle of more than others.  With choking I just sit there like a happy (and very horny) lamb, while with a plastic bag I tend to panic a little bit.  But either way for me the appeal of breath play is really that he owns every part of me, including my air and ability to breathe.

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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 9:29:04 AM   
lighthearted


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Status: offline 		face slapping had been a hard limit of mine from the beginning, due to negative associations I thought I would have.  ironically, it turned out that my reaction wasn't what I thought it would be, no negative associations, in fact, it was pretty much a turn on.  we did have to draw the line at one that felt like it almost had a wind-up before it.  it rocked my head on my neck pretty hard, I was afraid I'd hurt my neck or end up with a handprint on my face.

as far as breath play/choking etc...I honestly don't see the attraction.  Master enjoys it, but for me, it's just kinda, eh, well, whatever, take it or leave it.  I don't succumb to any fear of being under an actual threat of my life being taken in that situation, which I suppose is reckless, and probably better explored "on the couch" as opposed to on a  bb .

I don't enjoy the sensation of fingers pushing down on my airway, that part is painful for me, and not in a good way.

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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 9:29:32 AM   
mixielicous


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ORIGINAL: SirDiscipliner69


Ever just want the hotness but not the wackiness that follows after they are remorseful?

Ross
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so after it was all said and done, her mindset changed again?

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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 9:31:47 AM   
michaelOfGeorgia


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Status: offline 		i have this awful reflex if slapping back when someone assaults me in this manner...hey, i'm only human...i think.

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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 9:32:34 AM   
mixielicous


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ORIGINAL: Wildfleurs

We enjoy doing breath play (in the form of dunking underwater, plastic bags on the head, choking on the throat, hand over the mouth and nose, choking with his cock, etc) as well as face slapping although we found that for the face slapping to really be hot it has to be in the right context, which is usually in the middle of sex (especially when mixed with begging for face slapping). With breath play my owner doesn't believe in doing it to the point of unconciousness, which I think is really appropriate.


aaaaah cock choking, my dear friend LOL

but i wanted to say, we enjoy face slapping the most in bed too, where it first arrived

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ORIGINAL: lighthearted

face slapping had been a hard limit of mine from the beginning, due to negative associations I thought I would have. ironically, it turned out that my reaction wasn't what I thought it would be, no negative associations, in fact, it was pretty much a turn on.



same fears, same reaction. i love crossing new barriers.

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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 9:33:19 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Slapping of the face was one of My first slave's hard limits, as it did bring back bad memories of abuse in childhood.  However, My last pet had no issue with it.  I've found that I enjoy it, especially in cases where he would speak out of turn.  Very good if in private and his mouth would deserve corpral punishment.  I keep My nails long, so I wouldn't strike hard enough to leave scratches.  Just enough to remind him to watch his tounge.
 
When it comes to the next one I take, between the two, I definitely would prefer one who does not have this as a limit.  A good tap on the face can be quite exillerating.

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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 9:46:04 AM   
iwannapullurhair


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Status: offline 		I love face slapping. My sub seemed to get pretty turned on by it. I had to resist the urge to slap harder. I'm not trying to do any damage. I did some light choking, but haven't done much. I am quite harsh on the breasts-takes her days for the marks to go away.

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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 9:53:50 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I adore face slapping, though it will start me sobbing and spacing pretty deep pretty fast so the other person needs to be ok dealing with that.

I am always sad when people let their bad pasts control their future due to fear.  I understand not wanting to run headlong into something you had a bad experience with, but to just close it all down just leaves me too controlled by fear and shutting down a part that COULD become a very enjoyable outlet for someone.  And I know it doesn't help that most doms are clueless when it comes to having patience and building up to an intense activity.  But if they are happy with it, that's what matters.

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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 10:21:29 AM   
mixielicous


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I understand not wanting to run headlong into something you had a bad experience with, but to just close it all down just leaves me too controlled by fear and shutting down a part that COULD become a very enjoyable outlet for someone. And I know it doesn't help that most doms are clueless when it comes to having patience and building up to an intense activity. But if they are happy with it, that's what matters.


i agree, you are supposed to have control of your life, how is this possible when fear dominates your decisions on something you may possibly even be interested in. build up is huge too, baby steps are keys to success a lot of the time

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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 10:35:58 AM   
canupleaseme


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Status: offline 		Its the opposite in my relationship. As the Dominant I find face slapping something thats always been something I have had great difficulty feeling comfortable giving.  Now its something I am warming to, though not in an extreme way.
Its something I know my boy dreams about me doing.

I think sometimes its down to personal history.  I was in an abusive vanilla relationship, that is why I have issues doing it.   He has never been in a bad relatiohsip ( lucky him)  and he just sees it as being something kinda horny and kinky.

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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 11:27:23 AM   
babyblues


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I adore face slapping, though it will start me sobbing and spacing pretty deep pretty fast so the other person needs to be ok dealing with that.




i think face-slapping is so powerful and intensely intimate....it takes my breath away

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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 11:34:57 AM   
valeca


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Status: offline 		I like face slapping and breath play, both in the right circumstances, of course.  Neither have been done out of anger.

Hand over the mouth and nose while being nailed from behind...hearing Him whispering nastiness in my ear...oh yeah!  Works every time.

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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 11:41:05 AM   
Caitriona


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Status: offline 		Face slapping isn't so much a hard limit for me as it a very flexible one.  We are working up to it in small steps and so far it has been intense but not in a bad way.  It's all about the intent for me, really.  If he's not angry with me and he slaps me then I know it's not an abusive kind of thing.  You know?

I absolutely adore one hand pulling my hair back, and one on my neck with him whispering in my ear.  *pant*


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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 12:05:15 PM   
MsParados


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The description of your play scares the &*$%# out of me, yet I respect that you are mindful of safety.  But, I can't help thinking about whether you two might go too far one day.  How tragic that would be...


And that is why any Dom/me into that should also be CPR certified, Because accidents do happen.

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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 12:07:45 PM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: babyblues

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I adore face slapping, though it will start me sobbing and spacing pretty deep pretty fast so the other person needs to be ok dealing with that.




i think face-slapping is so powerful and intensely intimate....it takes my breath away


i absolutely agree about how powerful and intimate face-slapping is.  It not only takes my breath away, it is like flipping a major switch!  Master has told me that it's not something He was ever really into doing to anyone before me but since i desired it so much, He began to experiment.  He says He loves it, especially because of my reaction.  Regardless of what else is happening, when He slaps me across the face it's like throwing me into overdrive!  Nothing gets me hotter.  As His experimentation has progressed, He has slapped harder and more often (always, of course, being sure to avoid the dangerous spots and those likely to leave bruises).  For me, it is THE most intimate, personal act W/we share and the one i would least like for Him to participate in with another sub/slave  
 
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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 12:09:04 PM   
michaelOfGeorgia


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Status: offline 		has anyone that is into this ever gotten slapped back out of reflex?

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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 12:13:59 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		No, I have never had a sub raise a hand to Me, as they know from the beginning, it is not a forgivable transgression.

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RE: My perception of face slapping is it more of a hard... - 3/6/2007 12:16:09 PM   
michaelOfGeorgia


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Status: offline 		well, i may know that from the start...but my reflex when hit or slapped is to defend

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